Instagram

[Theodora]

Damn I went on Instagram for the first time in months and everyone is just living their best life .. Jesus I shouldn't bothered..just shows how pointless mine is

 

[disconnection]

Remember that people only show the good stuff...

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

I feel that way too. But I happy face doesn't mean that person is actually happy. I learned that from myself. I smile in every picture while thinking of killing myself.
I recommend you this video so you realize how fake social media is



I post stories on Ig everyday but that doesn't mean I don't have a shitty life. That's only to show the small things I enjoy in life.

 

[Grey-zone]

Damn I went on Instagram for the first time in months and everyone is just living their best life .. Jesus I shouldn't bothered..just shows how pointless mine is

I've never used Instagram or FB (briefly for a few months). I'm basically a tech outcast, or nearly so. My impression is that over the past 10 years younger women (less than 35-40) have started a sort-of "beauty arms race" in terms of fashion and looks, most of it driven by social media. That can't be good for one's psyche. I think porn does a similar thing to men's self-esteem and expectations. Too much technology, too many chances for comparison.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

I've never used Instagram or FB (briefly for a few months). I'm basically a tech outcast, or nearly so. My impression is that over the past 10 years younger women (less than 35-40) have started a sort-of "beauty arms race" in terms of fashion and looks, most of it driven by social media. That can't be good for one's psyche. I think porn does a similar thing to men's self-esteem and expectations. Too much technology, too many chances for comparison.

Yeah watching porn made me feel insecure with my size and all that. Everything is a lie. Porn is waste of time I cant believe how many hours I spend watching that shit. Now that my life is coming to an end time is precious for me.

 

[Grey-zone]

Yeah watching porn made me feel insecure with my size and all that. Everything is a lie. Porn is waste of time I cant believe how many hours I spend watching that shit. Now that my life is coming to an end time is precious for me.

Yes, porn was the biggest time waster of my life. I entered adolescence right at the time when there was more and more of it available on the internet, and within a few years high-speed access, etc... For me the biggest thing was my expectations of the kind of woman I wanted to be with--I think porn messed that up completely. I have a common fetish, but porn twisted that into almost an obsession.

 

[NorthernStar]

My best friend once told me, "Never compare your day-to-day news with someone else's highlight reel."

Edit: I'm referring to social media, not porn. That's a different kind of highlight reel. ^_^

 

[lostangel]

Instagram is made to destroy you. That's why I deleted it. I recommend you do the same you will be happier.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

Instagram is made to destroy you. That's why I deleted it. I recommend you do the same you will be happier.

Yes. If Social media make you feel worse. Better avoid.

 

[Brokenwithbpd]

I get jealous of everyone. I hate it

 

[TheSoulless]

When I deleted Instagram a few years ago (god it's years?) my mind was better. I use it now, but I only follow people I really want to. And like @disconnection said, they carefully build their online image to show the best version of themselves. It's illusion.

 

[Despondent]

They only show you what they want you to see. They're going to post pics of them "living it up" because no one would, most likely, ever want the negatives posted. If someone's experiencing some form of abuse, they're not always going to make such a post for all others to see.

Instagram and any other social media is a platform that allows us to capture a two/three second smile while wearing our masks. We all know what it's like to wear one of those. That's what that does

 

[Pryras]

Unfollow all influencers or anyone that makes you feel bad for where you're at.

I never understood influencer culture which is why I never followed any of them. Follow pages that inspire you. Avoid following social media influencers and celebrities.

Use IG as an archive not a popularity contest. People post the best moments and most are edited to some extent. It's not the reality but I understand how it can seem that way. Just remind yourself that it's not real

 

[SpottedPanda]

I think it's useful to realise that many people show what they feel people want to see. It gives this illusion that the stars of the pictures never have an off day, or a normal boring life. I only use Instagram to look at attractive women, admittedly, so it's fine for me, to admire models, but I can see how comparisons with oneself can be easily drawn.

It gives this perception that it's 24/7 parties, all smiles, and all good luck and happiness, to the point where you might even start to feel everyone's like that, but it is all about aesthetics, what people want to see, and only showing your best side.

By all means have an Instagram detox. I find Twitter alarming, and it riles me up. I'm seriously considering stepping away from it, or at the very least minimising my exposure to it. Sometimes when the stove's hot, we've simply got to stop leaning on it.

 

[AlreadyGone]

People on Instagram are fake.

 

[TotallyIsolated]

Its TOTALLY valid to feel that way, and totally understandable.

Its true though that Instagram is fake. People suck in their gut. They pose in front of other people's cars and houses. People lie because of their own fear of missing out in life.

 

[xLosthopex]

I use Instagram a lot, I have a lot of followers, I am open about my struggles on it but I am also very particular about the of photos of myself I upload, I always have to look 'perfect' in it before I post it
There is a lot of good on Instagram too, follow accounts that make you feel good about yourself, not the opposite

 

[Mr.Mediocre]

Yep. I don't see anyone on instagram who is an ugly, autistic, annorexic social outcast. People I used to know posting pictures hanging out with their friends while I don't even have a single fucking friend because no one likes being around me.

Only 2 options for me, be a nerd with zero awareness or hide away from humanity. I am literally scared to go outside, I am gatekept from a normal life all thanks to my mom not aborting me.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

I don't follow any people on social media for this reason, only anime accounts. People make me sad.

 

[Lookingtodie]

I don't agree with this that everything on social media is a lie, fucking bullshit. Most of those people really have great fun lives.

 

[4eyebiped]

True, not everything is a lie but it is riddled with a certain level of fakeness. One of the problems is, what is or isn't fake? Should you be jealous at A or B? One is real the other isn't. Would be silly to stress yourself out over something that was fake. There lies the problem for some.

Overall, I think we can at least all agree social media can be toxic due to multiple flaws in how humans operate. Our need to compare ourselves to others is one of those flaws. If social media doesn't bother you, then by all means use it however you see fit. For those that it negatively affects, for whatever reason, I would recommend to stay away from it, limit it or configure it in a more confining way.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

True, not everything is a lie but it is riddled with a certain level of fakeness. One of the problems is, what is or isn't fake? Should you be jealous at A or B? One is real the other isn't. Would be silly to stress yourself out over something that was fake. There lies the problem for some.

Overall, I think we can at least all agree social media can be toxic due to multiple flaws in how humans operate. Our need to compare ourselves to others is one of those flaws. If social media doesn't bother you, then by all means use it however you see fit. For those that it negatively affects, for whatever reason, I would recommend to stay away from it, limit it or configure it in a more confining way.

This really. There is no hard line between 'real' and 'fake' in this context since online people can take very real moments and emphasize them to the point where they look like celebrity-tier events

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

I can't be on Instagram anymore. Too toxic. I'm only using Fb for news and some few topics I like. I'll try to stay away from Ig for the sake of my mental health-

 

[SterileMoth]

Social media is one big lie. I try to keep my own posts more realistic, but the reality is that it's still a glorified version of my life. If it wasn't, then I'd wind up in a mental hospital.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

Social media is one big lie. I try to keep my own posts more realistic, but the reality is that it's still a glorified version of my life. If it wasn't, then I'd wind up in a mental hospital.

There are some instagramers (influencer or whatever is called) who killed themselves so not everything there is "flowers and rainbows"

 

[Thinking]

Nah if you looked at my insta you would think I have my life together and that I'm confident, happy, not stressed at all, popular, etc. Well I'm sure you can tell based on the fact that I'm on SS that none of those things are true

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

No one who see my IG profile would think I'm suicidal. Nothing there shows what's in my mind.

 

[SterileMoth]

There are some instagramers who killed themselves so not everything there is "flowers and rainbows"

True. I used to have a "vent" instagram account, I was fairly familiar with talking people out of suicide by 13 because of that. I spent nearly every night talking people down or just letting people vent to me. Those accounts were all fairly anonymous though, very little personal information. Most of the "personal" accounts I see are curated, only the best shown, that's why they have "spam" accounts, that's where all the REAL shit is. There obviously are exceptions, but a majority are not going to be straight forward about how things really are going. As stated, I could never admit my intentions there unless I was already in the process and knew there would be no going back by then. Even complete strangers have reached out lately, and I haven't posted an awful lot about how I'm really doing, just the occasional angst-y caption.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

I'll be deleting that soon

 

[RedPanda]

Social media is a fucking lie. It's a collection of highlight reels, all carefully handpicked and uploaded to show their best lives but we have no idea what happens behind closed doors. That same person living their best life could be facing their demons everyday and be on the verge of committing suicide. Will they upload images of themselves crying out for help? Probably not but hey, look at this beach and my toes in the sand. DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU SEE ON SOCIAL MEDIA! I know it's human nature to compare ourselves BUT don't do that with social media, it will only make you feel 10x worse. GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA and choose what you really want to see.