Discussion In your opinion, people who have young child has the right to suicide?

[BrokenByTheSystem]

I think it's an interesting question to bring to a pro-choice forum.

We all probably agree that people should have the right to choose if they want to keep living or not. But how does it work if the person has a child?

As much as I like to say everybody has this right, I think it's a tough situation to leave a young kid in this world carrying this event for its whole life, growing without a father/mother and maybe even blaming itself in the future for its father/mother suicide.

Many people are here exactly because of this, bad decisions made by bad parents. A kid growing up with such a traumatic past could develop many mental problems and end up just killing itself as well in the end.

What's your guys opinion on this subject?

 

[sadgirl1997]

Having children does not make someone less human or erase their suffering. Parents can experience severe depression, trauma, exhaustion, abuse, financial stress, hopelessness, or mental illness. Every living human being on this planet is going to experience suffering of all sorts, including death, of all kinds. It's a personal choice, just as ALL children, which we all were once will have their own choices to make. People are all individuals who process, interpret and interact in different ways. That's why not all drug addicts have drug addict children. Not all people that commit suicide have children that do. And you can apply that to literally everything under the sun.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

Yes.
If a child is raised by a parent who would rather commit suicide, what kind of childhood can that parent really offer their child? I'm not saying there aren't exceptions. But a childhood spent with a parent who is so distraught that they don't want to be here is more often than not going to be a childhood filled with trauma. So there's going to be serious trauma either way, unless the parent can work through and overcome whatever makes them so suicidal in the first place.

 

[coolcow1289]

I think it's a tough thing to talk about, because you don't want people with young kids who are suffering feel they're totally trapped. Because that can make the problem worse.

But yes, parents have a responsibility to their kid. It's one thing to kill yourself and have it impact your girlfriend or parents or siblings. It's a whole different ballpark to kill yourself when you have a young kid. You really screw them over for life.

 

[BrokenByTheSystem]

Having children does not make someone less human or erase their suffering. Parents can experience severe depression, trauma, exhaustion, abuse, financial stress, hopelessness, or mental illness. Every living human being on this planet is going to experience suffering of all sorts, including death, of all kinds. It's a personal choice, just as ALL children, which we all were once will have their own choices to make. People are all individuals who process, interpret and interact in different ways. That's why not all drug addicts have drug addict children. Not all people that commit suicide have children that do. And you can apply that to literally everything under the sun.

It's all about the weight of responsibility, I want to kill myself, but if by any chance I put a child here, it's not about me anymore, I should make my best to raise the kid no matter how much I'm suffering, I'm accountable by my decisions, ruining my own life by ending it is one thing, but bringing someone from eternal peace and then ruining their existence together, that's cruel. I don't think anyone has the right to do it. You have a child you made a lifetime responsibility, you knew the consequences. You can escape, but that's brutally cruel once you have a choice to not do it (non-natural causes aka suicide).