“Just get a knife”

[tchaik18401893]

My brother abuses me. He tells me I should "Just get a knife, already". He hits me, but not hard enough to cause bruises. he is mentally degrading. He tells me I'm pathetic and no one loves me. He says I don't have friends because of how awful I am. He calls me disgusting every time I'm caught eating a meal, and this is especially hard because I have an eating disorder. He acts kind to his friends, he acts funny, but then as soon as we get home he whines and yells at me. He is just…so.. so… loud… I can hardly think.

 

[wait.what]

Ugh. I lived with an abusive sib for a while. It's hell.

 

[tchaik18401893]

Ugh. I lived with an abusive sib for a while. It's hell.

I invalidate myself because I think, he's my brother, he's supposed to hit me, that's normal. i think i am overreacting. my mom knows, and she is abused by him too, but she doesnt do anything about it. threatened to call police once but never went through with it.

 

[my-end]

I think we need to know how old you are.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I invalidate myself because I think, he's my brother, he's supposed to hit me, that's normal. i think i am overreacting. my mom knows, and she is abused by him too, but she doesnt do anything about it. threatened to call police once but never went through with it.

Siblings physically fighting on occasion is somewhat normal, your brother constantly abusing you and your mother is not. I'm sorry this is happening.

 

[Krieger]

Jesus, bro! Can you move away?

 

[Forever Sleep]

Do you think he might be a Narcissist? Might be worth looking on YouTube- The Crappy Childhood Fairy covers a lot of CPTSD issues. It won't exactly help your situation but it might make you feel more validated.

As others have said though- when do you think you'll be in a position to move out? It does definitely seem like you need to get away from him.

I'm so sorry. I grew up having problems with a sibling. They were also the reason I first thought about taking my own life. I REALLY hope you can get yourself out of the situation. I don't know your age but is moving away for university an option? That's how I 'escaped.' I wish you luck.

 

[wait.what]

Child siblings hit each other. Young adult sibs sometimes horse around, but it's normally a kind of play or a rough show of affection. It's not supposed to be bullying or torment. If you're old enough to live on your own, you're supposed to be able to get what you want without pummeling other people. Making sure you get your own way by beating up your brother or sister is not normal behavior for adults.

 

[tchaik18401893]

Do you think he might be a Narcissist? Might be worth looking on YouTube- The Crappy Childhood Fairy covers a lot of CPTSD issues. It won't exactly help your situation but it might make you feel more validated.

As others have said though- when do you think you'll be in a position to move out? It does definitely seem like you need to get away from him.

I'm so sorry. I grew up having problems with a sibling. They were also the reason I first thought about taking my own life. I REALLY hope you can get yourself out of the situation. I don't know your age but is moving away for university an option? That's how I 'escaped.' I wish you luck.

i hope be able to leave for quite a while because my mom is sick and i am the only one taking care of her. He lives here because he he doesnt want to get a fucking job.

 

[FuneralCry]

That sounds really horrific what you have to go through. I believe it to be true that humans are responsible for so much of the suffering that sadly exists in this world and it's just so awful how some people create so much harm and make the lives of others much worse. I hope that in whatever happens you are able to get out of that situation.

 

[wait.what]

i hope be able to leave for quite a while because my mom is sick and i am the only one taking care of her. He lives here because he he doesnt want to get a fucking job.

I'm not sure from what you've said if the house is your mother's or yours, but either way, you shouldn't be forced to flee your own home because some asshole has plopped himself down there and refuses to leave.

Any chance your brother is interfering with government payments either you or your mother might be receiving? Local police sometimes snore their way through domestic violence complaints, but central government agencies do not like to be ripped off. You probably can't put your bro in jail unless he's actually stealing checks and forging signatures, but you and/or your mom can ask to have a non-family representative payee set up to control your money. I had to do this, and while it's a huge pain in the ass logistically and it's not even free (I pay like $50 a month for the privilege of not having the right to a final say over disposition of my funds), at least I'm not getting strong-arm "requests" for my money all the time anymore. I only ever faced manipulation and verbal abuse, which are difficult to get people to take seriously, but if your brother is committing violent acts that can be recorded, or at least documented (red marks count even if they don't turn black and blue), then a payee is absolutely going to want to get that looked into ASAP. Preventing de facto muggings of old and disabled people is a main reason why they exist.