I’m behind everyone. I don’t deserve to take up space around them

[Water-Lily]

A friend had made an Instagram post about how they're putting in the work to be vulnerable and growing and dating

I had to shut off the site

The sad reality is that I'm too traumatized. I was abused too much, suffered too much, and live in a toxic home that for odes and development. By the time I manage to get out, it'll be too late and I'll be too behind my peers

Peers who've been in and are currently in relationships

Peers who have been able to work and save up money

Peers who, despite their issues, aren't as fucked up as me and can live decent lives

Trauma makes you fall behind

It wasn't my fault, but it's mh reality. Hence, me being 25 and being behind them

So every time I'm around them, every time they choose to be kind, I and to say

"Stop being nice to me. I'm below you and can't reach up to your level"

Thanks to my circumstances I'll always be behind

No point inviting people out to events. I am not like them. I can't be like them. So no point being around people ahead of you

They should instead be invited by people who are on their level. Who they can be vulnerable and spend Good time with

I'm a waste to spend time with

 

[Mx_Pathetic]

A friend had made an Instagram post about how they're putting in the work to be vulnerable and growing and dating

I had to shut off the site

The sad reality is that I'm too traumatized. I was abused too much, suffered too much, and live in a toxic home that for odes and development. By the time I manage to get out, it'll be too late and I'll be too behind my peers

Peers who've been in and are currently in relationships

Peers who have been able to work and save up money

Peers who, despite their issues, aren't as fucked up as me and can live decent lives

Trauma makes you fall behind

It wasn't my fault, but it's mh reality. Hence, me being 25 and being behind them

So every time I'm around them, every time they choose to be kind, I and to say

"Stop being nice to me. I'm below you and can't reach up to your level"

Thanks to my circumstances I'll always be behind

No point inviting people out to events. I am not like them. I can't be like them. So no point being around people ahead of you

They should instead be invited by people who are on their level. Who they can be vulnerable and spend Good time with

I'm a waste to spend time with

Im 20 and everyone I know that is around my age has a job or has moved out already. And all I can think is I'll never be able to do those things because of mh. I might have supportive parents that won't kick me out because of my mh. But idk if that's a good thing or not. Will I be living with my parents forever...will be jobless forever..being a house keeper for my family for the rest of my life...my anxiety and depression make it so hard for me to function and no one understands no matter how hard I try to explain..

 

[Water-Lily]

Im 20 and everyone I know that is around my age has a job or has moved out already. And all I can think is I'll never be able to do those things because of mh. I might have supportive parents that won't kick me out because of my mh. But idk if that's a good thing or not. Will I be living with my parents forever...will be jobless forever..being a house keeper for my family for the rest of my life...my anxiety and depression make it so hard for me to function and no one understands no matter how hard I try to explain..

Treasure the fact that you have unconditionally loving parents. It's a huge benefit to have that support

And I can relate. In mh case I'm finally going to be working but, I have so many issues it's not worth getting close to people. If they saw the darkness in me they wouldn't want to be around me

 

[feder]

Sorry you are feeling like this, social norms and status are all bullshit. I can relate because it's been the same feeling for me. But when I realized that we are all going to die I understood it doesn't matter, those things don't matter at all. Your worth is not determined by your social status nor is it determined by people's opinions. Don't beat yourself up over that, please.

Also, nice pfp I love avatar and Katara is my favorite character, it's nice to see someone else who likes the show. Wish you the best!

 

[Hollowman]

I can relate, I've been behind most people for over three decades. It's embarrassing that's why I isolate so much.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Yeah, I'm pretty much a waste of space, too, and a waste of resources that would be better going towards someone who actually wanted to be here.

 

[Water-Lily]

Sorry you are feeling like this, social norms and status are all bullshit. I can relate because it's been the same feeling for me. But when I realized that we are all going to die I understood it doesn't matter, those things don't matter at all. Your worth is not determined by your social status nor is it determined by people's opinions. Don't beat yourself up over that, please.

Also, nice pfp I love avatar and Katara is my favorite character, it's nice to see someone else who likes the show. Wish you the best!

I wish I could be like them. I wish I could be in relationships and be vulnerable like them

And yeah, Katara is such a beautiful character

 

[alonely]

I can relate. My childhood was survival mode. I never learned any social or life skills, or learned how to learn those skills. Thrown into the world at 18 not knowing at all how to be a human, or how to function in society at all.

Throw in the effects of the trauma on top of that - I had no chance in the world. The years and years of trying to get past all of this has been useless and I am exhausted.

 

[MrDarkness]

I never had an abusive home, just a very broken one, I'm 18, never been in a relationship, nor has anyone been interested in me, I'm still using allowance as money, I don't have a driver license, I'm surprised I passed high school, idk what now. Everyone around me is doing better, but I can't crawl out of this shit hole

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

dont compare yourself to others, comparison is thief of joy. Focus on your life and what you can do. Make yourself happy and take it in steps. To you their life may seem perfect but inside they have issues and doubts as well especially on social media they want to protray their best selves, you can find what you want , dont compare. everyones story is different.

 

[feder]

I wish I could be like them. I wish I could be in relationships and be vulnerable like them

And yeah, Katara is such a beautiful character

I feel you, finding a good partner nowadays is really hard. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable with someone takes courage, but in my opinion that's the only way a relationship can be strong, only if both partners are able to open up fully and love each other for who they are. But loving yourself is just as important
(I'm out here preaching self love while I sh every day lmao)
I hope you can find the one soon!

 

[MeltingBrain]

A friend had made an Instagram post about how they're putting in the work to be vulnerable and growing and dating

I had to shut off the site

The sad reality is that I'm too traumatized. I was abused too much, suffered too much, and live in a toxic home that for odes and development. By the time I manage to get out, it'll be too late and I'll be too behind my peers

Peers who've been in and are currently in relationships

Peers who have been able to work and save up money

Peers who, despite their issues, aren't as fucked up as me and can live decent lives

Trauma makes you fall behind

It wasn't my fault, but it's mh reality. Hence, me being 25 and being behind them

So every time I'm around them, every time they choose to be kind, I and to say

"Stop being nice to me. I'm below you and can't reach up to your level"

Thanks to my circumstances I'll always be behind

No point inviting people out to events. I am not like them. I can't be like them. So no point being around people ahead of you

They should instead be invited by people who are on their level. Who they can be vulnerable and spend Good time with

I'm a waste to spend time with

We are at very similar places on this !
I am also in my 20's
Almost all my peers are what society would consider successful . Skilling up, getting promoted, getting married , raking in loads of money . No one else says it but the pressure keeps piling up and I end up feeling like a loser at life while others are winners at life . This brings in a lot of shame . Sometimes I avoid social situations just because of that . I feel ashamed of where I am at .

So every time I'm around them, every time they choose to be kind, I and to say

"Stop being nice to me. I'm below you and can't reach up to your level"

Yikes, you have said this aloud?

No point inviting people out to events. I am not like them. I can't be like them. So no point being around people ahead of you

They should instead be invited by people who are on their level. Who they can be vulnerable and spend Good time with

I'm a waste to spend time with

So sorry you feel this way.
It's not even that people say it , but you feel that pressure of other peoples achievements in a group setting . Could be evolutionary , our own brain self-selecting us out of a group so that we don't come in the way of successful people, even though we might not be coming in their way.

Did your parents withhold love from you (or were angry) if you performed subpar in college or school ? I have noticed people who have this problem have some childhood issue of parents withholding their love .

 

[OhWellDerp321]

I wish you well man. But I know the feeling of falling behind. Lots of people will say "it's never too late". But really man...... I mean if you saw a 50 year old jobless guy with no wife and no family, but he still wanted a family, would you really be telling him "it's not too late?". At this point if you tell him "it's not too late", you'd be lying and doing him more harm than good with false hope.

There is a limit to "it's never too late".