Is anyone else an escort?

[JigsawFeelin]

I'm what I'd call a part time escort
I probably average about 5 clients a month, which, on top of my universal credit, means I live quite comfortably in a big city
I have a client I consider a friend but a lot of the time I'm fully aware that I'm making all these incredibly odd interpersonal connections. Like, I'm not disingenuous. I love music, I love to laugh and I think a lot of the time clients find the time with me they're not having sex really pleasant.
I do have friends, for which I'm grateful- this wasn't the case a few years ago...
But I often feel incredibly lonely afterwards, if the guy hasn't been offensive, after which I just have a very quiet tube ride home, wash the feeling of a man I didn't like off of me (not that I don't immediately bathe when I get home anyway)
Like I was this little capsule experience, like my entire being boils down to the fact I'm attractive and I can be whatever fantasy the man has put on me (which is usually just the 'goth girl' with 'heart of gold' they never got to sleep with when they were younger because they weren't into the music etc)
I can't work out if the financial security (I used to lose jobs all the time because my physical health is useless - as well as eyes damaged by drug use in my early twenties- and I'd just be a zombie at 3pm, and forget what I was doing or a task set or be too weak to carry beer kegs or what have you) makes me feel better in my mental health, or worse.
It's true that I work for 5 hours a month (or whatever I've been booked for) and don't have to worry about money, but equally I'm doing something that has a lot of stigma attached to it, and weirdly, sometimes when the time is up and I'm a bit drunk and the client is nice...I kinda just want to stay
I guess what I'm asking, is whether people have seen/been sex workers or considered seeing sex workers and how they think it ties into the loneliness a lot of us here feel.

 

[clownangel]

Haven't been in years but sex work as a whole definitely made me feel lonelier than I already was. Having to be "in character" and "on" for work all the time was draining but at the end of the day I didn't want to take it off and have to just be me if that makes any sense. Like, the contrast of being home alone in pajamas without friends feeling worthless instead of out with people paying for me to pay them any attention.

 

[pen]

If wasn`t for a pay(e.g. food), it`d be rape, your LE must be dumb as hell too.

 

[awfullife]

If you are only working 5 hours a month I think that is pretty good. Most of the escorts (80%) I have been with have pressing issues with drug abuse, and it shows. They must be in such inner turmoil. It doesn't sound like this is an issue for you which is terrific. A friend once told me "Everyone is a whore to someone."
I think this is true and that normies who look down on sex workers / hobbyists just don't realize they do the same thing we do just in a different way.

 

[yeahwellso]

If wasn`t for a pay(e.g. food), it`d be rape, your LE must be dumb as hell too.

LE?

 

[JigsawFeelin]

If wasn`t for a pay(e.g. food), it`d be rape, your LE must be dumb as hell too.

what do you mean?

 

[Sherri]

I'm not one, but know someone who is she's quiet happy with it, mainly her customers want only company just for dinner, and of course others that want more I don't judge anyone, everyone is free to do whatever they want to do with their lives .

 

[Mm80]

what do you mean?

I think he means law enforcement ie police. Id imagine its pretty difficult for them to detect it and its hardly the worst crime in the world.

 

[JigsawFeelin]

If wasn`t for a pay(e.g. food), it`d be rape, your LE must be dumb as hell too.

It's not rape. It can be rape, but it isn't by default.
If LE stands for 'life experience', then I have plenty. Masters degree and various other things under my belt. If, as another user suggested 'law enforcement', it's legal where I live between consenting adults provided you are not working alongside another sex worker/s in a brothel.

 

[Hyperbunny]

i thought of it but i think i would feel worse, some men can treat escorts not so well. so i got worried

 

[Deleted member 22624]

Universal credit? UK? Escort services are not legal here

 

[JigsawFeelin]

Universal credit? UK? Escort services are not legal here

They are, haha. Have a look.
As I've already said, brothels are illegal, being a sex worker is not provided you and the people you are providing services to are over the age of 18.

 

[xLosthopex]

Hey, I'm a stripper(pre-covid) and sugar baby, and relate to a lot of what you said
I love my job, one of the few things that gives me any joy these days
I form many genuine connections and even have developed feelings for my sugar daddies
I'm also very gothy/alternative in appearance, and despite having anorexia and body dysmorphia, logically I know I'm very attractive, which I guess I rely heavily on for my sense of self worth
I like the fact that older men see me as this young, beautiful, fantasy girl... I don't know why but to me it's just a great feeling
Oh and just an fyi, sugar dating always involves sex(at least 99.9% of the time) I don't know why so many people think I'm just getting paid to be company for some older man, or to be taken out to dinner etc. lol like yeah that happens too but I've never encountered a sugar daddy who is not expecting to have sex with his sugar baby

 

[UterEntonaur]

Escort services are not legal here

I'm not an expert but AFAIK independent in-call/out-call prostitution is legal in the UK, which is why they call it the oldest profession in the world, but there is a whole bunch of other stuff around it that isn't (e.g. soliciting in the street/public place, pimping or managing a brothel, 3rd parties being involved, etc)

Source: Adultwork

 

[Deleted member 22624]

I'm not an expert but AFAIK independent in-call/out-call prostitution is legal in the UK, which is why they call it the oldest profession in the world, but there is a whole bunch of other stuff around it that isn't (e.g. soliciting in the street/public place, pimping or managing a brothel, 3rd parties being involved, etc)

Source: Adultwork

I'm amazed all round. Third parties need to be involved I'd have thought. It's strange how the law would purposely keep it like that, it's like it's stuck in a time warp where it just had to be kept as hidden as possible. Imo Amsterdam changed that, maybe one day the UK will learn at least one thing from one of our European neighbours

 

[Meditation guide]

Imo Amsterdam changed that, maybe one day the UK will learn at least one thing from one of our European neighbours

The USA is stuck back in the Spanish Inquisition as far as sex workers go and locks them up and spends police time going after them in roundups. They make excuses for it like the sex workers commit bigger crimes and cause problems of all kinds when actually it's easy work for cops so why not, they despise sex workers anyway. It's a very unenlightened society here.

 

[Spitfire]

The USA is stuck back in the Spanish Inquisition as far as sex workers go and locks them up and spends police time going after them in roundups. They make excuses for it like the sex workers commit bigger crimes and cause problems of all kinds when actually it's easy work for cops so why not, they despise sex workers anyway. It's a very unenlightened society here.

It is all good everything is fine

 

[x~Sophia~x]

They are, haha. Have a look.
As I've already said, brothels are illegal, being a sex worker is not provided you and the people you are providing services to are over the age of 18.

They might be legal, but surely the money you're earning should be declared to DHSS if you're claiming Universal Credit? Why would you need UC if you can earn good money working only 5 hours a month?

 

[Teal_Blue_Dreams]

Not a sex worker but I am sorry that you feel lonely. We are here for you!

 

[JigsawFeelin]

They might be legal, but surely the money you're earning should be declared to DHSS if you're claiming Universal Credit? Why would you need UC if you can earn good money working only 5 hours a month?

you can't declare sex work if you've any intention of ever leaving it, unfortunately. but thanks for the vague threat
edit: I won't get into what I earn but there's no way I could live on the money from five clients.
edit: I misread the post- no threat

 

[KolK]

Just remember to take care. :)

 

[x~Sophia~x]

you can't declare sex work if you've any intention of ever leaving it, unfortunately. but thanks for the vague threat

edit: I misread, apologies- didn't mean to insinuate anything.

There was no threat. What could I threaten you with?
I'm just having trouble understanding why you claim UC if you are able to earn so much money in 5 hours. Why not work 6 hours and stop claiming UC?

you can't declare sex work if you've any intention of ever leaving it, unfortunately. but thanks for the vague threat
edit: I won't get into what I earn but there's no way I could live on the money from five clients.
edit: I misread the post- no threat

Get more clients then.
Do you declare the money you currently earn? I think I already know the answer to that... :/

 

[Deleted member 22624]

There was no threat. What could I threaten you with?
I'm just having trouble understanding why you claim UC if you are able to earn so much money in 5 hours. Why not work 6 hours and stop claiming UC?

Get more clients then.
Do you declare the money you currently earn? I think I already know the answer to that... :/

Probably the same reason as she doesn't want a 6th client for more money while still being on UC, it's not a job you just do a 40 hour shift of. Would you feel comfortable declaring work like this? Doubt it. Would you want to do work like this? Doubt it. Something's got your goat up here and I don't think it's anything to do with UC or whatever, you wouldn't be systematically targeting these things. Besides, think someone doing sex work in an environment like the UK deserves some support so they can take less risk.

 

[x~Sophia~x]

Probably the same reason as she doesn't want a 6th client for more money while still being on UC, it's not a job you just do a 40 hour shift of. Would you feel comfortable declaring work like this? Doubt it. Would you want to do work like this? Doubt it. Something's got your goat up here and I don't think it's anything to do with UC or whatever, you wouldn't be systematically targeting these things. Besides, think someone doing sex work in an environment like the UK deserves some support so they can take less risk.

And sadly, this is what's wrong with the world!
I'm not asking her to declare the nature of her work, I'm suggesting she shouldn't be claiming benefits while she has the capacity to earn good money for only 5 hours a month.
But, whatever...

 

[Craig31ldn]

I dont judge escorts or strippers but i have a few friends who make a living from it.

In the short term its all good, its a great distraction. But from what I've seen, even when the moneys unlimited, it tends to destroys most people long term.

I've seen girls who were on top of the world living a life style they dreamt of, only to later discover and admit that escorting had a bigger negative impact on their self worth than they first thought.

Their are pros and cons obviously but i do think low self esteem can make girls ignore the cons untill so much damage is done.

 

[Spitfire]

Probably the same reason as she doesn't want a 6th client for more money while still being on UC, it's not a job you just do a 40 hour shift of. Would you feel comfortable declaring work like this? Doubt it. Would you want to do work like this? Doubt it. Something's got your goat up here and I don't think it's anything to do with UC or whatever, you wouldn't be systematically targeting these things. Besides, think someone doing sex work in an environment like the UK deserves some support so they can take less risk.

In the USA there are strip clubs and places where the entertainer gets paid $250-$500 just for walking through the front doors.

 

[x~Sophia~x]

Besides, think someone doing sex work in an environment like the UK deserves some support so they can take less risk

... "in an environment like the UK..."? Oh come on, I can think of worse places. She's an escort, not a street walker!

 

[Donk]

FWIW I respect sex workers(by choice) as they provide a high demand service. Not every man wants to gone on a romantic date all the time, sometimes they just wanna fuck and chill. That's just how it is sometimes. Our brains are wired like that.

 

[clownangel]

In the USA there are strip clubs and places where the entertainer gets paid $250-$500 just for walking through the front doors.

Never got paid for showing up, but have seen clubs where house fee is $200+ and you're still expected to tip out security, house mom, djs, etc. on top of the club taking a cut from VIP/dances/etc. Maybe guest performers get paid that for just coming in? Most places I've seen dancers have to pay to work so I'm curious aha. (No idea about like, the brothels in NV.)

The USA is stuck back in the Spanish Inquisition as far as sex workers go

I shouldn't have laughed but....yeah pretty much. One club I worked used to clip articles and print out reports about stings and raids in surrounding cities & tape them all over the dressing room mirrors like it was a threat. Depending on the place something as small as handing a customer a business card can be seen as solicitation & get someone in deep shit. Baffling.

 

[Spitfire]

Never got paid for showing up, but have seen clubs where house fee is $200+ and you're still expected to tip out security, house mom, djs, etc. on top of the club taking a cut from VIP/dances/etc. Maybe guest performers get paid that for just coming in? Most places I've seen dancers have to pay to work so I'm curious aha. (No idea about like, the brothels in NV.)


I shouldn't have laughed but....yeah pretty much. One club I worked used to clip articles and print out reports about stings and raids in surrounding cities & tape them all over the dressing room mirrors like it was a threat. Depending on the place something as small as handing a customer a business card can be seen as solicitation & get someone in deep shit. Baffling.

House Moms Hahahahahahaah!!!

Forget them!