CatTheBus5689
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- Jun 22, 2021
- 76
It's amazing just how colorless life becomes once you understand the world around you. It's like knowing how a magic trick is done, except the trick itself isn't all that impressive and is only entertaining for toddlers who haven't developed a sense of object permanence.
It feels like the world has great expectations of me the moment I was born, and I have disappointed everyone around me and most importantly myself. And by the same token the world around me has disappointed me immensely, life could be so much more. We as people could be so much more if we all were more compassionate, mentally present, more open to communication and strived to leave the world around us a better place than we found it. But then we have greedy, incompetent people who think of nothing but themselves. I have come to realize that a lot of the problems in the world boils down to "we can solve it but we don't because some rich asshole is making money off of this" and I am reminded that before I am even born I am getting screwed over by idiots who had no business being handed so much money and power on a silver platter through sheer luck while good people work to the bone only to get oppressed by a system they ultimately can't change. My expectations of others has been dragged through the mud over and over while life has the audacity to demand more from me as a person and I am just tired of even trying to be a decent person while the rest of the world hardly cares.
I don't even feel like I have the right to be depressed and considering suicide, as much as it feels like my life is in the shitter I'm one of the lucky ones who had a stable life spoon fed to me. I have never gone a day in my life hungry or thirsty, I have an education, I have two parents, I have no crippling health problems, I have opportunities in life that others would kill for, I have no right to say my life sucks. But with each and every day that passes the more pointless everything feels, what little ambition and passion I had was beaten out of me, hobbies start to become work to continue when they're supposed to be my escape from the world, I can barely muster the energy to stay out of bed during the day anymore.
It's just depressing knowing that life can take whatever it wants from us and the only thing we're allowed to do is to move on and move forward. Life owes us absolutely nothing for our hard work and it's just a matter of hoping what we've built up isn't knocked down by circumstances or even other people we can't control. And who's to say what we earn in life isn't actually just handed to us? No one knows when or even if they will ever find love and no one earns opportunities in life, they just get lucky. What is the point is caring so much when life can give as little as it cares to and take as much as it likes? Sometimes it feels like I'm just smart enough to understand how fucked life can be but not smart or even ambitious enough to work towards changing my life for the better.
I understand that I am depressed and a lot of my thoughts are the result of my condition and that life isn't as screwed up as I perceive it to be and I can feel a lot better if I get treated. Perhaps I can even build a good life. But it doesn't change that I genuinely believe life is, for the most part pointless and everything can be taken away. I've thought this for a very long time, granted I've probably been depressed to some degree since high school or even earlier than that. It doesn't help that I had a bit of a rough breakup that do doubt made my depression significantly worse but I'm not going to blame anyone but myself for allowing it to consume my mind and being so stubborn about leaving behind a chapter of my life. In a few months I will have spent more time trying to move on than I have spent actually dating.
Life has been nothing but predictable, every disappointment I experience feeds my confirmation bias and gives me one more reason to be bored of life. When I realized what great thing I finally had I thought to myself this is going to end so uneventfully, so quietly and with no room for recourse and I'm just building myself just high enough to send myself into a pit of despair. But I also thought maybe, just maybe if I can just have this one thing, one amazing person who promises to stay in my life as the love of my life and my closest friend then maybe life isn't all that bad. Of course it ended just the way I expected it to, the way I was afraid of the most. We drifted apart and slowly but surely I was dropped out of her life, I was told while it wasn't my fault there was nothing I was allowed to do to stop or fix what was happening. How am I supposed to carry on with life when I've been disappointed one too many times?
The only reason I'm still alive is because I'm too unambitious to make any meaningful progress towards cbt. When I think about the last two years I've done a lot to move on and have even made good progress, even if it doesn't feel like it or feel better for it. I've grown tired of giving life a chance even if it's by simply being alive. When I think about how there isn't a single day I would have minded missing out on if I just killed myself earlier then it robs me of what little hope I have in life.
My only regret is not having a more positive impact on those around me. It saddens me when I think about what I'm going to do to my parents who while not perfect by any means absolutely don't deserve to have their child who they poured so much work and love into taken away from them. It saddens me when I think of those who will be traumatized having a close family member or friend suddenly take their own life so suddenly, taking away any opportunity to see each other, filling them with "what ifs" and "if only I" thoughts. I regret I won't be around to comfort the people who will be hurting over me. But I have no desire to grow old and decrepit alone, watching as the world moves on while my struggle just drives me in circles as more and more people leave my life and I'm left alone. The day will come when I will have to care for myself and carve my own place in the world that acts like it is unable to or doesn't want to support me.
I'm sick of all the sickly sweet positive bullshit people are happy to shit out of their mouths when they can't even comprehend the pain and hopelessness people with depression experience. I'm sick of feeling nothing but bitterness, anger, jealousy, frustration and feeling like I'm just never enough to live a good life.
I just want one good reason to wake up tomorrow.
It feels like the world has great expectations of me the moment I was born, and I have disappointed everyone around me and most importantly myself. And by the same token the world around me has disappointed me immensely, life could be so much more. We as people could be so much more if we all were more compassionate, mentally present, more open to communication and strived to leave the world around us a better place than we found it. But then we have greedy, incompetent people who think of nothing but themselves. I have come to realize that a lot of the problems in the world boils down to "we can solve it but we don't because some rich asshole is making money off of this" and I am reminded that before I am even born I am getting screwed over by idiots who had no business being handed so much money and power on a silver platter through sheer luck while good people work to the bone only to get oppressed by a system they ultimately can't change. My expectations of others has been dragged through the mud over and over while life has the audacity to demand more from me as a person and I am just tired of even trying to be a decent person while the rest of the world hardly cares.
I don't even feel like I have the right to be depressed and considering suicide, as much as it feels like my life is in the shitter I'm one of the lucky ones who had a stable life spoon fed to me. I have never gone a day in my life hungry or thirsty, I have an education, I have two parents, I have no crippling health problems, I have opportunities in life that others would kill for, I have no right to say my life sucks. But with each and every day that passes the more pointless everything feels, what little ambition and passion I had was beaten out of me, hobbies start to become work to continue when they're supposed to be my escape from the world, I can barely muster the energy to stay out of bed during the day anymore.
It's just depressing knowing that life can take whatever it wants from us and the only thing we're allowed to do is to move on and move forward. Life owes us absolutely nothing for our hard work and it's just a matter of hoping what we've built up isn't knocked down by circumstances or even other people we can't control. And who's to say what we earn in life isn't actually just handed to us? No one knows when or even if they will ever find love and no one earns opportunities in life, they just get lucky. What is the point is caring so much when life can give as little as it cares to and take as much as it likes? Sometimes it feels like I'm just smart enough to understand how fucked life can be but not smart or even ambitious enough to work towards changing my life for the better.
I understand that I am depressed and a lot of my thoughts are the result of my condition and that life isn't as screwed up as I perceive it to be and I can feel a lot better if I get treated. Perhaps I can even build a good life. But it doesn't change that I genuinely believe life is, for the most part pointless and everything can be taken away. I've thought this for a very long time, granted I've probably been depressed to some degree since high school or even earlier than that. It doesn't help that I had a bit of a rough breakup that do doubt made my depression significantly worse but I'm not going to blame anyone but myself for allowing it to consume my mind and being so stubborn about leaving behind a chapter of my life. In a few months I will have spent more time trying to move on than I have spent actually dating.
Life has been nothing but predictable, every disappointment I experience feeds my confirmation bias and gives me one more reason to be bored of life. When I realized what great thing I finally had I thought to myself this is going to end so uneventfully, so quietly and with no room for recourse and I'm just building myself just high enough to send myself into a pit of despair. But I also thought maybe, just maybe if I can just have this one thing, one amazing person who promises to stay in my life as the love of my life and my closest friend then maybe life isn't all that bad. Of course it ended just the way I expected it to, the way I was afraid of the most. We drifted apart and slowly but surely I was dropped out of her life, I was told while it wasn't my fault there was nothing I was allowed to do to stop or fix what was happening. How am I supposed to carry on with life when I've been disappointed one too many times?
The only reason I'm still alive is because I'm too unambitious to make any meaningful progress towards cbt. When I think about the last two years I've done a lot to move on and have even made good progress, even if it doesn't feel like it or feel better for it. I've grown tired of giving life a chance even if it's by simply being alive. When I think about how there isn't a single day I would have minded missing out on if I just killed myself earlier then it robs me of what little hope I have in life.
My only regret is not having a more positive impact on those around me. It saddens me when I think about what I'm going to do to my parents who while not perfect by any means absolutely don't deserve to have their child who they poured so much work and love into taken away from them. It saddens me when I think of those who will be traumatized having a close family member or friend suddenly take their own life so suddenly, taking away any opportunity to see each other, filling them with "what ifs" and "if only I" thoughts. I regret I won't be around to comfort the people who will be hurting over me. But I have no desire to grow old and decrepit alone, watching as the world moves on while my struggle just drives me in circles as more and more people leave my life and I'm left alone. The day will come when I will have to care for myself and carve my own place in the world that acts like it is unable to or doesn't want to support me.
I'm sick of all the sickly sweet positive bullshit people are happy to shit out of their mouths when they can't even comprehend the pain and hopelessness people with depression experience. I'm sick of feeling nothing but bitterness, anger, jealousy, frustration and feeling like I'm just never enough to live a good life.
I just want one good reason to wake up tomorrow.