Venting Infertility

[bun]

i have always wished for a better life, and to have kids of my own so that i could give them the life that i never had, chemo has made me infertile and i am devastated, my cancer has taken absolutely everything from me.. i am never going to be a mother and it hurts SO BAD.

 

[Zhendou]

Do you want to try adoption or foster care?

 

[needthebus]

i have always wished for a better life, and to have kids of my own so that i could give them the life that i never had, chemo has made me infertile and i am devastated, my cancer has taken absolutely everything from me.. i am never going to be a mother and it hurts SO BAD.

there's a lot of terrible parents out there and kids who could use a foster parent who is kind and not terrible

maybe that's you? maybe you're the kind foster parents that someone really is hoping they get after enduring some awful stuff

edited to say @Zhendou had this idea first and I wanted to do more than just like it, but it makes sense. you could be someone's hero.

 

[deadbidaylight]

As someone who struggled for years with infertility, I see you. Adoption and fostering can be rewarding, but I understand fully the thought of wanting a child of your own, and the utter despair of knowing you had that choice stripped from you. The feeling is completely gutting, and that pain doesn't go away. I am so very sad for you and the loss you're feeling. It's a hard feeling to empathize with unless you've been there. It's a pain different than any other pain you've experienced. You are not alone

I'm not sure how long ago you had treatment, but if it's feasible for you, I would try and get tested to see if you have any viable eggs left. Just because you don't menstruate anymore doesn't mean that all your eggs are garbage. Surrogacy could very well be in the cards for you if you have access to the proper channels. I know it sucks that you wouldn't get to experience pregnancy (if this was something you're missing), but it would still give you a chance to hold your own baby.

As someone who struggled for years with infertility, I see you. Adoption and fostering can be rewarding, but I understand fully the thought of wanting a child of your own, and the utter despair of knowing you had that choice stripped from you. The feeling is completely gutting, and that pain doesn't go away. I am so very sad for you and the loss you're feeling. It's a hard feeling to empathize with unless you've been there. It's a pain different than any other pain you've experienced. You are not alone

I'm not sure how long ago you had treatment, but if it's feasible for you, I would try and get tested to see if you have any viable eggs left. Just because you don't menstruate anymore doesn't mean that all your eggs are garbage. Surrogacy could very well be in the cards for you if you have access to the proper channels. I know it sucks that you wouldn't get to experience pregnancy (if this was something you're missing), but it would still give you a chance to hold your own baby.

I'd also like to add that I'm glad treatment was successful for you and you made it out the other end. Congratulations