Is it better to write a suicide note or just do it without leaving anything?

[reiko1337]

Honestly, I'm not sure whether I can be bothered to say my goodbyes to everyone but I'm not sure if I just want to ctb without an explanation or a note. Sometimes I think writing suicide notes will only waste more of my time but I don't want to be more of an asshole by just never saying anything. Idk, do enlighten me.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Experience says it really is best to leave something (unless it's a venomous letter intended to hurt them). Otherwise they will always wonder.

 

[pharma]

"Fun" fact but most people don't write suicide notes. Not sure if it helps, but I recall some guy's suicide note was simply "so long, suckers." It's up to you. If you care about the people around you, I think it would mean a lot to them to have that "closure."

 

[HerculePoirot]

To some extent your suicide is a message in itself. Those who know you will understand. A suicide note may be required if you think that your death would be incomprehensible or misunderstood, for example because you are a very secret person, or your reasons are totally unsuspected, or someone might feel guilty.

 

[FuneralCry]

I would personally view it as being better to leave a note than leaving nothing at all, as it means that those left behind are less likely to be left with unanswered questions if they have some kind of explanation but I guess that it's up to the individual whether to leave one or not.

 

[SilentSadness]

I personally wouldn't write a note, it would be used against me if I failed and everything I said could be misinterpreted anyway. It would be better if people forgot about me rather than having something to remember me by. But if you do choose to write a note then it should aim to reduce suffering rather than cast blame.

 

[outrider567]

Honestly, I'm not sure whether I can be bothered to say my goodbyes to everyone but I'm not sure if I just want to ctb without an explanation or a note. Sometimes I think writing suicide notes will only waste more of my time but I don't want to be more of an asshole by just never saying anything. Idk, do enlighten me.

A simple note should suffice

 

[LateForTheBus]

I plan on writing one.

 

[Lament]

Depends on the ambitions of the note, I suppose. When I attempted a few years ago, I drafted several notes but in hindsight many of them were written in anger towards the people I felt had caused me to sink that low. I'd now agree with most other replies here, on how a note should be a means to giving some sort of closure, either through explaining your reasonings or a means of saying goodbye to those who might be affected by your decision. Don't feel like you have to write any more or less than what you think you need to say. One way to do it might be to think of it less like 'a note dictating my last words' and moreso a note sort of openly revealing yourself, and things that could only really be said because of the circumstance. I hope this helps and wish you the best. <3

 

[fibster.]

I'd say its quite simple (to me at least).
If i know a person i love/is close to me will find me, write a note so they wonder for the rest of their life why i did it, ig itll bring some closure or smth.
If a person idc about/hate will find me, wont write a note, i dont like them so who cares.

 

[Ai-chan]

I think a simple "goodbye" will suffice. Keep it around u or send a mass text or email or something. A quick one and done message

 

[Meretricious]

Honestly, I'm not sure whether I can be bothered to say my goodbyes to everyone but I'm not sure if I just want to ctb without an explanation or a note. Sometimes I think writing suicide notes will only waste more of my time but I don't want to be more of an asshole by just never saying anything. Idk, do enlighten me.

Well, considering the illiteracy rate has continually skyrocketed worldwide, and quite sharply in places like America... leaving a suicide note behind may not serve the purpose you may want it to - you know, if no one can read it.

You don't owe anyone an explanation.

Is there a legacy you want to leave behind? Tell that tale, in that case. Detail and celebrate your life.

 

[DarknessAtNoon]

I think it varies person to person. In my case, I couldn't write a truthful note without blaming my parents neglect for my suicide. I don't see any reason to upset my parents more than they already will be, so I most likely won't leave a note.

 

[leavingsoon99]

I'm only going to leave a note for the office personnel who find my body. An "I'm so sorry" note. I'm really sorry for the trauma that finding my avatar may cause. However, I'm telling all my loved ones that I love them while I'm here. I don't want them dwelling on me. Move on. It's not their fault. I hope they know that.

 

[kadjflakflajlk]

i feel people who write notes are fully absorbed in their own larp that they're somehow important and ppl give a fuck, and that the note they leave will be so profound it will leave a mark on society for the rest of time

no note for me, absolutely not

 

[orca87]

I'm leaning more toward writing none. Who is going to read it anyway? In my case, that would be one, a maximum of two persons.

That one person knows about my reasons. If I reasoned again over my rational suicide, then this letter would be too long and too short at the same time. From the outside, though, this person tells me I can go on – as objectively, I have a chance. I can't because taking that chance, even if it succeeded, would not give me peace at all. Conveying that state of mind and the reasons behind it is very difficult for me.
If anything, I consider printing out my musings on this site (anonymised, of course). This would include the journey and probably conveys more than a suicide note ever could.

I want other people for whom I have become only a distant memory not even to know I'm gone.

 

[she]

"Fun" fact but most people don't write suicide notes.

I find that very intriguing. I can't imagine leaving all of the people in my life without leaving a few last words for them. I wonder why that's the case, though. Maybe a majority of the people who CTB are lonely and don't feel as though they have anyone to leave a final testament with.

I feel people who write notes are fully absorbed in their own larp that they're somehow important and ppl give a fuck, and that the note they leave will be so profound it will leave a mark on society for the rest of time.

no note for me, absolutely not.

I've never thought about it that way, but now that you mention it, in a cynical kind of manner, it's unfortunately a logical stance to have. I feel that I should at least leave a note for my immediate family and my boyfriend so that they aren't left wondering why.

 

[thisiswhoiam-]

I don't really have anyone to say anything to.

 

[sparkle]

No point if nobody will read it, but I might make a post on here soon, or maybe not, I suppose that's kinda like a note lol.

 

[woknows]

It depends on your situation, motivation, and so on. If you have loved ones who are going to be hurt, then you should leave a message. If someone drove you to suicide, it might be pointless to leave them off the hook too.

 

[Sluggish_Slump]

I would just write a note consenting to euthanasia in case of failure and turning into a vegetable, other than that there's no need to explain anything because it can always be misinterpreted by loved ones and either way they wouldn't understand that suicide is a valid choice and no-one should be forced to live against their will

 

[ShinigamiApples]

Writing a suicide note can provide closure and give your loved ones some understanding and peace during a difficult time. It can also serve as a way to express any emotions or thoughts you may have had.

 

[juxtajuno]

i've always wanted to write a note just to give my family and my girlfriend closure, i would hate for them to wonder why i did what i did. unless you're aiming to hurt someone and keep them wondering if it's their fault (which is a great form of revenge imo) then i wouldn't leave one, but otherwise it's a good idea.