idk if this counts as sa

[meowth]

i'm having a very hard time figuring this out..because he was younger than me..way younger. so, i was in the back seat with my younger cousin and my grandma and aunt were in the front. i was in the middle and he was in the left of me. i was wearing a black dress and he started to put his hands underneath and he started kissing my thighs and doing stuff that made me uncomfortable…but i didn't say anything because he was 6. and i thought like, "oh well he's only a little boy he doesn't know what he's doing.." thus i didn't tell him to stop even though i wanted to. at the time i was 13. someone please tell me if this would count as sa bc i've been thinking about it ever since.

 

[deomlez]

What sounds important to me is your feeling about it, not his age or gender or anything else.
I'm with you.

 

[AllFoxedOut]

I would say so. How responsible is he for his actions? Hard to say. Kids those age are often just acting out of their environment- so I wouldn't be surprised if he was being SA'd at the time.

All of that being said, the ages and age differences don't make your trauma less valid. I would definitely recommend talking to a therapist specialised in SA.

 

[BlackNails]

Yes, that was SA imho
There might be many reasons behind his actions, specially at such a young age, but what you have is your experience and from what it seems it bothers you often.
You are valid if that is what you doubt

 

[deomlez]

And it s very important, so you are able to decide you are a victim or a survivor, according to your mindset.
Many many good waves to you. You are not alone.

 

[90starve]

i agree with previous commenters that this was SA - whether he understood what he was doing or not.

 

[absolomonisgone]

I disagree with all the above ---, I'm an old bigot. It was just a kid brought up badly. And you should have slapped sense into him(although from what I read all over, in the west, everyone has been completely tamed and you don't use violence).
Don't dwell on it too much. Look at the funny side of of it and laugh it off.

 

[deomlez]

I disagree with all the above ---, I'm an old bigot. It was just a kid brought up badly. And you should have slapped sense into him(although from what I read all over, in the west, everyone has been completely tamed and you don't use violence).
Don't dwell on it too much. Look at the funny side of of it and laugh it off.

Let me guess... you are a man never assaulted ?
If so, you can not know. No link to old bigot. That s not who did that, it s only the way she has felt. "You should" is definitively inappropriate, as the imperative form.

 

[sulli]

cocsa is very real. it was probably the trauma tipping point that set the rest of my life on a downward spiral

 

[HopefulSleep]

This is a real thing and is traumatizing, when I was a child in elementary school one kid got sexually abused by teenagers and the kid did the same thing to other kids then and then many children sexually assaulted each other, adults even saw it but they didn't do anything they just pretended like it never happened, they could have prevented so much damage.
It also happened to me and it is indeed traumatizing, I am pretty sure this is one of the biggest reason for all my mental pain and it also destroyed the friends I had that time.
Other people told me that this is normal children behavior but it isn't, that is not natural in any way, the root of that is that the kid who does that got sexually assaulted before and kids just do what others do that is also the reason why they often bully each other so heavily.
I am sorry that happened to you, in my opinion it is not the kids fault cause a 6 year old can't think for themselves but I am sure he got sexually abused by someone and it would be good to find out who did that but I have no idea on how to find that out, it is the fault of the person who abused the kid.
Sexual abuse is so scary I hate this world.
You are not alone with this, if you need someone to talk about this you can pm me, as I said cocsa also happened to me.