I don't like my family and don't need to tell them the exact reason.
Perfectly fine.
How could you keep it separate from your family. ? Even if you left the note with a close friend. Eventually they would be questioned about it.
How could you leave a note for the abuser.
In that case. If you did it anonymously. Letter. Social media. Etc.
Nothing would happen. Questioning and denial.
Any idea on how I can make it look like that?
I mean if the SA LITERALLY happend today. And you ctb tomorrow. With note.
you can't really make it look like that if it happend monthd/years ago. Unless you make a statement in person. And explain your story.
Then LE can set a time frame. Can't do this if you ctb.
I have my pc and phone encrypted.
The abusers phone. Check txt/discord to prove or disprove your note.
How would they use dna if it happened months ago last time?
They would enter it in a system like CODIS and see if it has a hit on any past cases. And future cases. This would help verifying your story. And other victims.
Not necessarily the immediate situation. As I said if you went right away it would be different. But I understand why you didn't.
Too much shame can't feel shame when I am dead tho.
I can't really comment on this. But a lot of SA victims feel this.
And when they come out the shame becomes impowerent vs the abuser.
I had a girlfriend that delt with this and it took her awhile for this. But in the end she was still hurt from everything and healing.
but happy the person was charged and couldn't hurt anyone else.
I don't know if he used a vpn for that but you can't use discord over tor afaik.
If you have the name/address/phone #
They can link accounts easy. As long as the actual device wasn't smashed and wasnt on a random McDonald's wifi and not registered. I doubt they did all this to send you a msg.
LE is useless and I don't care if my family goes to jail as long as my abuser gets hurt, I hate my family too.
Your abuser will not go to jail just by leaving a note. Unless they Crack and confess.
They will get questioned. And they can deny everything.
Unless you hand over the screnshots.
And come forward.
if LE is useless they why are you even contemplating this ?
Your contracting your self. You said you don't want your brother to do something and jail.
But now you hate your family.
So why not just leave the note and allow revenge.
It was only some touching in private areas after I said no and my family also told me that this is normal that this happened so probably not that bad.
You're literally down playing your own SA.
" it was ONLY"
That's like me if I slapped someone instead of a punch and said " it's only a slap" doesn't matter still assault in a court room.
If you guys were making out and this person tried something and you said no... stop
and kept going its SA.
If it was a random person that started touching you and out of no where. You said no that's SA.
Also depends if they held you or forced you. And if you were able to leave. When did it stop. Etc.
I had consequences after my past attempts, they sent me to psych wards and day clinics.
Some actions have consequences. Unfortunately.
Any family would. Initially.
They didn't care first time I was in psych ward they just told nonsense and wanted to give me medication.
You told them the first time was because of SA and that's why you attempted?
Not sure what to say.
If they didn't care that's rough.
And of course any ward or hospital will give meds for.sure. to any person that attempts.
Why did they mentally torture me after my other attempts?
I am also questioning it.
I can't answer this. Human Emotions are wild.
Caring/love can become Anger/frustration
in a second.
A long time ago when I didn't take my meds my partner would be upset with me.
sometimes nice sometimes angry.
Above you said it depends.
This was before I saw the mention about the text msg and whatever other proof.
Just a note. With you not able to speak on it. Plus no txt proof. Is nothing.
If you hand in txt and a story and speak. It's completely different.
In this world you get punished with dumb psych wards if you fail ctb.
Psych wards are horrible. I agree.
But that's a known consequence.
People aren't going to bake a cake and celebrate an attempt.
Would be nice. But that's not reality.
In my experience the atmosphere is different.
Drug OD attempt. No reason.
Compared to SA attempt.
People show more sympathy to one.
It is torture for me to not have a pc or phone to distract myself.
I get that.
No my mom is dumb she got angry in the past when I told her that I want to die,
Everyone reacts different to this type of news. Not sure what to say. It's when you care so much you get angry. Because they don't understand.
she yells at me or tells me it is normal to get sexually assaulted cause it happened to her too.
It's not normal. And if your mom said that.
She has her own problems she needs to work out. It's not good that it happened to her and she's dealing with it in a horrible way by taking it out on you which is crazy/unfair.
I need to sleep I've been up for many hours losing track. I'll watch the thread. I hope you can get some sort of conclusion.
