Water-Lily
Enlightened
- Dec 26, 2020
- 1,203
I watched a video today that triggered me
It was about what people pleasing is like for the people on the receiving end of ones behavior
Her first point is that, when the people pleaser acts like they're fine and then blows up later, the victim feels as if they cannot be trusted
That they'd appreciate honesty from the get go up front
I...cannot do this
I'm so damaged and scared of speaking up because of abuse
Because every time I would speak my mind people would put me down, abuse me, etc
And I'm tired
So I act "fake nice" to avoid a person being mad
But when I blow up later/shut down it hurts them too
So maybe I can avoid everything by just staying away
Because if I don't engage, I protect myself and protect them from dealing with my untrustworthy behavior
A win win for everyone?
It was about what people pleasing is like for the people on the receiving end of ones behavior
Her first point is that, when the people pleaser acts like they're fine and then blows up later, the victim feels as if they cannot be trusted
That they'd appreciate honesty from the get go up front
I...cannot do this
I'm so damaged and scared of speaking up because of abuse
Because every time I would speak my mind people would put me down, abuse me, etc
And I'm tired
So I act "fake nice" to avoid a person being mad
But when I blow up later/shut down it hurts them too
So maybe I can avoid everything by just staying away
Because if I don't engage, I protect myself and protect them from dealing with my untrustworthy behavior
A win win for everyone?
