Discussion Is “think of your family” for ctb is the same as “think of the baby” for abortion?

[lmon]

Hi, I was wondering if when people say to think about your family, if it's similar to think about the baby bc it's asking you to think about someone besides yourself, the person with the issue.

In other words can you guys please tell me how to not think about how my family will react? I keep imagining their screams in my head, especially my moms and it's torturing me. I don't want to think about this but it's like the #1 think I think of when I think I can't do it. all I wanted was for my family to be happy. Do to unforeseen events I must one day ctb. I wish I could take a pill to not feel bad feelings, even if there isn't a pill to make me feel good feelings

 

[LivideLamb]

Both sound like extreme guilt tripping.

I wish I could take a pill to not feel bad feelings

Having those feelings is what makes us human (unfortunately). They're harsh, sad, and hard to cope with. I wish I could simply answer with: when you're dead, you're dead, you won't hear their screams or their cries. But I really think that it's not that simple. Dying (ctb or not) will happen and people WILL be sad. I guess, writing a suicide note could help them cope with their loss, but I don't think that it helps them to be less sad, I think it's helps them to question it less ; it answers some major questions.

Wishing you the best and sunny days ahead.

 

[lmon]

Both sound like extreme guilt tripping.

Having those feelings is what makes us human (unfortunately). They're harsh, sad, and hard to cope with. I wish I could simply answer with: when you're dead, you're dead, you won't hear their screams or their cries. But I really think that it's not that simple. Dying (ctb or not) will happen and people WILL be sad. I guess, writing a suicide note could help them cope with their loss, but I don't think that it helps them to be less sad, I think it's helps them to question it less ; it answers some major questions.

Wishing you the best and sunny days ahead.

Another reason euthanasia should be legal, so they could at least be at my side, I wish that so much , only as long as they would be ok with it in this magical hypothetical where it's legal

Thank you for your input and well wished lividelamb. That's what I try to tell myself, that I won't hear them. Sigh*

 

[LivideLamb]

Another reason euthanasia should be legal, so they could at least be at my side, I wish that so much , only as long as they would be ok with it in this magical hypothetical where it's legal

Thank you for your input and well wished lividelamb. That's what I try to tell myself, that I won't hear them. Sigh*

No problem!
I know it's hard and it's saddening. As you said, even if euthanasia is legal, most people will be very uncomfortable with the concept. Most people who go through the euthanasia process are either old or terminally ill. And people, theoretically speaking, cope in an easier way. When old people go through the process, we cope with the fact that they're old and would have died soon, we are more okay with euthanasia because they die in peace, they don't suffer. The same thing for the terminally ill, they die peacefully and calmly as well.

 

[FuneralCry]

The way that I see it, in this life death and loss are inevitable. We will all die one day eventually and we will lose everything. Of course people will be sad, but life itself is very depressing after all. As long as you are still alive, you cannot escape from pain. I do agree that euthanasia should be legal as that will give those left behind time to come to terms with the persons decision before they are gone. It is cruel how people are denied the option of a reliable, peaceful way to exit at a time of their own choosing. People should be able to ctb without all the secrecy. I wish you the best.