This is a modified quote from the 2017 film: 'Finding Your Feet.'
It really struck a chord with me. How about you? It's mainly been social anxiety, the experience and consequent fear of being hurt or fear of failure and humiliation, poor (but realistically bad) body image that's held me back from doing things. Plus, the fear of a (suspected) narcissist in childhood that focussed me on hiding away and feeling more comfortable alone in the first place.
Can you trace the things that held you back in life? Have they become too big or seemingly impossible to get over now? Do you think you'll still try? Do you ever find yourself looking at other (seemingly) carefree people and wonder what it's like to live like that? That's not to say they are necessarily carefree. Maybe they're struggling underneath. I expect we all have our own issues/ weaknesses.
That phrase hit home for me though. It's sort of tragic that people do live their lives restrained by fear, distrust, self doubt, self hatred etc.
But then, I suppose we also have to ask- What do I really want? Would those castles in the sky dreams actually make me happy? Would they be worth the effort? Is the reality even that good or, is it just a fairytale belief that life even could be that good?
I'm at the stage where I add a cynical lense to a lot of things. I'd like to swim in a river or lake for instance but then, it would likely be icy cold. There's likely to be all manner of nasties lurking in there. I'm so embarassed of my body. I'm so unfit. I suspect the experience could turn out to be horrible!
My major career dream similarly looks like it could be awful at the higher levels. Plus, the discomfort I'd need to go through to reach all that would likely make the whole experience unpleasant. Surely, the journey needs to be tolerable at the least.
Finding a partner is an old and unwanted wish now but, there's no way I'd put myself through (likely multiple) rejections to find them or, want to live with the risk of losing them. In many ways, it's been nicer to just let go of my dreams in life. My life has less drama without them certainly.
I'm reminded of another quote from: 'The 10th Kingdom' series in which one character is speaking to another about mistrusting everyone: 'You may not get hurt but... you won't get loved either.' I think that's also true of my life. I got to a stage where so many of the people I loved deeply had either died or, moved away that I made the decision that friendship and relationships and people themselves couldn't be fully trusted. Sometimes I feel sad thinking what I may have deprived myself from. But then, I tend to reassure myself thinking about all the hurt I likely spared myself too. Plus, I'm lucky to feel comfortable being alone.
What are your experiences?
It really struck a chord with me. How about you? It's mainly been social anxiety, the experience and consequent fear of being hurt or fear of failure and humiliation, poor (but realistically bad) body image that's held me back from doing things. Plus, the fear of a (suspected) narcissist in childhood that focussed me on hiding away and feeling more comfortable alone in the first place.
Can you trace the things that held you back in life? Have they become too big or seemingly impossible to get over now? Do you think you'll still try? Do you ever find yourself looking at other (seemingly) carefree people and wonder what it's like to live like that? That's not to say they are necessarily carefree. Maybe they're struggling underneath. I expect we all have our own issues/ weaknesses.
That phrase hit home for me though. It's sort of tragic that people do live their lives restrained by fear, distrust, self doubt, self hatred etc.
But then, I suppose we also have to ask- What do I really want? Would those castles in the sky dreams actually make me happy? Would they be worth the effort? Is the reality even that good or, is it just a fairytale belief that life even could be that good?
I'm at the stage where I add a cynical lense to a lot of things. I'd like to swim in a river or lake for instance but then, it would likely be icy cold. There's likely to be all manner of nasties lurking in there. I'm so embarassed of my body. I'm so unfit. I suspect the experience could turn out to be horrible!
My major career dream similarly looks like it could be awful at the higher levels. Plus, the discomfort I'd need to go through to reach all that would likely make the whole experience unpleasant. Surely, the journey needs to be tolerable at the least.
Finding a partner is an old and unwanted wish now but, there's no way I'd put myself through (likely multiple) rejections to find them or, want to live with the risk of losing them. In many ways, it's been nicer to just let go of my dreams in life. My life has less drama without them certainly.
I'm reminded of another quote from: 'The 10th Kingdom' series in which one character is speaking to another about mistrusting everyone: 'You may not get hurt but... you won't get loved either.' I think that's also true of my life. I got to a stage where so many of the people I loved deeply had either died or, moved away that I made the decision that friendship and relationships and people themselves couldn't be fully trusted. Sometimes I feel sad thinking what I may have deprived myself from. But then, I tend to reassure myself thinking about all the hurt I likely spared myself too. Plus, I'm lucky to feel comfortable being alone.
What are your experiences?
