Discussion Is anyone else in their 20s and feeling behind in life? How do you manage?

[last.hummingbird]

Although I've been through uni, I feel like a failure because I'm struggling to get a career off the ground in my chosen field. I'm not working anything related to it currently and I feel like every month is another month of me falling behind my peers. I at least am working but I'm not sure how long this will last for me atm and I'm not well off financially at all. I also don't have my drivers license yet, its been an agonizingly slow process for me to work on it which makes matters even harder. I lack social networks for support and its harder when I feel mostly isolated. I should have what I need together to be a functioning adult right now but I feel like I don't have everything figured out at all and it's brought me to this point.

Is anyone currently going through struggles with being behind or is working on overcoming this? What gets you through?

 

[TorturedCerebrum]

I also feel behind; I'm still in uni but I struggle with my major compared to classmates and am struggling with plans for the future, no internships or anything. I don't talk to anyone, and the people i have talked to in the past I randomly stop interacting with... kinda like im self isolating but not purposefully. I dont know how to overcome these struggles or anything but I'm trying to tell myself to just finish out my degree and all that to get myself through this rn.

I guess just setting one goal at a time could help, i'm not sure. I hope you can get through it

 

[fromange]

Networking is everything and that's a huge disadvantage for us. Very unfortunate. I don't have extraordinary skills or experiences that's going to speak on its own. I'm going to graduate and I can't get a single interview... Pretty despairing.

 

[last.hummingbird]

I also feel behind; I'm still in uni but I struggle with my major compared to classmates and am struggling with plans for the future, no internships or anything. I don't talk to anyone, and the people i have talked to in the past I randomly stop interacting with... kinda like im self isolating but not purposefully. I dont know how to overcome these struggles or anything but I'm trying to tell myself to just finish out my degree and all that to get myself through this rn.

I guess just setting one goal at a time could help, i'm not sure. I hope you can get through it

Thank you. I know it can be frustrating. Setting one goal at a time seems ideal. You can try give yourself a few smaller ones to accomplish for the month.

Have you tried joining a club or campus org? I know doing extracurriculars can be hard depending on how busy you are. I tried to get involved in stuff at school and I was probably at my healthiest then, compared to a time when I was very deliberately self isolating. It brought me a lot out of my comfort zone by a lot, and it made me realize I could slowly acclimate to socializing when I used to be super introverted at certain points. And by super introverted I mean to the point of being mute and struggling to make eye contact. It takes some practice and you kind of have to give yourself some grace. I struggled with social skills for a long time and still am not the best at that, but trying to interact in that way was at least a doorway to building relationships with some people.

 

[dying_kwik2000]

I still live at home and it's not good because my relationship with my mother feel like it's becoming more tumultuous as my emotional state becomes more intense, erratic and withdrawn.

 

[last.hummingbird]

Networking is everything and that's a huge disadvantage for us. Very unfortunate. I don't have extraordinary skills or experiences that's going to speak on its own. I'm going to graduate and I can't get a single interview... Pretty despairing.

I'm sorry to hear that :( This was something I also struggled with.

 

[NeroJune9th]

Very behind. All my peers from high school have successful careers and are getting married. Meanwhile I work a minimum wage job and live with my parents. Grim.

 

[escapee205]

Although I've been through uni, I feel like a failure because I'm struggling to get a career off the ground in my chosen field. I'm not working anything related to it currently and I feel like every month is another month of me falling behind my peers. I at least am working but I'm not sure how long this will last for me atm and I'm not well off financially at all. I also don't have my drivers license yet, its been an agonizingly slow process for me to work on it which makes matters even harder. I lack social networks for support and its harder when I feel mostly isolated. I should have what I need together to be a functioning adult right now but I feel like I don't have everything figured out at all and it's brought me to this point.

Is anyone currently going through struggles with being behind or is working on overcoming this? What gets you through?

I feel the same way after i finnished school i went straight for work and somehow managed to start as an apprentice but i was so tired of school it was kind of a reason why I wanted to ctb so I thought i would buy myself some more time by working but now I kinda regret it i just feel like im falling so far behind the people i used to hang out with i rarely talk with them on discord but they are working on getting an degree and have all kinds of life plans and I just feel like im so far behind i dont have any life plans only plans iv'e made for the future is to ctb but i keep telling myself that the future might be diffrent but im seriously starting to lose hope

 

[FoxSauce]

I just try to be useful so iI dijt fear that I'll get kicked out plus I work so. I feel like im behind cuz i want to study and maybe be accomplished ig but I have to leave.

Reasorces are limited where I live. I took a course for graphic desings (did ok) but i didnt feel like I learned anything at all. I met new people which I'm greatful but still.

I trying to save money as best I can for the future, I hope.