Also, in terms of "safe": this is a diverse place. OPs can expect responses to be reasonably respectful & helpful. So blatantly anti-lesbian opinions have no place in your thread
But the same goes for other OPs. An incel talking about being rejected doesn't have to answer for the Misogyny of the World; and a trans person talking about HRT doesn't have to answer for Ending Western Civlization. (After all, incels started SaSu & a trans woman admins it)
Regarding your post's content... maybe you'd find this amusing... I learnt very quickly not to call myself non-binary, or agender. :P Gender strikes me as an odd infrastructure to base so much of society on. And yet, and I'm punished if I don't choose the right side. So I have some affinity with
gender capitalism, in the sense that I see gender as a game where I discover
strategies/tactics
So for example, I might do feminine nurturing in the style of masculine daring. Like, to help bounce someone out of an anxiety spiral, I might act a bit Trumpian