Is it selfish to want to ctb when i have children.

[suffering_mo]

OP asked a question that I would think he/she wants an honest answer to from everyone. What am I missing

I'm sorry but there is no way to sugarcoat the fact that once you have made the deision to have children, your will to stay alive is non-negotiable. Coddling in this scenario is more likely to make it seem to OP that it's even remotely OK and a disservice to OP's children. And it's seems a little ironic and hypocritical that you would use "be nice in your comments" and the word "fucking" in the same sentence.

I have a right to what I said also. OPs mistake was asking for opinions. He should not have. I stand by what I said and clearly you are too. You obviously didn't read my earlier post to him, encouraging him to do all he could and stay. There's point in discussing it any further as we aren't going to agree on this.

 

[suffering_mo]

I only have this one last thing to say.... there was a mom on here who CTB over a month ago and I have confirmed it....She was a beautiful, beautiful human being who did EVERYTHING she could to be well and take care of her children. She was in immense physical pain from EDS, had small fiber neuropathy, severe insomnia, POTS, severe depression (of course) and more that no meds or medical treatment could help with... she could not walk much, let alone drive. No comfort, peace, only pain and suffering. Her husband kicked her out of the family home because he needed to focus on the children and didn't want to see or deal with her anymore. She had to live with her mom and brother, in a disgusting, bug infested home, sleeping on an air mattress on the living room floor (if she could get any sleep, the lack of which drove her to psychosis). She spoke with her kids nightly and saw them about once a month. Her life was a living hell... progressively getting worse. She was blamed and accused for not doing enough to get better, despite seeking out treatments, and trying over 30 meds, none of which helped. She could not take it anymore, though she wanted to keep going for her babies. She was living in a hell that you people can't fathom. Judge her if you want but you better hope and pray that life never comes for you in such a way. RIP my friend.

 

[HopeToStay]

Not selfish to want to do it.

Definitely selfish to do it though.

You had kids and you took on a responsibility, gotta hang around until they are at least adults.

 

[everydaythesame]

I have a right to what I said also. OPs mistake was asking for opinions. He should not have. I stand by what I said and clearly you are too. You obviously didn't read my earlier post to him, encouraging him to do all he could and stay. There's point in discussing it any further as we aren't going to agree on this.

Thank you for your support, it means alot. I have more to say but no point with the reaction of some people on here.

 

[suffering_mo]

Many hugs. I know you are going through a hard time but life can get better for you, it seems like. Try hard, not just for your kids but for you too. Everyone should give it all they can, not just parents. I'm sorry for your suffering.

Thank you for your support, it means alot. I have more to say but no point with the reaction of some people on here.