Resource If You Become A Vegatable...

[itsmeagain]

NOTE, I DO NOT KNOW IF OTHER PLACES HAVE DIFFERENT PRACTICES. THIS HAPPENED IN NEW YORK, U.S. AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE RULING IS ANYWHERE ELSE.

When my mother CTB, the family had to gather around and decide if she was going to live or die, since she couldn't respond. Everyone who was there that was family had to pretty much say their peace and I think come to an agreement.

I DO NOT KNOW IF THIS CHANGES IF YOU LEAVE A NOTE. FEEL FREE TO ADD BELOW IF IT WORKS

So, leave it in your note, do some research, but if you need a quick answer and come from NY, US, at least at the hospital I WENT TO, it was decided by your family.

 

[JustLosingMyself]

Next of kin's wishes are advisory, the doctors have final say

 

[itsmeagain]

Next of kin's wishes are advisory, the doctors have final say

Really?!?!? They left it up to US in that situation!!!!!

 

[TAW122]

Hmm, I'm not sure if my family would be on board with my wishes, especially if I ever find myself in such a predicament. I think their love for life and hate against death would cloud their decision. Also, this is one of the reasons that I am going to be more than 100% sure when I attempt, that I CTB successfully so I don't end up being a 'vegetable'. I would not attempt if there was any shred of doubt or uncertainty, possibly leaving my permanently crippled.

 

[JustLosingMyself]

Really?!?!? They left it up to US in that situation!!!!!

In the UK and Ireland anyways.

 

[itsmeagain]

In the UK and Ireland anyways.

Please make this more clear, it is a resource thread love.

 

[can'tdoitanymore]

I don't know this works everwhere. When I was getting divorced (in US) my attorney drew up an advanced health care directive for me so my soon to be ex-husband wouldn't have control over medical decisions. It states something along the lines that if there is no chance of regaining consciousness or the likely risks or burdens of treatment outweigh the expected benefits that i do not want my life prolonged and the only treatment I will accept in those circumstances is pain relief but it is not the same as DNR and if the hospital has no access to that form they will do what they want. It's a huge document I'm not exactly going to carry around with me or even keep it out for a suicide attempt. I wish I could get a DNR too but think as a healthy, young person it would be too suspiscious and no dr would do this. From what I have read a note is not good enough. It has to be a legal document. Someone once even tattooed Do not resusciate onto their chest (someone with a terminal illness) and although the hospital did end up granting their wishes it took a debate on what to do among staff and it could have gone either way. I think anyone can get an advanced health care directive though for relatively cheap but again not sure how it works in different countries. I even had psych nurses tell me to get one, that they had one after all the horrific suffering they had seen people go through as "vegetables".

 

[JustLosingMyself]

Please make this more clear, it is a resource thread love.

Just that. In the UK and in Ireland the wishes of the next of kin / family informs the decision whether or not to pursue treatment on someone who is not able to decide for themselves, whatever the reason (declared incapacity, coma, ...). The decision itself lies with the treating physicians. The physicians can ignore the wishes of the family if their clinical judgement is that it's in the patient's best interests.