If you saw someone attempt ctb irl, would you save them? Why or why no?

[Forever Sleep]

I'd probably ask them if they wanted to talk. I hope I wouldn't use cheap tricks to talk them out of it though.

Really though- if someone is on a bridge say when there are lots of people around- why did they choose that time? Surely, it could actually be that they want someone to talk to them or- they're acting impulsively. I think that needs to be established. It probably is possible to suicide while under the influence of psychosis or drugs or whatever.

But then, I suppose it becomes- could you talk to them, establish that they had thought this all through and then, walk away? Would you get into trouble for that? I think that's another reason people do get involved. The blame culture we have in this world. That people are expected to stop someone.

 

[qw3rty259]

I wouldn't save that person. But it's a really shitty situation to be in if you have witnesses, lol. I imagine you could get a LOT of hate

I'd probably ask them if they wanted to talk.

Sry I imagined a person in a noose hanging there... And someone's asking them "would you like to talk about it"...

But yeah, it also depends of the situation. Talking to a suffocating person isn't an option...

 

[NoPoint2Life]

If they were humans they would play soulsborne at the age of 7 minutes

Every day. I have been saying this since I was a kid. I wish this more than anything. Most ppl wish for money or a car. I just wish I was never here

I wouldn't save that person. But it's a really shitty situation to be in if you have witnesses, lol. I imagine you could get a LOT of hate

I was thinking the same thing.
I am of the feeling that knowing that I am pro-choice, I wouldn't want to save them since I wouldn't want to be saved.
But…. I also imagine there is something that has to be similar to SI that must kick in. It's got to be a natural reflex that would make you want to help the person. No one wants to see someone die right in front of them.

I was thinking the same thing.
I am of the feeling that knowing that I am pro-choice, I wouldn't want to save them since I wouldn't want to be saved.
But…. I also imagine there is something that has to be similar to SI that must kick in. It's got to be a natural reflex that would make you want to help the person. No one wants to see someone die right in front of them.

Sorry for the numerous quotes above. I only meant to quote the last one. Obviously I haven't figured out how quotes work yet lol!

 

[Reflection]

I'm not gonna talk from a moral standpoint. But personally it would very well depend on the situation and the person, at the very least I would try to talk to them and understand where they're coming from, and if they are someone so close to me and whom I love I might try to intervene on the grounds that doing so means they aren't gonna end up suffering a worse fate i.e becoming a vegetable, that's just cruel...if I could save them and/or talk them out of it I would then do my very best to help them find another way out, if it all proves to fail then I would have no choice but to let them do what they believe is best.

 

[zaza23]

Honestly I don't know. If I just stumbled onto a situation, the likelihood is autopilot to help the person will kick in. I absolutely would not take away from what a person wants, how to decide what's an impulse decision from a planned one is difficult I suppose. And whether we should judge even the impulse decisions is tough. I have people I love who have had those impulse moments and I'd want to be there to help them through what might be temporary feelings.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

Not sure. I feel like I would try. If I didn't, I know it would weigh heavily on me if that person does it and succeed. Additionally, do I know the person? If it's someone I know, I likely would try to help them, or at least try to give them an ear to bend.

 

[maylurker]

yes because it is naturally right

 

[ceelobling]

I would't want to. People should be able to ctb if they want, but part of me would feel bad and I would cave in and try to talk to them. I would just talk, I'm not gonna interfere by grabbing them or something.

 

[ForeverSubhuman]

Not forcefully. I'd try to talk to them about it and see if there's anything I can do to help but in the end it's their choice. It's really sad seeing people with potential die so I'd genuinely like to help somebody who's having a bad day or something and not dead set on it.

 

[grantaire]

this is a really interesting question cause it's something I really struggle with. it depends I guess. I have stopped someone before. multiple times. and afterwards they thanked me. I think my decision to or not to would be influenced by 1) being certain that that was actually what they wanted and 2) how selfish I am to keep someone in my life. #2 overwhelms me a lot. and it sucks cause I know I don't want people extending that to me. I do genuinely think people should be able to ctb if they want. but it's hard when you want that person to stay with you.

 

[TearStainedSunsets]

This happened to me. I did save them. But only because they asked me to. I'm currently struggling with that honestly. This was about a month ago. I planned to post about the whole experience somewhere on this forum just to vent because of how weird it feels to be someone who has been so okay with suicide and suddenly, when faced with it, I went into doctor mode and saved them. It's kind of a terrible feeling. The thought of "Their suffering is still happening only because of me. Because I 'saved their life' and didn't let them die" but also knowing that they outright cried to me and asked me to save them. Said they fucked up and regretted it and knew they would die if they didn't call me and ask to be saved.

It's truly a weird and bad feeling.

Would I do it again? No. Not at first. But if they asked me to save them, I would do everything in my power to do so.

this is a really interesting question cause it's something I really struggle with. it depends I guess. I have stopped someone before. multiple times. and afterwards they thanked me. I think my decision to or not to would be influenced by 1) being certain that that was actually what they wanted and 2) how selfish I am to keep someone in my life. #2 overwhelms me a lot. and it sucks cause I know I don't want people extending that to me. I do genuinely think people should be able to ctb if they want. but it's hard when you want that person to stay with you.

Exactly. It's one of the hardest feelings in the world to want someone to stay alive because you love them but you're also aware of their pains and desire to ctb. It almost locks you in place in a way because theres nothing you can do at that point.
Its really a terrible feeling.