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If you saw someone attempt ctb irl, would you save them? Why or why no?
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My answer is no bc imo it each induviduals choice whether they wanna live or no, plus forching someone who's in outch to live is inhumane imo. I would make sure they are safe tho and maybe give them some last wishes.
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Unlucky777, ijustwishtodie, Forever Sleep and 3 others
I don't know that I would "save" them, I'm not so conceited to think that I could, but I'd probably talk to them if I could, or if there was some immediate danger to their life that I could avert I might step in, on the off chance its some kind of accident or whatever. I'd try to be there and listen, and if they were really dead-set on doing the deed right there I might stick around and psychopomp 'em off to wherever. But I don't think I would save them. Even if they reconsidered after speaking to me I wouldn't consider that me saving them, that would be them making a decision for themselves, same as any person who follows through to completion.
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Kirke, ForeverSubhuman, ladylazarus4 and 3 others
no, i would never do that. i think it's immoral to intervene in anyone's attempt. all of us should be able to exit whenever we want, regardless of our reasons and circumstances, because we were brought into existence without our will or consent in the first place. i would just ignore them because even paying attention to them could be stressful for them due to how restrictive suicide is treated in our society
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Unlucky777, ladylazarus4, Shadowpriest and 2 others
Of course not, I have compassion and I'm not sadistic like pro-lifers are. Forcing people to suffer in this hellish existence they never consented to being in should be a crime. "Saving" people from suicide is just harming them and making them suffer way more, it disturbs me how anyone would do that especially as existence is beyond undesirable.
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Unlucky777, ladylazarus4, JKFleck and 4 others
I talked the other day w a suicide hotline. They didn't tell me to stop or rethink it, but just told me that they were there for me if I needed to talk. I felt more understood than I had ever talked to any person irl (i feel more understood here but anyways). At least they didn't try with the usual "its a permanent solution" "you have so much to live for" "think about the others" shit. And I think that should be their job, to understand, not to just "try to stop" a suicidal attempt.
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Unlucky777, ceelobling, ijustwishtodie and 6 others
This will probably be hypocritical but it would depend on who the person is. For example if I could go back to 2019 when my father figure CTB, I would save him in an instant without any hesitation - To be fair he did the same for me during one of my attempts in 2018. I may also save people who are less close like support workers but apart from that I feel everyone else has a right to die. I guess it's part of my fear of abandonment that makes me want to save the people I care about.
I would talk to them first. It may help them feel a little bit better, but just talking doesn't always work for everyone. If they truly want to end it, then that's their decision.
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ladylazarus4, Edpal247, Pancake1230 and 2 others
I talked the other day w a suicide hotline. They didn't tell me to stop or rethink it, but just told me that they were there for me if I needed to talk. I felt more understood than I had ever talked to any person irl (i feel more understood here but anyways). At least they didn't try with the usual "its a permanent solution" "you have so much to live for" "think about the others" shit. And I think that should be their job, to understand, not to just "try to stop" a suicidal attempt.
You are so lucky! Where I live if you call a hotline and say you gonna ctb they will either call an ambulance on you and have you sent to hospital, or tell you to seek help. Some of the operators can be discrimatory even. Although some can be nice to talk to also.
If it's someone I care about then most likely yeah. I'm kind of selfish and evil like that.
If it's someone I don't care about then maybe I'd at least pretend to attempt to save them if anyone else is watching. Otherwise I might be too paralyzed with fear to save anyone even if I wanted to.
Its everyone's right to choose when, and the method in which they die.. who am I to interfere in that decision? I wouldn't appreciate if anyone tried to stop me during my CTB..
It depends. If it's an adult I'd make myself available to talk, but I would not stop them because it's their body, if it's a child, I'm not sure if I can answer the same way.
yes. i dont think its the morally right thing to do but im still alive and dont want to get into trouble (legally or being condemned by everyone for being "pro death" or allowing someone to die)
yeah im a selfish person
yes. i dont think its the morally right thing to do but im still alive and dont want to get into trouble (legally or being condemned by everyone for being "pro death" or allowing someone to die)
yeah im a selfish person
If it was someone I cared about to any extent I dont think I could stand by and do nothing. I am a human w/ emotions and want people to live and enjoy life, however improbable it may be for any person. I'm not a robot who can watch someone die because it can be logically construed as the most compassionate thing to do.
I think a lot of people here would do the same. Whatever the course of action is, it is easy to say what you would do when you are not making the split-second decision in the moment.
thats true, but I'd have no idea whether their family would be the type to make a mess and sue me or something or not doing what i could. even if i dont get into legal trouble i dont think i have the guts to deal with the possibility of being socially ostracized and having all my life prospects ruined by the bad publicity involved. ofc i actually had the courage to ctb none of this would be an issue but i dont so...
I say it depends. Realistically, some people are in too much shock to appropriately respond. So even if they want to save, they may find themselves unable to. It also depends on the method, as I could reverse an OD with Narcan but definitely not undo a gunshot to the head.
If I saw a stranger acting weird near a bridge, I would personally avoid because it could be anything ranging from a suicidial person to someone ready to mug me.
If it was my friend, who is intoxicated with substances that made them impulsively attempt to CTB, I would try my best to save them, even though I'm a hypocrite and want no one to save me. Even if they weren't intoxicated I would try. I think it's mostly because I can't handle the guilt. The "what of I could of saved them" trauma echoing.
We can say all these things about letting people die or help them in hypotheticals, but to save them would be an action we would do on impulse when the right circumstances are met. The Internet can sometimes make us null to IRL crisis situations.
Depends. I certainly think I would talk to them. Not necessarily to stop them, but because I'd be very interested in what they have to say. Also, if their method was something that would harm a lot of other people, then I suppose I would.
I've talked to someone that was suicidal before and was just there to listen and not give any advice. In his case it was more of an immediate frustration with life kinda thing and not a "i've been planning this for a while" like me, so I knew he'd be ok. I think the first thing one should do is just listen and support them, not give any advice or toxic positivity, just be there. If they end up making their decision with a sound mind, there's nothing you could have said or done that would have changed their mind. I firmly believe that. There's nothing anyone could say or do that wouldn't at max just delay my decision. I've had many try to help.
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