Venting Lasik destroyed my eyes, in constant pain and bound to my apartment

[dumed1]

I've been suicidal before, but never registered an account here until now. About a year ago, I came out of a major depression and decided to get lasik. Maybe because I was a bit manic after having overcome depression, I didn't do as much research as I'd normally do about such a serious procedure, and I think I would have never gotten it if I had fully read and understood the risks. But I did get it, and it was great for awhile, but then my eyes suddenly became so dry that I have to constantly put in eye drops (many times per hour) and can't go outside almost at all, or my eyes will dry out. If do go outside or neglect the eyedrops, my eyes will be in pain for days and my vision will permanently deteriorate in weird ways. Worst of all, it doesn't seem like this condition is treatable, or that any doctor even knows what's wrong exactly - all they know is that lasik severed my corneal nerves, and thus my tear glands don't produce tears anymore, or at least tears that are good quality.

I can't do most of the things that make life worth living, except hang out with my girlfriend, who is a saint and hasn't left me (yet). But she wants to go out, and I can't do that. I see myself becoming a bitter, complaining person who is always in pain and can't do basic things. I see myself losing all my friends and my girlfriend. I can see myself losing my job and then my healthcare.

I fear becoming blind and not being able to commit suicide beforehand. I really don't want to be alive if I'm blind. I am 37, I don't know how to be a blind person, and I will not be able to learn how to navigate the world or find community. Who would take care of me? I have no real family. I also really like visual information, and my brain would be moving way too fast for auditory information to keep me engaged. I'd probably end up wishing for death constantly, even more than I already do due to my eye problems. And I've had suicidal thoughts even when my body was healthy!

So, I've decided to start planning to CTB in parallel to getting treatment that will hopefully help me (but is a long shot, as there is no real treatment for this, only management). That way, if my vision deteriorates, I will be able to end my life before I become a blind man with no one around to help him.

In the past, I wanted to use the nitrogen exit bag method, since it seemed to be the most peaceful. But I'm not sure that this is good for my current situation, as a nitrogen tank is too big to hide from others and might be hard to acquire and set up if I'm near-blind (the other stuff, like the exit bag and the regulator/tube is small enough to be kept hidden). Another method I looked at is SN, which can be kept hidden, but it's much less appealing to me, especially since I have to take an anti-emetic and might still puke. Seems not very peaceful, AND the ingredients seem hard to source. I just wish I could buy a firearm, but I live in one of the few jurisdictions in the US where purchasing any gun is illegal without special permission.

 

[Leiden]

Im sorry that this happened to you and all that has followed. I can understand how debilitating it is for you. It's so horrible all the things that can happen to the human body. It's truly terrifying. There should be a peaceful way for the suffering to be able to leave this miserable world. I wish things could have gone better for you.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

That sounds horrifying. I'm sorry you have to go through that.

 

[deadtomorrow]

I can't do most of the things that make life worth living, except hang out with my girlfriend

 

[JenX]

I'm so sorry this happened. Praying the treatment works for you.

 

[dumed1]

It really sucks because I was actually doing much better with regards to my depression. I had gotten a girlfriend for the first time in 5 years, things were going great with her, and I had a large group of friends that I was hanging out with and becoming closer to. I was even considering becoming a parent. For the first time in my life, life was really great. And then this health issue completely destroyed everything. I just wish I could go back in time and never get lasik. It's such a bad idea, even if this hadn't happened to me. It's a really destructive surgical procedure that's completely unnecessary. I was just so insecure about my glasses... and I really wanted to have perfect vision again. Such a waste of a wonderful life.

For those of you who primarily have mental issues, please know that these things can be fixed with medication, lifestyle changes, etc. I too once thought that I would be lonely forever and wouldn't be able to survive without company. And yet, after I got over my last depressive episode, I was able to build a very good life up until 1 month ago. But this is just too much. I can't just sit around in pain watching my vision deteriorate.

My only concern is for my girlfriend. She would be really sad if I killed myself. But, she's already really sad about what's happening to me, can't sleep, is constantly worried, etc. I feel like such a burden to her, and she would be long-term happier if I was gone, I think.

I too thought I would never get a girlfriend, because I am pale and bald and ugly. That's one of the reasons I was so set on getting lasik. But actually my girlfriend had met me before I got lasik and thought I was cute with glasses - I just didn't have the courage to approach her, because my self-esteem was too low.

Don't make the same mistake I made! Appreciate what you have (your health, even if it's not perfect, if you don't have to constantly worry about it that's better off than me), put yourself out there, make friends, make relationships. I know it's not that easy, and it wasn't easy for me. But it's possible. And I believe you can do it.

 

[sanctions]

Hey, fellow dry-eye sufferer here. I had PRK surgery 16 years ago and things were good for about a year. Then my vision started getting worse and I got chronic dry eye disorder. First my eye dr put me on refresh eye drops, which definitely help and I use it daily as needed. I also started eating tuna/salmon daily which helped. The first prescription he put me on was restasis, which did not help. Then he put me on Lotemax, which did help. It was some 4x a day regimen for a week, then 3x a day for a week, 2x for a week, 1x for a week. This helped tremendously. However, Lotemax is supposed to be used in short-term bursts like he prescribed, not on an ongoing basis. However, it is safe for ongoing use and my eye doctor made an exception for me. I've had to experiment with different schedules for taking the drug, and I've incorporated another prescription drug into the mix, xiidra, but my eyes are A LOT better and don't affect me much anymore. Maybe you'll have to experiment around, but my own routine is this:

day 1: lotemax (one drop in each eye) and refresh drops as needed
day 2: refresh drops as needed
day 3: xiidra (one drop in each eye) and refresh drops as needed
day 4: refresh drops as needed
day 5: xiidra (one drop in each eye) and refresh drops as needed
day 6: refresh drops as needed

then back to day 1.

btw I have to throw each lotemax bottle away after 7 uses because after that the effectiveness drastically deteriorates. My doctor has no idea why that happens, but it does.

What eyedrops and/or medications have you tried?

 

[dumed1]

I can't use refresh drops, they don't stay for long enough. I think my dry eye is very severe - my tears evaporate instantly, and I don't have much of them to begin with.

I use optase dry eye intense eye drops, which I have to use several times an hour, every hour. I've tried a bunch of other drops (refresh, systane complete, refresh relieva, retaine mgd, hylo gel, meibo). Meibo works decently well but it makes my vision really blurry, and I need another drop to go underneath meibo. Meibo replaces the oily layer of the tear film that I don't have anymore, and the other drop replaces the aqueous layer which I also don't really have anymore.

I'm on eysuvis, which is like a much more expensive lotemax. It helps with the symptoms, but my eyes are still really dry. And I can't use it for much longer. At that point, I'm pretty sure pain will return.

I'm using cequa eye drops, which make my eye burn, but it doesn't look like they actually DO anything to increase my tear production or the quality of my tears. I'm taking omega3 supplements, but that's not doing anything. I'm trying manuka honey, which stings so much it makes my eyes water, but it's low quality tears that evaporate fast. So, I don't know if it's worth it. But it seems to have anti-inflammatory properties, so maybe it will help?

It seems like whenever I find something that works, even if it's ridiculous like wearing goggles to go outside, my condition gets worse and that no longer works well enough. Now I need fully-sealed goggles in order to go outside, which means they fog up almost instantly and are really unpleasant to wear. Since the outdoors is my happy place, the place that I used to go to escape feelings of depression and suicide, I don't know how much longer I can tolerate my condition. Maybe if I was mentally healthy before this happened, I'd be able to live on with a severely reduced quality of life, and stay positive. But this is just too much, I think.

Still, even with all these symptoms, RIGHT NOW I don't want to die. Maybe it's my girlfriend's support. Maybe it's my friends' support. Maybe it's that I'm curious about what the future will bring (societally and for my friends and family, even if I'm just an observer). Maybe it's because I finally figured out a way to sleep through the night. But I suspect this will wear on me, especially since it's hard for me to go outside and get exercise. I guess if I died right now I wouldn't be too disappointed, but I'm not at a point where I definitely want to die.

I'll be making exit bags later today because it makes me feel better knowing there's a way out from dealing with this pain.

 

[sovcat]

I'm sorry for what you're going through man. This caught my attention because it's not the first time I've heard of this dry-eye after-effect post-lasik. I really hope this issue grows in attention because everyone goes into the operation without much concern and that's scary to think about.

I hope you find a way to manage before CTB and I hope the medical community figures out wtf is going on before more people are affected.

 

[b_adr]

The same for me. I was in a very good place for a long time. But 7-8 months ago I got a medical/aesthetic issue that is not possible to reverse. Moreover, the company whose product was at fault, will not bear any consequences. I am so angry at them that sometimes it even exceeds my depression.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I had lasik 21 years ago when I was 18 and the same thing happened to me. It's been shitty and I wish I'd stuck with contacts. Dry eye sounds so innocuous until you have a severe case of it. Have you tried punctal plugs or autologous serum eyedrops? These things didn't help me much but they help some. There's a doctor in Boston named Dr. Hamrah who deals with people who have been damaged by lasik. He can look at your corneal nerves with a special microscope to see whats going on, and prescribe a protocol of eyedrops to encourage the nerves to grow back. I don't know if you're anywhere close to there.

If you just got lasik, the dry eye situation may get better over time. Sometimes it takes the nerves a long ass time to heal.

 

[dumed1]

I am somewhat close to Boston. But it will be a huge ordeal for me to go there, since it's hard for me to go outside. It seems he helps corneal neuralgia, which I don't think I have, because I have no pain if I keep my eyes moist (a hard problem).

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I am somewhat close to Boston. But it will be a huge ordeal for me to go there, since it's hard for me to go outside. It seems he helps corneal neuralgia, which I don't think I have, because I have no pain if I keep my eyes moist (a hard problem).

Dry eyes can be a symptom of cornea neuralgia. If your nerves were severed and aren't communicating with you tear glands then they didn't regenerate properly. Treatment for cornea neuralgia may help fix those nerves.

Just something to think about.

 

[dumed1]

The earliest appointment he has available is next year. Not sure if I can last that long...

 

[sanctions]

how many times per day do you take eysuvis? And yes, you're very likely right that the pain will return/worsen if you stop taking it. why can't you keep taking it? your condition is so severe you need a corticosteroid like eysuvis (or stronger) to manage this. my understanding is eysuvis can be taken daily indefinitely as long as your eye dr checks you regulary to make sure the drug isn't increasing your eye pressure levels.

 

[Raindancer]

I am really sorry that happened to you. I can relate a bit as I had a clogged ear and thinking it ear wax, I used an ear drop and immediately got tinnitus, bad. The doctor said impossible, but it happened immediately after I put the drops in. I would give anything to hear silence again. It is amazing how much we take for granted, and it's hard to let go of the regret if I just hadn't done it. Maybe you can get on the cancellation list for the doctor that was recommended.

 

[needthebus]

I've been suicidal before, but never registered an account here until now. About a year ago, I came out of a major depression and decided to get lasik. Maybe because I was a bit manic after having overcome depression, I didn't do as much research as I'd normally do about such a serious procedure, and I think I would have never gotten it if I had fully read and understood the risks. But I did get it, and it was great for awhile, but then my eyes suddenly became so dry that I have to constantly put in eye drops (many times per hour) and can't go outside almost at all, or my eyes will dry out. If do go outside or neglect the eyedrops, my eyes will be in pain for days and my vision will permanently deteriorate in weird ways. Worst of all, it doesn't seem like this condition is treatable, or that any doctor even knows what's wrong exactly - all they know is that lasik severed my corneal nerves, and thus my tear glands don't produce tears anymore, or at least tears that are good quality.

I can't do most of the things that make life worth living, except hang out with my girlfriend, who is a saint and hasn't left me (yet). But she wants to go out, and I can't do that. I see myself becoming a bitter, complaining person who is always in pain and can't do basic things. I see myself losing all my friends and my girlfriend. I can see myself losing my job and then my healthcare.

I fear becoming blind and not being able to commit suicide beforehand. I really don't want to be alive if I'm blind. I am 37, I don't know how to be a blind person, and I will not be able to learn how to navigate the world or find community. Who would take care of me? I have no real family. I also really like visual information, and my brain would be moving way too fast for auditory information to keep me engaged. I'd probably end up wishing for death constantly, even more than I already do due to my eye problems. And I've had suicidal thoughts even when my body was healthy!

So, I've decided to start planning to CTB in parallel to getting treatment that will hopefully help me (but is a long shot, as there is no real treatment for this, only management). That way, if my vision deteriorates, I will be able to end my life before I become a blind man with no one around to help him.

In the past, I wanted to use the nitrogen exit bag method, since it seemed to be the most peaceful. But I'm not sure that this is good for my current situation, as a nitrogen tank is too big to hide from others and might be hard to acquire and set up if I'm near-blind (the other stuff, like the exit bag and the regulator/tube is small enough to be kept hidden). Another method I looked at is SN, which can be kept hidden, but it's much less appealing to me, especially since I have to take an anti-emetic and might still puke. Seems not very peaceful, AND the ingredients seem hard to source. I just wish I could buy a firearm, but I live in one of the few jurisdictions in the US where purchasing any gun is illegal without special permission.

I am so so so sorry this happened to you

Lasik goimg wrong is such an horrible thing. Ive never experienced it, but there was a female weather forcaster who got lasik and it didnt go well and it sounded like absolute hell

If it goes well, it's great. If there are complucations it's an unending nightmare.

I wish i could give you a hug. I have nothing helpful to say about what you should or shouldn't do, just that im so sorry the world is so hard sometimes.

I wish people who were getting lasik were warned more clearly that the rare side effects are so terrible when they occur.


I know what you have written is all true and your pain is real and anyone in your situation would feel this way.

 

[dumed1]

how many times per day do you take eysuvis? And yes, you're very likely right that the pain will return/worsen if you stop taking it. why can't you keep taking it? your condition is so severe you need a corticosteroid like eysuvis (or stronger) to manage this. my understanding is eysuvis can be taken daily indefinitely as long as your eye dr checks you regulary to make sure the drug isn't increasing your eye pressure levels.

I currently take it twice a day. Even with the eysuvis, I have to put in drops every 30 minutes or so to avoid pain. My eyes don't seem to produce much of their own tears, but I am going to a doctor soon who will confirm or deny this. I got some moisture chamber glasses that I can use to go outside, but they fog up (that's the point of them), and I still have to put in drops all the time, maybe even more frequently than every 30 minutes. My vision keeps getting worse, I'll need glasses again, but I'd need a new prescription every week. This doesn't feel like a life worth living, to me.

Looking at a computer is tough, looking at my phone is tough. Without anything to distract me, I am alone with my thoughts, and my thoughts have always been terrible. I've been suicidal before even when my life was objectively great, and now it's objectively horrible.

I want to commit suicide. But then when I envision putting the exit bag or gas mask over my head, turning on the nitrogen tank, and falling asleep forever... I feel disgusted, and I want to live. But my life is also excruciating and boring and hard and painful and full of guilt, so I want to die. And on and on it goes...

I talked with my girlfriend about thoughts of suicide and now SHE can't sleep and is very worried. She told me she would kill herself if I killed myself, or that she would be traumatized for years. This is horrible, she might be right. I feel like a huge burden to her and that she would be much better off if I died, but maybe my suicide would make her life even worse than it is now. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place.

Even with all of this, there are some brief moments in life that are still enjoyable, like cuddling with the girlfriend, cooking a meal together, watching a movie (although this is becoming harder as my vision is getting worse). But I can feel the depression moving in, taking away joy from everything. And when it's fully taken over my mind, I don't know if I can continue living. I just don't think I'm resilient enough to handle something like this. I always thought that I would die from suicide once I developed a serious medical condition that made life much harder, I just didn't think it would happen in my late 30s.