jodes2
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- Aug 28, 2022
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catflowers
Experienced
- Jul 31, 2022
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VirtualSnow
who knows
- May 21, 2022
- 110
Absolutely not, you're not having anything sex-related with anyone outside your relationship, at the end of the day, porn is just another form of entertainment, I guess.
lofticries
obedear
- Feb 27, 2021
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I don't count it as cheating unless said person is currently contacting the person he's getting off to.
theboy
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WhatPowerIs
Paragon
- Jun 19, 2022
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I can see why a partner might be upset. But it's not cheating.
socrates
I know nothing except the fact of my ignorance.
- Dec 3, 2019
- 275
It depends on the relationship and your definition of "cheating". If your partner thinks it's cheating then it's cheating. I don't personally agree with that, but it's not my relationship
Think about it like this, is cheating on your partner the same as watching porn?
Which would you rather be caught doing?
Which would you rather be caught doing?
Poor Stargazer
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- Mar 31, 2022
- 85
Honestly, that's a big difference than just watching porn. Like if you rub one out before a shower in the privacy of your bathroom that's one thing. If your idea of Netflix and chill is pornhub and chill, that's a whole other issue.
Because your wants mean absolutely nothing, right?
One of my good friends does porn. Just because I watch her stuff (that she actually asks me to watch - not like a creepy behind her back deal) doesn't mean I'm sleeping with her.
No, just because someone thinks it's cheating doesn't make it cheating. What if the OP was addicted to hentai? Are you going to consider it cheating if you're jerking off to a cartoon? That's the same as saying its cheating to make small talk with a cashier or waitress or go to lunch with a colleague.
It might depend on what you're watching haha.
I admit, I have been tempted to lick my phone, but I never have ;)
broken_songbird
Member
- Aug 27, 2022
- 65
**Please forgive the following heteronormity. I'm a straight cis woman and only talking about my personal experience.
Depends on the people and the relationship. I personally don't consider it cheating. I watch porn and I expect that any dude I date does too. In fact, it can be fun to watch it together if both of you find it enjoyable. But it has been my experience that most dudes get weird about admitting to watching porn, whether we're dating or just friends. What I've been told is that it's because chicks are weird about them watching porn and it can feel like a trap when a girl they're dating brings it up. I think that's dumb because I enjoy both porn and honest relationships.
catflowers
Experienced
- Jul 31, 2022
- 225
I disagree if you are jerking off for yourself in the relationship and ignoring your gf's wishes it is a sign of disrespect
Whoa, so someone can tell me not to jerk off. What kind of sadist are you? If anyone ever tried to exact that control over my life, I would tell them to fuck off. No one has the right to control you in such a manner. That's not only disrespectful, it's downright abusive.
It's definitely not cheating! I had a boyfriend who revealed to me before I relocated with him that he had a porn addiction, was going to strip clubs instead of going to the gym, and masturbated in his car. It was an addiction that he had for years.
Although at the time I felt like it was about me not being good enough, and I was devastated, I never thought of it as cheating. He hadn't been with prostitutes (thank goodness), but I wouldn't have thought of that as cheating either.
He got help and I moved with him. He was one of the nicest guys I've ever known.
My own very checkered past definitely dictated how I viewed things.
Although at the time I felt like it was about me not being good enough, and I was devastated, I never thought of it as cheating. He hadn't been with prostitutes (thank goodness), but I wouldn't have thought of that as cheating either.
He got help and I moved with him. He was one of the nicest guys I've ever known.
My own very checkered past definitely dictated how I viewed things.
jodes2
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Sorry it devastated you. I suppose it must bring feelings of worthlessness like you can't compete with the models in the porn?
Thanks. I eventually realized it wasn't about me. Do you believe that your addiction has anything to do with your girlfriend?
I learned that sex addictions of any type have everything to do with how the addict feels about themselves. For my boyfriend, it came from the complete absence of affection in his family.
I'm really sorry this addiction is interfering with your life. xx
jodes2
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My gf never initiates sex and we've been fighting a lot which hasn't helped my sex drive with her. She's also stopped wearing makeup or getting dressed up or going out with me so it can feel like there's a big gap that needs filling
lofticries
obedear
- Feb 27, 2021
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I mean if said person tries to have a girlfriend/wife experiance with the porn star. Basically blurring the lines between entertainer and viewer. Trying to know this person on a personal level.
But then again it depends on the relationship. Op asked a question and ppl of course are gonna have different opinions what cheating is.
How long have you been together? Aside from the porn addiction, do you think you have a general addiction to sex, or no?
Well, I know that girl I mentioned on a very personal level ;)
And, believe it or not, if you have the money, certain adult stars do escort as well. You're welcome: https://www.tonightsgirlfriend.com/pornstars
jodes2
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We've been together almost 10 years. I don't have an addition to sex, my sex drive is actually quite low which is half the problem, because porn is easier than having sex
Poor Stargazer
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- Mar 31, 2022
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Someone told me that depressed people watch more porn and masterbate more often in order to replace the dopamine and seratonin that we lack with an orgasm. Orgasms release this. Im drunk. I think this is backed up by science or whatnot
jodes2
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Poor Stargazer
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Me too man. But its not your responsibility to explain it to her. Im no one to give relationship advice but fk a lot of anyone telling me i cant punch the clown. I wish you the best though. Maybe quote her some science? All of the best my friend
That makes a lot of sense, actually.
Was it always like that, or do you think your relationship has run its course. That's a long-term relationship, way longer than I could ever stand to have.
hamvil
Wizard
- Aug 29, 2022
- 652
I do not think so. I used to watch some porn with a previous gf. She was not that much into it, but liked some lesbian action. I told her that I use to watch porn and she did not seems upset.
The main issue with porn is that you develop some from of numbness and you always go looking for more extreme stuff. At least this is what happens to me. As of now I would not share my porn preferences with anybody.
The main issue with porn is that you develop some from of numbness and you always go looking for more extreme stuff. At least this is what happens to me. As of now I would not share my porn preferences with anybody.
Teddybear
Specialist
- Nov 20, 2021
- 335
One of my exes - which were all copycat versions of my bitch crazy mommie dearest - insisted that just me *thinking* about other women was already cheating and unforgivable.
Been there, done that, got fucked up.
Yeah, porn does "fuck you up".
Been there, done that, got fucked up.
hamvil
Wizard
- Aug 29, 2022
- 652
Well then I cheated so many times LOL. Women can be pretty unsure of themselves.
LOLYeah, porn does "fuck you up".
Been there, done that, got fucked up.
Teddybear
Specialist
- Nov 20, 2021
- 335
The real question is why are you even asking this? Are you trying to get the thrills without actually cheating?`
People mostly cheat because its exciting to "break rules". These people never got over the childhood phase where they must do everything opposite to what they are told. "Don't touch the stove"->touches the stove "MOMMYY IT BURNS WHY DID YOU SAY DONT TOUCH THE STOVE"
