Venting Im glad she rejected me.

[cylus46]

I have a lot of issues to put it bluntly. I mean it takes two seconds to see what I post on here to get that idea.
But there was this beautiful girl at the store and these past few weeks I been crushing so hard.
Im talking she says hi and makes eye contact my insides get all mushy and I struggle to form a coherent sentence. She's not even my usual type and honest I couldn't pinpoint why I fell so hard for her but her eyes, her face, her hair...just all entranced me. I told my homies about her and they convinced me to ask her for her contacts. I went in a few days and pussied out. A few days ago I actually managed to spit out the words "hey can I get your Instagram or snap?"

She rejected me, turns out shes bi and has a girlfriend which i didnt know. But It wasn't bad thank God, she was really respectful and let me know with a smile, I was awkward for a moment but smiled back and said it was all good.

I expected to be a little disappointed but I was more relieved then anything. I have a lot of issues and mental health problems and let's say she didnt reject me then what? Im confident in my ability to be a good partner i dated someone before with my same issues and i treated her like a queen but being what I am its hard to know if I can be a good man and i guess i just question myself and my abilities. Especially since a lot of women look for a man who does is stoic and isn't emotional or has problems. I dont know im a little sad a few days later it didnt pan out but im also relieved.

I really want someone to love me in that type of way and im confident in my ability to love someone in that type of way
But im me and I doubt if im worthy of that love or if im just doing whatever girl that does date me a disservice just for being who I am.

 

[bankai]

Seems like limerence to me. It's not a good thing. Many people struggle with this and it's not a good idea to do this because You're going too fast, too quickly.too fast,too furious??

Usually end up in bad relationships because the pedestal you put them on isn't realistic.


But it's nice you took your shot even if it didn't work out . You are putting yourself out there and working for it.that's great

 

[cylus46]

Seems like limerence to me. It's not a good thing. Many people struggle with this and it's not a good idea to do this because You're going too fast, too quickly.too fast,too furious??

Usually end up in bad relationships because the pedestal you put them on isn't realistic.


But it's nice you took your shot even if it didn't work out . You are putting yourself out there and working for it.that's great

My good Ole friend limerence

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

Back in my day you would just ask for her phone number and just plain talk. Directly. Worst case would be she had a boyfriend who would beat the crap out of you for messing with his girlfriend. Things sound more... complicated now. Good luck out there! I don't envy young people today. No wonder birth rates are falling off a cliff.

 

[cylus46]

Back in my day you would just ask for her phone number and just plain talk. Directly. Worst case would be she had a boyfriend who would beat the crap out of you for messing with his girlfriend. Things sound more... complicated now. Good luck out there! I don't envy young people today. No wonder birth rates are falling off a cliff.

I did combat sports and hit the gym regularly. So Im not really worried about getting beat up LMAO but luckily this girl was really chill and was resepctful. I enjoy the simple interactions that arent more complicated then they have to be.

 

[theboy]

I feel you
I lost (or they lost me?) people because I have emotional instability
It's garbage
But maybe it's best to take care of yourself or others

 

[LittleMagician]

I have a lot of issues to put it bluntly. I mean it takes two seconds to see what I post on here to get that idea.
But there was this beautiful girl at the store and these past few weeks I been crushing so hard.
Im talking she says hi and makes eye contact my insides get all mushy and I struggle to form a coherent sentence. She's not even my usual type and honest I couldn't pinpoint why I fell so hard for her but her eyes, her face, her hair...just all entranced me. I told my homies about her and they convinced me to ask her for her contacts. I went in a few days and pussied out. A few days ago I actually managed to spit out the words "hey can I get your Instagram or snap?"

She rejected me, turns out shes bi and has a girlfriend which i didnt know. But It wasn't bad thank God, she was really respectful and let me know with a smile, I was awkward for a moment but smiled back and said it was all good.

I expected to be a little disappointed but I was more relieved then anything. I have a lot of issues and mental health problems and let's say she didnt reject me then what? Im confident in my ability to be a good partner i dated someone before with my same issues and i treated her like a queen but being what I am its hard to know if I can be a good man and i guess i just question myself and my abilities. Especially since a lot of women look for a man who does is stoic and isn't emotional or has problems. I dont know im a little sad a few days later it didnt pan out but im also relieved.

I really want someone to love me in that type of way and im confident in my ability to love someone in that type of way
But im me and I doubt if im worthy of that love or if im just doing whatever girl that does date me a disservice just for being who I am.

You are coping, you will face many more rejections so I am glad you took it well

 

[jenson]

Literally saw this post right after I joined. Same thing happened to me but I was stupid enough to let it be a coworker/good friend. Luckily she is cool enough to not make it awkward but things probably wont be the same. Anyway I really wish the best for you man!