Discussion Is it okay for opposite sex cousins to share the same bed?

[cornflowerblue]

This. Most important answer to the whole situation.

I am wondering if OP offered, cousin said "no" but was ignored or didn't feel comfortable being direct enough, and then went to the parents to handle it for her.

 

[Severen]

Most likely nobody is going to do anything except sleep, because it turns out half the population aren't rapist or Bonobos on viagra.

You can be surprised... I would say most people are Bonobos on viagra with some rapists sprinkled on top.

 

[Taylored]

Absolutely nothing wrong with sharing beds people have done that for hundreds of years at this point.

 

[not_a_robot]

Ya, I'm actually surprised by this.

I mean, genitals aren't magnets lol....

For neurotypicals they really are though. You would be amazed.

"worst-case" scenario you have sex with your cousin... So what? I mean so long as there's no STD/I's or pregnancy, what long term harm other than some well-earned shame?

The only difference between adults and children is sex, yet the "adults" act like a 13 year old school girl over it. Most likely nobody is going to do anything except sleep, because it turns out half the population aren't rapist or Bonobos on viagra.

In my experience they really are.

 

[AhG]

I am going to be serious for a moment. I understand where they're coming from, and I feel as if people think opposite genders can't sleep in the same bed together, which is 50/50. You never know with today's society. But I will say it also depends on how your cousin feels about the situation.
JOKE TIME
I better not see a similar description on pornhub/xvideos

 

[Severen]

Frankly you and your parents are both being very very weird about this.
An airbed or cot can be purchased on Amazon for under fifty dollars. Respect other people's personal space. Adult humans are unaccustomed to being physically close unless they expect sex, and families have a *lot* more sex with each other than you think. Neurotypicals basically have to have sex if they so much as brush past each other in a hallway. You should know this from observing their behavior. Fifty dollars. Airbed. Buy one.
If your cousin is the one pressuring you to share the bed with her, just make sure you use a condom for God's sake. Don't make any web-toed babies.
Edit to add:
And I don't think anybody thinks you might assault her, it's just that physical closeness makes people act irrationally and inappropriately due to the neurotoxins like oxytocin that are released by the body. Basically, touching leads to sex whether they intend for it or not. And your Asperger's doesn't make you immune to being affected by those neurotoxins, you just might perceive them differently. Even when nobody is being assaulted, humans "accidentally" have sex with people they didn't intend to, all the time.
Once the neurotoxin oxytocin is released, they are pretty much going to try to "accidentally" have sex with the nearest living thing. It's kind of gross, really. Also, if you and cousin didn't grow up together, the sexual response to physical closeness could be involuntary for both of you. You wouldn't have the instinctive boundary preventing sexual attraction that occurs with a close sibling, or someone you grew up with.

It's a shame more people don't know this. So many accidents, so many tragedies could be avoided... Ignorance is bliss but only for a while...

 

[puppy9]

If you ask that question, then no.

 

[Severen]

Absolutely nothing wrong with sharing beds people have done that for hundreds of years at this point.

Yeah, that's how I was born.

 

[Ixtabba]

I thought it was okay till he raped me.