"It gets better"

[copioushopelessness]

There's this guy on facebook who really irritates me. He says he lost his father and wife to suicide. Honestly it seems like he's using his wife's suicide for clout. I don't know, he just bothers me. One other commenter seemed to notice it, the way he acts when he shares her suicide note. Anyway, in general, people saying "it gets better" bothers me, like, sometimes it doesn't get better.

 

[kitkat9234]

I think I've seen some of his reels. Did he attempt as well?

And I agree. Things havent gotten better in the past three years… only worse. I don't know how much more I can take

 

[dontwakemeup]

I hate when people offer the false promises that it will get better! It doesn't always get better! The reality is sometimes it's pure hell staying here! I always wish my attempts had worked and I could saved myself from the hell I'm in. I never heard of this guy but he sounds like a liar! He probably doesn't buy the stuff he's saying and I wouldn't be shocked if he's a dedicated member on this site right now

 

[copioushopelessness]

I think I've seen some of his reels. Did he attempt as well?

And I agree. Things havent gotten better in the past three years… only worse. I don't know how much more I can take

Yeah, I think so, says he was an addict. He bugs me.
I'm sorry. It's a weird time to be alive. I'm not sure how much more I can take either. I'd give anything to go back in time. I know I'd tell the person who ruined my life to fuck off a lot sooner.

 

[birthdayboy]

"It gets better" is one of my biggest pet peeves. It's survivorship bias. It's never gotten better for me. I'm that same hurt child I've always been, only older. Most of my peers didn't make it this far, and I'm only still here because of analysis paralysis .

 

[kitkat9234]

Yeah, I think so, says he was an addict. He bugs me.
I'm sorry. It's a weird time to be alive. I'm not sure how much more I can take either. I'd give anything to go back in time. I know I'd tell the person who ruined my life to fuck off a lot sooner.

I wish I could go back too. Except I'm the one that ruined my life and my daughters. I fucking hate myself. She deserves better.

 

[copioushopelessness]

I hate when people offer the false promises that it will get better! It doesn't always get better! The reality is sometimes it's pure hell staying here! I always wish my attempts had worked and I could saved myself from the hell I'm in. I never heard of this guy but he sounds like a liar! He probably doesn't buy the stuff he's saying and I wouldn't be shocked if he's a dedicated member on this site right now

I wish I hadn't tossed the shit that would've made this go away quickly... I hate that shit too. I don't think they actually care about anyone, it's just what they want to believe themselves. Most people don't want to admit to themselves that things get worse.
I was watching the emmys, and every single speech mentioned this timeline a "dark time" it was weird. The news has been using that phrase too.

"It gets better" is one of my biggest pet peeves. It's survivorship bias. It's never gotten better for me. I'm that same hurt child I've always been, only older. Most of my peers didn't make it this far, and I'm only still here because of analysis paralysis .

Same. At least as a child I daydreamed and had some hope but I pretty much knew shit would get worse. Seriously though, fuck anyone who says that. Makes me want to ask them what they think will get better. Has anyone on their deathbed been like it gets better, if so they meant the sweet release of death.

I wish I could go back too. Except I'm the one that ruined my life and my daughters. I fucking hate myself. She deserves better.

I feel the same. I'm sorry.

I wish I could go back too. Except I'm the one that ruined my life and my daughters. I fucking hate myself. She deserves better.

A truly terrible parent doesn't even consider that they fucked up. You have a heart.

"It gets better" is one of my biggest pet peeves. It's survivorship bias. It's never gotten better for me. I'm that same hurt child I've always been, only older. Most of my peers didn't make it this far, and I'm only still here because of analysis paralysis .

It's not just the guy sharing the reels, it's many people in the comments. I commented something along the lines of it doesn't always get better, some woman replied "it does get better ❤" of course on her profile there was a picture of one of her loved ones captioned "no more pain and suffering"
Also the asshole I've wasted years talking to has been full of toxic positivity, saying at least he knows how to be happy, only to find out he's truly miserable and just wanted to make me feel like shit for admitting I feel like shit.
The parents of my best friend who passed away keeps saying things HAVE to get better. I shut my mouth, because, hello you lost your fucking son how does it get better?
Went to the cardiologist to get a heart monitor and she tells me her life fucking story then tells me oh you're young it will get better (I'm middle aged). I have five fucking specialists for my condition and a broken heart but the picture of your horse is inspiring. I have a progressive disease and even the doctors can't be honest. I've only had two doctors be honest with me. One said "you have a tough road ahead" the other said "there's nothing more we can do for you" but the rest of the doctors I've seen just want me to believe their medications will help something with no cure. Rant over..

 

[Tobacco]

I had a mental breakdown that started back in 2019 and since then I've learned that we aren't entitled by the universe to have our dreams come true and that there's no way someone can say "It will get better" with absolute certainty. That's why I also became pro choice regarding ctb.

 

[zizzou]

I had a mental breakdown that started back in 2019 and since then I've learned that we aren't entitled by the universe to have our dreams come true and that there's no way someone can say "It will get better" with absolute certainty. That's why I also became pro choice regarding ctb.

You try so hard, do the things they've been telling you to do, only for the floor to get pulled out from you with one mistake.

 

[Off_Switch]

I do llike his video where he says that one of the tops signs that someone is about to commit suicide is that they act very happy all of a sudden. Because they know they will be free soon. I've been more happy lately.

 

[WeepingWorm]

True, it never gets better, it had only gotten much worse. The unfortunate thing is that it will get seriously worse soon, with life or death problems, in about 15 years give or take. Knowing that, only solution is to change your perspective and give yourself some joy and celebration of your own. Nobody will do it for you. There are no good news.

 

[copioushopelessness]

I do llike his video where he says that one of the tops signs that someone is about to commit suicide is that they act very happy all of a sudden. Because they know they will be free soon. I've been more happy lately.

I could relate to that if I wasn't on a dopamine and serotonin blocker. If I had a quick reliable method I'd be elated.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I just feel like there are chunks of information missing from the phrase. I wish it were: 'Things might get better if you put in a lot of work.' I find it unlikely that everything gets better on its own. I suppose time passing can help reduce the intensity of hurt but even then- it's likely people who recover made the effort to move on/ confronted the things that troubled them/ made significant changes in their life. But even then, it may still not work out. It's unrealistic to think it will automatically get better if you put the work in. I suppose without believing that though, we may not try at all. There's also of course the possibility that even worse things await in our future, although, that could be overly pessimistic.

I suppose I get it in a way. There can be an excitement to feeling you have moved beyond a very negative period. Perhaps it's actually generosity and compassion that then makes a person want others to be able to do the same. But, maybe they forget just how bad it was to be in the midst of that depression and how irritating/ unrealistic it can be to hear stuff like that.

I do also definitely feel that you need a strong will/ determination for life affirming things to follow paths that may lead to life improving. Because- they are often difficult paths involving a lot of challenge and overcoming fears. The horrible vicious circle I think going on with things like depression means that people don't have the energy to fight. And, when they don't- they do nothing- which makes them genuinely physically weaker- and so on.