Just random thoughts for people who want to recover

[chillino]

-quit the internet
-go outside
-find a purpose
-do anything
-move your body
-be kind(to yourself and others)
-be open to opportuinities
-and dont put to much pressure on yourself (it doesnt work)

 

[rururiruru]

good advice, already done that, several times,
but the moment you back home, the darkness is coming back

 

[chillino]

Are you still living with your parents or is there a bad influence? Maybe change something in your home? Maybe change home
Move in with good people. Find something to nurture your soul but also give back if possible.
And eat healthy. Your body needs diversity
And quit this page.
Dont talk about your problems all the time. Find the good in your situation.
Find a way to make it work. And dont give up. You've got this.

 

[nayomi]

tried multiple times and didnt worked.
doest help in some ways

 

[chillino]

Ofc it doesn't make everything perfect, you have to do it everyday, give your best. The best you have. And forgive yourself.
Jeah I just hope you all dont give up :) and maybe dance for 60 seconds everyday

 

[hughmun9]

I like the idea of keeping it simple. Maybe it's the overthinking that keeps me trapped.

Dancing for 60 seconds every day though... not sure that'll cure me

 

[ladybird jones drew]

-quit the internet
-go outside
-find a purpose
-do anything
-move your body
-be kind(to yourself and others)
-be open to opportuinities
-and dont put to much pressure on yourself (it doesnt work)

My intention isn't to nitpick or over-scrutinize you list so please take this with a grain of salt. I find that a few of your points (while important and good advice) are maybe easier said than done.

I was wondering if you practice this advice in your own life and experienced some of those hurdles or if these are more like ideals that you aspire to.

For example, phones and the internet are largely part of modern life for most people. Buying things, find addresses/directions, staying in touch with friends/family, entertainment in some capacity (movies, tv, youtube). I'm not sure that just quitting the internet is realistic anymore. Have you managed to remove the internet from a significant portion of your life?

I would love to find a purpose but that is not exactly a bullet point that can simply be checked off. Have you found a purpose that you're happy living with currently? I'm genuinely curious if you conducted an exercise, if it landed in your lap one day, if you sort of inherited it from a friend, job, passion, opportunity....
I have a few causes/interests/meaningful pursuits that I have considered committing more time to. It's just so hard to make those kinds of adjustments - disrupting the current balance, cutting out a current commitment in favour of another one. My work schedule, relationships, dog, outdoor time and physical activity leave little room for anything else. There is a significant mental hurdle in compromising those to commit time to something that may/may not give way to purpose. It feels like a huge boat to rock (even though in reality it's a small-ish boat and people in general tend to be pretty tolerant of rocking).

I'm not trying to be critical - I really appreciate your post. It does a great job of emphasizing action over inaction and being intentional with one's time and actions. I'm curious about your experience implementing them in your life and if you have more thoughts about it.

 

[crimsonpeaked]

Can anybody tell me what to do when no matter what, you cannot hold down a job? No matter what, you cannot make "real" friends? No matter what, you're unable to get your life moving at 30?

 

[never mind me]

Can anybody tell me what to do when no matter what, you cannot hold down a job? No matter what, you cannot make "real" friends? No matter what, you're unable to get your life moving at 30?

What is keeping you from holding down a job? Do you lose motivation and simply not turn up anymore? Or do you just get shitty temporary jobs?
And what's your problem making friends? Don't you meet other people or is it hard for you to do small talk or don't you dare to ask people to hang out with you?

I'd second the "move your body" part from OP. Being physically active and doing sports has always been helpful for me, no matter what the reason for my distress. It is certainly nothing that will magically fix your issues, but it can help to at least have some distraction from a bad mood and feel a bit better temporarily. If you find the right sport that you really like, getting better at it can actually give you a sort of purpose and depending on the sport it can also help in getting to know people and become friends with them.

I don't think that you necessarily need to find a purpose to get better (although it can help), but it may be enough to find things you enjoy in life, things you still want to experience that create a reason to continue living. For me this happened when I worked and travelled overseas for the first time after high school. Travelling just made me so happy that I decided I want to travel as much as I possibly can. Although I still had periods of intense distress later on, it became a lot easier for me to continue living instead of ctb, because I had something to live for. And it doesn't have to be one big thing that is important in life or gives you purpose, it can also be multiple smaller things.

 

[crimsonpeaked]

I cannot afford to travel. I struggle to get moving, but I do go for walks. Sports is (and always has been) out of the question. I make friendquaintences but am HORRIBLE with people skills, have zero ability to emote longer than half an hour I get very closed off and reserved. I'm a freak. Do I go get bad jobs? Sure I do! Because I have no other option. They always work you to death and treat you like shit. Would things be easier if I had a vehicle? Yes, Absolutely... But many of us cannot afford the luxury of one. Hope is lost upon me. I'm a freaking p.o.s. loser and I hope I die.