I will not get my happy ending it's too late for me

[FireFox]

All I really wanted was to be happy in life with a man who loved me for who I truly am but as I approach 25 this week I realise now its too late for me to find love.Sometimes I think I am maybe I was made to be rejected after all my father didn't want me.

I spent my entire life being that girl no guy ever takes an interest in. At school I was the werid unpopular girl and this what led to guys bullying or ignoring me then in adulthood guys pretty much ignore and reject me too. At 16 I really liked this guy because I thought he was absolutely amazing as a person there was so much to admire about him .We used to talk to each other nearly everyday in break time and we enjoyed each others company then he began to push me away as people in the school began talk more about me and him. I thought he was different but it turned out he was like everyone else in the school who thought I was the werid girl and he didn't want me to around him anymore, that is what hurt the absolute most. He humiliated me in the school and didn't care how much he hurt me. In adulthood I asked guys out and they dump at the last minute, no guy ever shows a real interest in me. I am naturally confident, I enjoy having stimulating discussions on issues but my personality will never be enough.

I can't win anymore. Most guys want a really attractive girlfriend and don't care about personality. As more men continue be exposed to multiple images of attractive women in the pornography videos they stream on their devices,the only fans accounts they subscribe to it is inevitable a generation of men will have higher demands of what they want in a woman. My black hair, brown eyes and brown skin are boring compared to that woman with blonde hair and blue eyes or red hair living in a European country doesnt help either.

The years of male rejection has finally broken me and I can no longer cope anymore. Nobody understands

 

[Brianiskillingme]

For what its worth, you sound pretty to me. I also have black hair and dark brown eyes. I never was lucky in love either. Cheated on or treated like crap.

 

[iamalwaysalone]

Objectively I know 25 is not too late and there is always a chance for you to find someone who loves and cares about you but I'm in the same boat, I have come to the conclusion that I am unloveable and will spend the rest of my life alone because no one will ever find me to be enough

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

I agree with your point about pornography. I think it has really made a lot of men ignore girls who aren't model or porn star level attractiveness

There have been a lot of unrealistic expectations set by the media around looks.

I'm surprised by trends like onlyfans but I think men are embracing only casual or pornographic experiences due to changes in society. For me personally I choose only casual contact because I'm a peak oil believer so I have no interest in procreation. If I could find a prepper girlfriend maybe I would do it

 

[chocolatebar]

I can't win anymore. Most guys want a really attractive girlfriend and don't care about personality. As more men continue be exposed to multiple images of attractive women in the pornography videos they stream on their devices,the only fans accounts they subscribe to it is inevitable a generation of men will have higher demands of what they want in a woman. My black hair, brown eyes and brown skin are boring compared to that woman with blonde hair and blue eyes or red hair living in a European country doesnt help either.

I was going to talk about this, but I understand that you have been through a lot of rejections and how it affected you.

I wish I could talk more to you and your struggles, if you'd like to. I feel like there's still hope for you and you can actually enjoy some good moments in this harsh world. Most people are terrible, but, if there are at least 1% of good people in this world, it means more than 70 million good people. It's a matter of looking for this 1%.

Maybe it's too naive of me to think I can help you somehow, but you can try me anytime. My Dms are always open for you.

 

[Messgram]

Have you ever tried dating ugly guys?

 

[FireFox]

Have you ever tried dating ugly guys?

@Messgram

I am not even obsessed with looks in a guy and still get rejected by average looking and ugly guys too.

Objectively I know 25 is not too late and there is always a chance for you to find someone who loves and cares about you but I'm in the same boat, I have come to the conclusion that I am unloveable and will spend the rest of my life alone because no one will ever find me to be enough

@iamalwaysalone

I absoultely love your tiger profile picture its so adorable

Life is so NOT fair. The worst thing of all the majority of people do not understand how truly feels to go through your entire life without love and always watching on the sidelines seeing everyone else have relationships.

Sending lots of love to you
from
FireFox

I agree with your point about pornography. I think it has really made a lot of men ignore girls who aren't model or porn star level attractiveness

There have been a lot of unrealistic expectations set by the media around looks.

I'm surprised by trends like onlyfans but I think men are embracing only casual or pornographic experiences due to changes in society. For me personally I choose only casual contact because I'm a peak oil believer so I have no interest in procreation. If I could find a prepper girlfriend maybe I would do it

@SuicidallyCurious
Being single throughout my teenage and twenties feels like a lifetime. I spent my life being the girl who never had a guy see her as pretty. I am not even ugly. I am just boring and average looking. My slim body is the only perfect feature of my body.

My features are boring even with make up I still look boring. Blue eyes, green and other eye colour are visibly appealing and stand out. When it comes to Brown eyes the pupil and iris together is so dull and bland with no vibrancy. It looks like pool of mud or entrance to a dark tunnel. If I could have permanent surgery to change the colour of my eyes I would accept it.

Women with blonde, red hair and brown hair look so interesting compared to me.
I will be 25 and I still feel like that rejected teenage girl who never had a prom date or have a guy take an interest in the person she is.

I was going to talk about this, but I understand that you have been through a lot of rejections and how it affected you.

I wish I could talk more to you and your struggles, if you'd like to. I feel like there's still hope for you and you can actually enjoy some good moments in this harsh world. Most people are terrible, but, if there are at least 1% of good people in this world, it means more than 70 million good people. It's a matter of looking for this 1%.

Maybe it's too naive of me to think I can help you somehow, but you can try me anytime. My Dms are always open for you.

@chocolatebar
Thank you :)

You're good friend and person

 

[Messgram]

@Messgram

I am not even obsessed with looks in a guy and still get rejected by average looking and ugly guys too

understandable, but why are you so obsessed with blonde and red hair? the overwhelming majority of the population has black hair and brown eyes, so clearly men are not going to reject you for that, even if you are in europe

 

[VikingHagstrom]

It's going to be okay, you look pretty and you will find someone I m sure

 

[Superdeterminist]

I think that attractiveness can be found in any race, with any eye or hair colour. But attractiveness as a trait itself seems rare, which is really sad. Many people have to live with being average or ugly, which is horrible. They are like background characters in the RPG of life, while the pretty ones get to play the full game. I really don't know if there is "someone for everyone", that seems too good to be true in a world as wicked as this one.

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm sorry that you are in this situation. This life really is so depressing and unfair. It is sad how much suffering there is in the world. I feel like other people can be very disappointing, cruel and can often make things worse. I wish you the best in whatever happens and I hope you find relief from your pain.

 

[FireFox]

understandable, but why are you so obsessed with blonde and red hair? the overwhelming majority of the population has black hair and brown eyes, so clearly men are not going to reject you for that, even if you are in europe

@Messgram

Blonde and red hair are just more interesting and really pretty hair colours. Growing up I always saw the girls with blonde hair get the most attention from guys . One guy I liked and actually talked to but he was always happy to see this girl who had blonde hair and blue eyes. The girl wasn't even a nice person and was actually hostilie and horrible towards me but all the boys wanted her and always flirted with her as well as be so nice to her. I saw this behaviour all the time. Most guys likes blonde hair that is the truth.

Society values more blonde hair sadly this behaviour is all around us. On live television BBC News interviewed the former deputy prosecutor general of Ukraine, who told the network: "It's very emotional for me because I see European people with blue eyes and blond hair … being killed every day." Rather than question or challenge the comment, the BBC host flatly replied, "I understand and respect the emotion." The prosecutor general of Ukraine doesn't even have blonde hair and blue eyes himself the fact he expresses his sadness over people with blonde hair and blue eyes dying that just shows which lives he cares about more. His comments didn't even spark outrage that tells you absolutely everything about society the silence just shows they agree with him. That is our society.


I spent my entire life being that girl every guy ignored.
I am a nice person, I enjoy having stimulating discussions about things and mixing with people but still I am just the ignored girl and now woman. If was born with blonde hair I would look more interesting and guys will actually notice me more. I can not dye my hair blonde hair because I will end up damaging my hair.

 

[FireFox]

For what its worth, you sound pretty to me. I also have black hair and dark brown eyes. I never was lucky in love either. Cheated on or treated like crap.

@Brianiskillingme

Aww thank you for your lovely comment :)
Massive Virtual hug for you as well

As I approach my 25th birthday I just can not stop thinking of all the times boys and men rejected me or ignored me. The worst rejection experience I had was this experience at school.

When I was 16 years old I really liked this boy in school because I thought he was a really amazing guy. I loved how smart he was, how he made me laugh and he was very handsome. We orginally got on well with each other.

Nearly everyday I talked to him a lot at school during break and people in the school saw this and gossiped like they did with other people and their relationships. Everyone could see I liked him and he knew i liked him. One day my crush started to push me away during breaktimes which left me feeling very confused as i didn't understand why. One day he humiliated me in front the entire school and we had a massive argument which I screamed at him as I was so upset.

I liked him because I thought he was different but it turned out he was just like everyone else in the school who thought I was the werid girl and he didn't want me to be around him. This is what hurts the most and still does.

I am sorry for all the pain you experienced in your life, you deserved so much better

Love
FireFox[/USER]

It's going to be okay, you look pretty and you will find someone I m sure

@VikingHagstrom

Awww thanks but I wish that were true.

My birthday is one day away now and I just want to cry because I can't believe this is how my life turned out to be , my life is nothing but a failure, its everything. Yesterday i went to a hemp shop in my county and just brought a range of products. I brought hemp chocolate and a brownie I already brought the tea. Today and tomorrow is nothing but hemp, hemp and more hemp to numb all these feelings.

The hemp tea I brought is quite strong and relaxes me a lot.

I will be 25 years old and will be woman who never had a boyfriend and still a virgin. Honestly I feel like a total outsider amoung women my age. Most women have had their first relationships as teenagers or in university whereas that never happened for me. When women share their relationship stories I can't relate to that and women can't relate to me either. I had to see my childhood friend and classmates form relationships whereas that never happened for me.

I am a nice naturally confident person but still guys always have rejected me and been complete arseholes towards me or just ignored me so many stories of rejection.

Nobody in the real world really understands what I am experiencing. I been single for an absolute lifetime that how feels never having a relationship in my teens and 20s. Suicide at 30 is only and best option as life as a single woman has become unbearable its getting harder.

I think that attractiveness can be found in any race, with any eye or hair colour. But attractiveness as a trait itself seems rare, which is really sad. Many people have to live with being average or ugly, which is horrible. They are like background characters in the RPG of life, while the pretty ones get to play the full game. I really don't know if there is "someone for everyone", that seems too good to be true in a world as wicked as this one.

@Hidden Base

I f*cking hate society I really do. I f*cking hate how society values physical beauty more than the kindness of a person's heart and soul. Its absolutely stupid because beauty fades with time whereas as the kind acts done by a human being can change lives, communities and that lives on the forever .

I hate how society only cares about people if they possess certain features, society values blonde hair and blue eyes its always been true now the behaviour is on full display for everyone to see.

On live television BBC News interviewed the former deputy prosecutor general of Ukraine, who told the network: "It's very emotional for me because I see European people with blue eyes and blond hair … being killed every day." Rather than question or challenge the comment, the BBC host flatly replied, "I understand and respect the emotion." The prosecutor general of Ukraine doesn't even have blonde hair and blue eyes himself the fact he expresses his sadness over people with blonde hair and blue eyes dying that just shows which lives he cares about more. His comments didn't even spark outrage that tells you absolutely everything about society the silence just shows they agree with him. That is our society.
If I was born with blonde hair and blue eyes I wouldn't be single and guys would notice me. Having brown skin, black hair and brown eyes my features will always be boring compared to that woman with blonde hair.

 

[Superdeterminist]

@Hidden Base

I f*cking hate society I really do. I f*cking hate how society values physical beauty more than the kindness of a person's heart and soul. Its absolutely stupid because beauty fades with time whereas as the kind acts done by a human being can change lives, communities and that lives on the forever .

I hate how society only cares about people if they possess certain features, society values blonde hair and blue eyes its always been true now the behaviour is on full display for everyone to see.

On live television BBC News interviewed the former deputy prosecutor general of Ukraine, who told the network: "It's very emotional for me because I see European people with blue eyes and blond hair … being killed every day." Rather than question or challenge the comment, the BBC host flatly replied, "I understand and respect the emotion." The prosecutor general of Ukraine doesn't even have blonde hair and blue eyes himself the fact he expresses his sadness over people with blonde hair and blue eyes dying that just shows which lives he cares about more. His comments didn't even spark outrage that tells you absolutely everything about society the silence just shows they agree with him. That is our society.
If I was born with blonde hair and blue eyes I wouldn't be single and guys would notice me. Having brown skin, black hair and brown eyes my features will always be boring compared to that woman with blonde hair.

I do hate the primacy that's given to appearance, although I also hate the worship of personality as well, since I believe that personality is physically determined, just as looks are. Kindness is not free, confidence is not free, charm is not free, compatibility with X person isn't free. You have to be privileged (yeah I used that word!!) to exhibit these traits, just the same with beauty. I simply hate that some people are overlooked or appreciated less than others, whatever the reason is for it.

I do disagree with your assessment about hair and eye colour. I think dark hair and dark eyes are absolutely fine and not inferior in the slightest. But I do respect your perspective, and any real experiences that might have re-affirmed this belief of yours. The video you mentioned is reinforcing that idea; it's really not helping at all. But like I said before, I do personally believe that attractiveness is its own trait that transcends most other traits - meaning that it can be found in any group, and isn't really more common in any particular group. Well, almost any group. But I have told you before, that all the girls I have obsessed over have had brown eyes and black hair. But yeah, there will be guys who prefer other colours. It's annoying having to deal with everyone having different tastes. If a person you like expressed a distaste for your traits, then that would suck and reasonably reinforce your grief about this subject.

You could dye your hair and wear coloured contacts for your eyes, if you aren't personally happy with your natural colours. Well, I'm sure you're aware of these options. But just to mention it, because it's maybe an easy fix for your dissatisfaction. However, I understand these aren't the same as having other colours naturally, so maybe it wouldn't satisfy you, which I would respect.

 

[Messgram]

@Brianiskillingme

Aww thank you for your lovely comment :)
Massive Virtual hug for you as well

As I approach my 25th birthday I just can not stop thinking of all the times boys and men rejected me or ignored me. The worst rejection experience I had was this experience at school.

When I was 16 years old I really liked this boy in school because I thought he was a really amazing guy. I loved how smart he was, how he made me laugh and he was very handsome. We orginally got on well with each other.

Nearly everyday I talked to him a lot at school during break and people in the school saw this and gossiped like they did with other people and their relationships. Everyone could see I liked him and he knew i liked him. One day my crush started to push me away during breaktimes which left me feeling very confused as i didn't understand why. One day he humiliated me in front the entire school and we had a massive argument which I screamed at him as I was so upset.

I liked him because I thought he was different but it turned out he was just like everyone else in the school who thought I was the werid girl and he didn't want me to be around him. This is what hurts the most and still does.

I am sorry for all the pain you experienced in your life, you deserved so much better

Love
FireFox[/USER]

@VikingHagstrom

Awww thanks but I wish that were true.

My birthday is one day away now and I just want to cry because I can't believe this is how my life turned out to be , my life is nothing but a failure, its everything. Yesterday i went to a hemp shop in my county and just brought a range of products. I brought hemp chocolate and a brownie I already brought the tea. Today and tomorrow is nothing but hemp, hemp and more hemp to numb all these feelings.

The hemp tea I brought is quite strong and relaxes me a lot.

I will be 25 years old and will be woman who never had a boyfriend and still a virgin. Honestly I feel like a total outsider amoung women my age. Most women have had their first relationships as teenagers or in university whereas that never happened for me. When women share their relationship stories I can't relate to that and women can't relate to me either. I had to see my childhood friend and classmates form relationships whereas that never happened for me.

I am a nice naturally confident person but still guys always have rejected me and been complete arseholes towards me or just ignored me so many stories of rejection.

Nobody in the real world really understands what I am experiencing. I been single for an absolute lifetime that how feels never having a relationship in my teens and 20s. Suicide at 30 is only and best option as life as a single woman has become unbearable its getting harder.

@Hidden Base

I f*cking hate society I really do. I f*cking hate how society values physical beauty more than the kindness of a person's heart and soul. Its absolutely stupid because beauty fades with time whereas as the kind acts done by a human being can change lives, communities and that lives on the forever .

I hate how society only cares about people if they possess certain features, society values blonde hair and blue eyes its always been true now the behaviour is on full display for everyone to see.

On live television BBC News interviewed the former deputy prosecutor general of Ukraine, who told the network: "It's very emotional for me because I see European people with blue eyes and blond hair … being killed every day." Rather than question or challenge the comment, the BBC host flatly replied, "I understand and respect the emotion." The prosecutor general of Ukraine doesn't even have blonde hair and blue eyes himself the fact he expresses his sadness over people with blonde hair and blue eyes dying that just shows which lives he cares about more. His comments didn't even spark outrage that tells you absolutely everything about society the silence just shows they agree with him. That is our society.
If I was born with blonde hair and blue eyes I wouldn't be single and guys would notice me. Having brown skin, black hair and brown eyes my features will always be boring compared to that woman with blonde hair.

If i were to follow your logic, the majority of the population should be a incel, since more than 70% have Black hair/Brown eyes. But it is mathematically a fact that the majority also date people with these traits, which is why i can't see any sense on your point of view.

I'm sure what makes someone beautiful in most people's eyes isn't really eye or hair color, but facial and body structure. That said, it's no use having blonde hair and blue eyes if your face and body shape aren't attractive. Not to mention that hair color is such a subjective trait that depending on your overall appearance, being blonde wouldn't even suit you.

anyway if you really think that just being blonde would make you get out of your loneliness why not dye your hair blonde or move to a country like mine, where most looks like you and have a preference for Brown eyes/Black hair?

 

[mrahc]

All I really wanted was to be happy in life with a man who loved me for who I truly am but as I approach 25 this week I realise now its too late for me to find love.Sometimes I think I am maybe I was made to be rejected after all my father didn't want me.

I spent my entire life being that girl no guy ever takes an interest in. At school I was the werid unpopular girl and this what led to guys bullying or ignoring me then in adulthood guys pretty much ignore and reject me too. At 16 I really liked this guy because I thought he was absolutely amazing as a person there was so much to admire about him .We used to talk to each other nearly everyday in break time and we enjoyed each others company then he began to push me away as people in the school began talk more about me and him. I thought he was different but it turned out he was like everyone else in the school who thought I was the werid girl and he didn't want me to around him anymore, that is what hurt the absolute most. He humiliated me in the school and didn't care how much he hurt me. In adulthood I asked guys out and they dump at the last minute, no guy ever shows a real interest in me. I am naturally confident, I enjoy having stimulating discussions on issues but my personality will never be enough.

I can't win anymore. Most guys want a really attractive girlfriend and don't care about personality. As more men continue be exposed to multiple images of attractive women in the pornography videos they stream on their devices,the only fans accounts they subscribe to it is inevitable a generation of men will have higher demands of what they want in a woman. My black hair, brown eyes and brown skin are boring compared to that woman with blonde hair and blue eyes or red hair living in a European country doesnt help either.

The years of male rejection has finally broken me and I can no longer cope anymore. Nobody understands

man are you me? i'm black and live in the middle of nowhere in the south and virtually no one wants me. i'm bisexual and not even the girls are interested in me and if they are they just play around and ghost me eventually. i feel like i'll never find love. practically cursed in this ugly grotesque body of mine. i'm sorry you're having to suffer in this way

 

[Infernal]

understandable, but why are you so obsessed with blonde and red hair? the overwhelming majority of the population has black hair and brown eyes, so clearly men are not going to reject you for that, even if you are in europe

Very true. I've found that coloring has basically nothing to do with how attractive someone is viewed as. It's all about body/face structure and proportions, symmetry, and physical signs of good health such as nice skin. When I was younger I was envious of women with any hair, eye or skin color other than mine. But then I realized that was basically a "grass is always greener on the other side" situation, and I think my subconscious trying to find a logical explanation for why guys didn't seem to like me, because in reality the reasons for that were a lot more complex than my looks.

 

[FireFox]

man are you me? i'm black and live in the middle of nowhere in the south and virtually no one wants me. i'm bisexual and not even the girls are interested in me and if they are they just play around and ghost me eventually. i feel like i'll never find love. practically cursed in this ugly grotesque body of mine. i'm sorry you're having to suffer in this way

@mrahc

Big virtual hug

In my experiences the majority of people including women do not understand how painful it actually is to always be that rejected girl or woman, the real pain of loving a man who is too busy focusing on the other attractive women in the room while ignoring your own existence as a person and the tormet of never being seen as beautiful enough by society and especially men.

Publicly I will NEVER EVER admit this I am jealous of blonde women, always have been. I Do Not hate blonde women but I do feel threatened by them. That blonde woman will always be chosen over me because society and especially men see blonde women as beautiful. As a teenager the boys l liked always picked the white girls over me experiencing this a lot hurt. As a teenager I experienced the Black boys in my school being so disrespectful, bullying and misogynistic towards me but they were always nicer towards the white girls and wanted relationships with them. There was this one black boy at school who made my life absolute hell everyday and said derogatory things about black girls. His misogynistic abuse towards me was a regular occurrence in class. I had one class were I was the only black girl and he did his misogynistic bullying towards me. He always so polite and nicer to the white girls at school. I was so happy when the arsehole got expelled because I was finally free from him.

I always saw how the blonde girls were seen as pretty and had boys like them. I wished I was born blonde haired blue eyed because I will be seen as beautiful by men and treated better. White women have problems too but being a black girl and women all you ever experience throught your life is just pure disrespect, insults for your appearance, being seen as not pretty even from your own black men in the community.