Discussion Is love the answer?

[WornOutLife]

Today I was jogging and saw lots of happy couples and I thought: "Been there. Done that. Or maybe...that's what I need...?"

Do you think love could save you or at least postpone your ctb date and suicidal thoughts? Is it really possible?

I don't feel ready to be in a relationship so there's no way I'm dating any girls but hey, in a few months, who knows? Gotta enjoy life before "leaving."

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

Maybe a genuinely perfect match would help matters greatly. But then again so would winning the lottery.

 

[WornOutLife]

Maybe a genuinely perfect match would help matters greatly. But then again so would winning the lottery.

You're goddamn right.
A person who understands depression, my ups and downs, and suicidal thoughts would be awesome!

 

[Forgotten]

Postpone? Yes. Save me? Hell no. My suicide is pretty much inevitable, but I would be lying if I said I don't want to feel loved again at least one last time, even though I don't really have the energy for a relationship anymore.

 

[WornOutLife]

Postpone? Yes. Save me? Hell no. My suicide is pretty much inevitable, but I would be lying if I said I don't want to feel loved again at least one last time, even though I don't really have the energy for a relationship anymore.

I know that feeling!
Feeling loved again would be nice, I bet!

 

[Fehler]

At the time it was what I most needed and wanted to get out of this, but I understood that it is not something that arises even if you look for it. Before, I thought it was what I mainly needed to change, now I lowered it a few positions and increased others like financial stability and mental...(although the latter is correlated with love, at least with me).

 

[WornOutLife]

At the time it was what I most needed and wanted to get out of this, but I understood that it is not something that arises even if you look for it. Before, I thought it was what I mainly needed to change, now I lowered it a few positions and increased others like financial stability and mental...(although the latter is correlated with love, at least with me).

That's a good idea.
I'm actually doing the same, improve my financial condition and also, my health! Working out after ages feels so exhausting! lol

 

[Zimcity]

For me, love is the point of living.

 

[signifying nothing]

Do you think love could save you or at least postpone your ctb date and suicidal thoughts? Is it really possible?

I think it would be very unrealistic in my case. And to rely upon another person to pull you out of your situation into some wonderful new life is just asking for trouble imo. But then I'm scared of being too needy or dependent on anyone, let alone a significant other.

Good luck to you though if that's the route you end up taking. They do say life can be full of possibilities.

 

[Wisdom3_1-9]

Love kept me alive five years ago when I wanted to ctb. Turns out it was a deception. It would've been better if I had died back then.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

Wait until you get older and the one you thought you loved cleans you out of your assets and takes your children as happens in 50 percent of US marriages. Similar and Europe and even where rates of this occurring are low they're rising

 

[LONE WOLF.]

Love! What's that???

 

[Mistake of Nature]

For many years I thought that if I could only find someone to love and to love me, I would be able to muster up enough strength to fight through life. I have since realized that the type of love I need does not exist and even if it did, it would be unattainable.

None of that matters though because at the most, it would only delay my inevitable CTB.

 

[kindawannacrylol]

Today I was jogging and saw lots of happy couples and I thought: "Been there. Done that. Or maybe...that's what I need...?"

Do you think love could save you or at least postpone your ctb date and suicidal thoughts? Is it really possible?

I don't feel ready to be in a relationship so there's no way I'm dating any girls but hey, in a few months, who knows? Gotta enjoy life before "leaving."

im aromantic, i cant feel love

 

[Emily_Numb]

Yes. Self love.

 

[Zimcity]

Wait until you get older and the one you thought you loved cleans you out of your assets and takes your children as happens in 50 percent of US marriages. Similar and Europe and even where rates of this occurring are low they're rising

Yep.
There's like manuals on how to destroy a man. Every instance is womanned by discriminating women who assumes every horrible thing is fact and scoffs at the idea that the woman is playing the system to take the children. Covid shuts down the system and dad's rights are an absolute hollow joke. Society is toxic to the core and you need a small fortune to fight the system

 

[Sea Turtle]

Postpone- for sure. But at the end of the day, I'll be leaving by my own hand anyways.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I definitely believe it's the only way to save me however I now realize that it's impossible for me to encounter something close to true love in this life even then it's the one thing worth living for.

 

[Uso]

True love is real and it's the most powerful thing in the world, but even your soulmate can't save you from an inevitable death. The most you should hope for is a lover's suicide.

 

[DocNo]

i fantasize sometimes about how healing a relationship could be and how you could inspire each other. letting the me dissolve in an us.
but being alone for 20 years and only having relationships before where i was emotionally more a child than a grown up this might only be a romantic fantasy which has nothing to do with real life. but somehow i refuse to give up this idea. so i might be doomed to be alone for the rest of my life.

 

[WornOutLife]

Yes. Self love.

I've read a book called "Your erroneous zones" and the first thing it says is:
"If you can't love yourself, you can't love anybody/anything else. "
I so agree with you!

 

[DocNo]

I've read a book called "Your erroneous zones" and the first thing it says is:
"If you can't love yourself, you can't love anybody/anything. "
I so agree with you!

yeah it's a pretty classic saying. and it sounds somehow logical. but i don't know.
at the moment i have more the feeling that it might be hard to achieve on your own. maybe i also see this as the healing effect. to learn to accept yourself when you are loved and/or give love and help the other to accept him/herself.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I've read a book called "Your erroneous zones" and the first thing it says is:
"If you can't love yourself, you can't love anybody/anything else. "
I so agree with you!

I've heard that type of sentiment a lot. I'm not saying it's wrong but I feel like it doesn't match my life. In my case I love almost everyone who ever lived more than myself but then again that's still not very much so idk....

 

[Latios]

Lmao but I'm unloveable

 

[NodusTollens]

I used to think it could.

But I don't trust myself to love. Often blinded by the symptoms of BPD, I've fallen in poor/toxic/abusive relationships. I don't know that I know what love is & I am afraid of how someone could manipulate/hurt me. I stopped dating in late 2017.

 

[ZardozOmega]

I can't see that ever happening to me.

 

[rs929]

I think you're getting better and don't want to admit it.

 

[Mentalmick]

I'm that messed up I could probably fall in love with a tree stump.

 

[WaitingForTheBusInTh]

I mean I'm aro/ace soooooo......
I know theres different kinds of love outside of sexual/romantic, and maybe something like that might make me pause, but I doubt it would stop me.

 

[Just A NPC]

I would have at one point in my life answered this as yes absolutely so. With out a doubt. Love is what I think the purpose of life is.

Loving and opening myself up to people also is part of what has gotten me here. I have not met anyone I've opened up to, and shown my real self, who has eventually rejected me. It bothered me for a long time and I think it's finally to the point I'm apathetic about it.

I think it sounds tiring trying to extend myself to another person any longer. When people do try to talk to me in person I smile, and am friendly, but inside I already know it's not even worth pursuing. I'm tired, and I don't even know if I believe that love is the meaning of life anymore.

I wish I still felt like it was. I wish I felt safe enough to even let someone get close. I'm better off alone for sure.