Help I’m so lonely

[doireallywannadie]

I'm so fucking lonely, but I'm also not lonely. I have friends but whenever I'm with them I feel like I don't fit in. I mean, growing up I was always the "black sheep" of everything. The odd and weird one. I mean, I've met people that I got along with, like in mh servers on discord, but it never lasts long. I hate it so much. I can never hold friendships. I get too attached and annoying too fast, and I'm aware of it but I can't help ittt. I've been told im too much or too less so I can never figured myself out.

I hate having no one to talk to, just sitting in my room like a loser. I want someone I can be a loser with together. Im so freaking lonely I REALLY want friends. Friends that won't leave after a week of chatting. Friends I can have deep talks with, have fun with and joke around.

Plz help im alsmot 19 this is so pathetic

 

[fishperson]

I think u should mention ur age , it helps to find people around ur age bracket

 

[TheTwelthRootOfTwo]

I'm so fucking lonely, but I'm also not lonely. I have friends but whenever I'm with them I feel like I don't fit in. I mean, growing up I was always the "black sheep" of everything. The odd and weird one. I mean, I've met people that I got along with, like in mh servers on discord, but it never lasts long. I hate it so much. I can never hold friendships. I get too attached and annoying too fast, and I'm aware of it but I can't help ittt. I've been told im too much or too less so I can never figured myself out.

I hate having no one to talk to, just sitting in my room like a loser. I want someone I can be a loser with together. Im so freaking lonely I REALLY want friends. Friends that won't leave after a week of chatting. Friends I can have deep talks with, have fun with and joke around.

Plz help

I get it. I was "that person" my entire growing up life. Even now. Only difference is, I can hide from people. Couldn't do that in school lol. But yeah, it's very frustrating and annoying.

 

[doireallywannadie]

I wish I could hide away forever too, but having courses and classes make it extremely difficult

 

[sashaisalone]

I'm so fucking lonely, but I'm also not lonely. I have friends but whenever I'm with them I feel like I don't fit in. I mean, growing up I was always the "black sheep" of everything. The odd and weird one. I mean, I've met people that I got along with, like in mh servers on discord, but it never lasts long. I hate it so much. I can never hold friendships. I get too attached and annoying too fast, and I'm aware of it but I can't help ittt. I've been told im too much or too less so I can never figured myself out.

I hate having no one to talk to, just sitting in my room like a loser. I want someone I can be a loser with together. Im so freaking lonely I REALLY want friends. Friends that won't leave after a week of chatting. Friends I can have deep talks with, have fun with and joke around.

Plz help im alsmot 19 this is so pathetic

Part of me wants to mention that you're 19, and being a young adult shouldn't necessarily mean that you've found your place to belong and your purpose yet. It's okay to still be finding yourself at this age. That said, I was told that same thing when I was 16. I was told "it gets better". 14 years later however, I kinda feel I was sold a false bill of goods. If you're attractive, find a way to develop confidence and charisma, and you find a social circle with shared values or interests, and you feel seen and like you belong amongst your peers, you've got a real chance. Something I've observed in both my generation as a millennial and in your younger zoomer generation however is a paradoxical "destigmatization" of mental illness, where you're allowed to identify yourself as moody, neurodivergent, or anxious, but the moment you're actually vulnerable and ACT mentally ill, people will often hate you and punish you for it.

I think that's what makes communities like these so attractive. I had one thread I started removed by moderation, I think the team misunderstood the purpose of it, and I did feel invalidated by that. However otherwise, this seems to be a community where we're allowed to be ourselves, and we're not harshly judged or shamed for not being okay.

 

[doireallywannadie]

Part of me wants to mention that you're 19, and being a young adult shouldn't necessarily mean that you've found your place to belong and your purpose yet. It's okay to still be finding yourself at this age. That said, I was told that same thing when I was 16. I was told "it gets better". 14 years later however, I kinda feel I was sold a false bill of goods. If you're attractive, find a way to develop confidence and charisma, and you find a social circle with shared values or interests, and you feel seen and like you belong amongst your peers, you've got a real chance. Something I've observed in both my generation as a millennial and in your younger zoomer generation however is a paradoxical "destigmatization" of mental illness, where you're allowed to identify yourself as moody, neurodivergent, or anxious, but the moment you're actually vulnerable and ACT mentally ill, people will often hate you and punish you for it.

Youre right, i mean idk why adults expect 15-18 year olds to have their life figured out

Even if im attractive, after people get closer to me, after finding out the stuff i went/go through people tend to always distance themselves from me. I am an extreme people pleaser, but the moment i become just a little bit vulnerable, suddenly everyone is a stranger. Like damn.

I just wish there wasnt anything wrong with me. The longing to fit in has been there ever since i was a toddler. Even years later i still feel like i dont.

However, social spaces like ss really make me feel validated, and as you said, people are definitely way less judgy than the communities on other platforms, since we are all experiencing similar things, and we relate to one another :)

 

[FadingSnowFake]

I hate having no one to talk to, just sitting in my room like a loser. I want someone I can be a loser with together.

Love the way you word this. I can relate to wanting to be a loser with someone. I'm much older than you though. I hope things will turn around for you. For what it's worth, my twenties were better than my teens. Sending hugs.

 

[doireallywannadie]

Love the way you word this. I can relate to wanting to be a loser with someone. I'm much older than you though. I hope things will turn around for you. For what it's worth, my twenties were better than my teens. Sending hugs.

super happy your twenties were better, hope mine is too. :)

 

[Asuraa]

this is honestly so relatable.I always felt that same way of having friends but not really feeling like i fit in with them. I have ADHD and social anxiety disorder so it's pretty hard for me to make friends, i am pretty sensitive to rejection but yet i somehow have a gf lol. I'm 19 and i have dropped out of college because i couldn't even handle it.. i'm down to be friends if you want but i dont think i could even message people on this website yet

 

[doireallywannadie]

this is honestly so relatable.I always felt that same way of having friends but not really feeling like i fit in with them. I have ADHD and social anxiety disorder so it's pretty hard for me to make friends, i am pretty sensitive to rejection but yet i somehow have a gf lol. I'm 19 and i have dropped out of college because i couldn't even handle it.. i'm down to be friends if you want but i dont think i could even message people on this website yet

Ofc im down to be friendsss i would never turn down someone asking to befriends. If u want i could give u my discord if u cant message people yet. Its all up to u

 

[whatdoidonow]

I've also felt like this since my life got totally ruined during teenage years. Sad that I still live like this

 

[Asuraa]

Ofc im down to be friendsss i would never turn down someone asking to befriends. If u want i could give u my discord if u cant message people yet. Its all up to u

yess im so down you can send me ur disc if ur able

 

[LonelyPrince]

I'm 19 and this is basically my situation. I'm so lonely that I feel a hole in my chest every single day lmao.
If you wanna be friends my chat is always open.
Also nice Sally face pfp

 

[doireallywannadie]

I've also felt like this since my life got totally ruined during teenage years. Sad that I still live like this

i hope life treats you kinder

I'm 19 and this is basically my situation. I'm so lonely that I feel a hole in my chest every single day lmao.
If you wanna be friends my chat is always open.
Also nice Sally face pfp

i would love to be your frienddd and thanks! one of my fav indie gamess

 

[InTheAbyss]

I feel soo lonely every day and it just seems to get worse over time. I can't wait for this to end.