I was made to be unloved and rejected by men

[FireFox]

As I grow older I now believe that I was made to be unloved and rejected by men. My own father didn't want me, he abandoned me before I was born and left my mum for another woman to start a new family with. My father lived in a new neighbourhood with a new life with this woman and completely didn't care about me. In my teenage years the guys I liked constantly rejected me and always wanted another girl who was always more prettier and popular than me. I really cared about the guys i liked. I actually talked to them , took an interest in tge things they liked but still they ignored me and didn't care to know me. The guys I liked also humiliated me as well as treat me badly.
In adulthood I still experience the same.

I realise now I am the problem.

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm sorry that you are going through this, this life really can be so unfair. Maybe it is the other people who are the problem rather than you, some people can be very cruel. I see people as being very disappointing overall. I wish you the best.

 

[Al_stargate]

Sorry, being always rejected by the opposite gender is tough. Don't take offense but maybe your standards are too high, in terms of looks. Maybe you're aiming for dudes outside of your league. Let's say you're 7, then your effective range is between 6 and 8. I'm not saying you can't get down with a 9 or 10, but that is just getting lucky, it's not realistic.
We often form our relations with opposite gender based on how relations in our family. If your dad was not around to be a role model and treat you nice, then it takes lot of trial and error to learn how to form those relationships. You are not the problem, don't say that about yourself.

 

[Britvik]

You had a horrible start in life through no fault of your own. Your "father" failed you, which has undoubtedly caused suffering. The effects of his selfishness cannot be quantified, but they are obviously profound. You deserve better.

I'm reluctant to give unsolicited advice, but I think you should learn to love yourself. You are not the problem. We can all improve, of course, but you did not cause your "father" to abandon his responsibility to his own daughter.

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

I'm so sorry for your suffering. I understand perfectly and unfortunately I can relate. I gave up on my love life. It's not worth all the suffering we go through afterwards because of abandonment issues.

 

[FireFox]

You had a horrible start in life through no fault of your own. Your "father" failed you, which has undoubtedly caused suffering. The effects of his selfishness cannot be quantified, but they are obviously profound. You deserve better.

I'm reluctant to give unsolicited advice, but I think you should learn to love yourself. You are not the problem. We can all improve, of course, but you did not cause your "father" to abandon his responsibility to his own daughter.

@Britvik
I will always be grateful for all the sacrifices and hardwork my mother has done throughout the years so I can have a better life. Sometimes it bothers me I never grew up with a father because I don't know what a healthy relationship looks like or how a man is supposed to treat a woman or more importantly what is an example of a good man.

Growing up with a single mother there these expectations of you ie If I ever got in to trouble at school I would be lectured by my mum about how hard she works and she hasn't got time for my behaviour etc or if get in to trouble generally.

Sometimes I feel like screaming at my mother " what do you know? You are always f*cking working and dealing with relative bullsh*t, you nothing about me."

I actually hate my relatives for not being around more to help my mother. My relatives are totally pieces of sh*t who take far more than give but my mother still helps them. Some relatives are nice but there so many piece of sh*t relatives who only care about themselves.

 

[Life is unfair]

I feel this pain except I have social anxiety and am unable to have a relationship due to crippling anxiety, depression and trauma. I'm also the loser of my family and have cut contact with my family. I have tried all kinds of medicine for antidepressants and anxiety and all they do is make me a dumb zombie. Yay

 

[FireFox]

I feel this pain except I have social anxiety and am unable to have a relationship due to crippling anxiety, depression and trauma. I'm also the loser of my family and have cut contact with my family. I have tried all kinds of medicine for antidepressants and anxiety and all they do is make me a dumb zombie. Yay

@Life is unfair virtual hug

"I'm also the loser of my family and have cut contact with my family"
How are you the loser of the family?

Families are supposed to love each other unconditionally and support each other when times are rough.

I f*cking hate my relatives. Some relatives I have are lovely but far too many of them are self centred pieces of sh*t who take far more than give. I hate my relatives for never being around when I was younger but my mum still f*cking helps them and cares what they think.

My mum is so involved with her relatives sometimes I feel like she loves then more than me.

This is why behave the way I do. I spend more time outside and doing my own thing.

 

[Life is unfair]

@Life is unfair virtual hug

"I'm also the loser of my family and have cut contact with my family"
How are you the loser of the family?

Families are supposed to love each other unconditionally and support each other when times are rough.

I f*cking hate my relatives. Some relatives I have are lovely but far too many of them are self centred pieces of sh*t who take far more than give. I hate my relatives for never being around when I was younger but my mum still f*cking helps them and cares what they think.

My mum is so involved with her relatives sometimes I feel like she loves then more tha

My family constantly rejected me growing up so I developed low self confidence and the belief that I'm a POS. I am 36 years old and I still can't unfck myself from it. Everyone in my family has relationships and I don't. I can't bear to keep going to family visits and being the single low self confidence anxious loser anymore so I cut contact with my parents. I still text my mom every 2 weeks then block her number but I am gradually breaking contact to lessen the pain of my eventual suicide.

 

[FireFox]

I'm so sorry for your suffering. I understand perfectly and unfortunately I can relate. I gave up on my love life. It's not worth all the suffering we go through afterwards because of abandonment issues.

@onlyanimalsaregood Being single with age gets harder and harder. We live in a world that is centred on relationships and being coupled up. Women my age can't relate to me and I cant relate to women my age because majority of women had their first boyfriend and relationships as a teenager. I am an outsider never having a boyfriend and still being a virgin at 24 years old.

Going through secondary school and seeing the other girls at school have boyfriends show them love, take them out to places etc it is like everyone was growing up except me. It was so embarrassing going through secondary school and everyone knowing about sex and relationships while I knew nothing. One time in a business studies class the teacher did a case study about a business that sold viarga. I asked what was viarga because I didn't know what it was and everyone in the room laughed. Everyone knew about viarga except me.

In adulthood I feel like I never grew properly as a woman due to the abscence of sexual relationships in my life.

Sorry, being always rejected by the opposite gender is tough. Don't take offense but maybe your standards are too high, in terms of looks. Maybe you're aiming for dudes outside of your league. Let's say you're 7, then your effective range is between 6 and 8. I'm not saying you can't get down with a 9 or 10, but that is just getting lucky, it's not realistic.
We often form our relations with opposite gender based on how relations in our family. If your dad was not around to be a role model and treat you nice, then it takes lot of trial and error to learn how to form those relationships. You are not the problem, don't say that about yourself.

@Al_stargate
My standards are reasonable I prefer personality more than looks. All my life I have been the invisible outsider girl who never had a guy take a real interest in the person who i really am. I was always confident in school, you know public speaking in school assemblies, always approaching people to talk to, I was not scared to express my beliefs and opinions in class and loved debating. Despite being confident guys still were not interested in me and always wanted someone else.

When I was 17 years I liked this boy in my school.
One day on a cold Engilsh winter afternoon in sixth form common room there was Christmas music and I saw a boy who was in the year above me he was wearing red checked shirt with a tie and we were talking. He had brown eyes and brown hair, he had freckles. I learnt a lot about him. He got an A in Gcse Maths and wanted to study economics at the University of Liverpool which is one of the top universities in the country. The past couple of months we were always talking in the sixth form common room, he always hang out by the window. I really liked him. Everyone in the sixth form saw it, i had to hear all these gossip how he liked other girls in the sixth form. One day he told me he was gay it eventually I found out it was all a lie and he did it so I can no fancy him.

One of his friends said in the sixth form common room
" has she found out you are not gay yet"
I was so upset because he if didn't like me he should have just said so rather than lie.
I stopped talking to him. I found on his social media page him liking other girls in the sixth form. One girl he got with she was really pretty, had a group of friends and the boys liked her.
He didn't get the grades he needed to get in to Liverpool University I felt bad for him, he had to reapeat the year. We kind of made up. I started hanging out with him and another boy in the school IT rooms.

He told me his aspirations in life. I told him mine but still I was still the invisible girl.

One day he told my friend he liked this girl and wanted to impress her. I was foolish believing I could have a future with him. I loved him but he couldn't see the girl who loved him was in front of him.

This happens all the time to me. I take interest in guy and he always pays attention to someone else.

 

[FireFox]

My family constantly rejected me growing up so I developed low self confidence and the belief that I'm a POS. I am 36 years old and I still can't unfck myself from it. Everyone in my family has relationships and I don't. I can't bear to keep going to family visits and being the single low self confidence anxious loser anymore so I cut contact with my parents. I still text my mom every 2 weeks then block her number but I am gradually breaking contact to lessen the pain of my eventual suicide.

@Life is unfair

I have experienced this. Before the pandemic came I visted this relative who would ask questions about my relationship status
At the family vist she was asking questions like "where is your fiance ?" and she is one of people who gossip too much.

This woman has two children from two different men. She sleeps with married men and the last I heard about her she has gotten obese and it is hilarious looking at her photos on social media

I said to my family" ain't no man is going to want that"
My relative is a horrible person anyway so it was fun to make fun of her weight gain.

I'm sorry that you are going through this, this life really can be so unfair. Maybe it is the other people who are the problem rather than you, some people can be very cruel. I see people as being very disappointing overall. I wish you the best.

@FuneralCry thanks :)
All I wanted was to be loved and appreciated by a man instead I am just the woman nobody really wanted to know

 

[Cosmic dust]

I also know some of these feelings, I had maybe one or two chances of having someone when I was on high school, but I missed it because I didn't know how to handle it, then I passed the rest of my life being rejected, seeing other men doing things with their girlfriends, going to places, traveling, going to social events, having sex, sometimes even having kids, I also had to see every girl I ever liked and dreamed about find someone else, and here I am, like a grow up kid with almost 30 years, with no idea what it is to have a relationship or a sexual life.

 

[FireFox]

I also know some of these feelings, I had maybe one or two chances of having someone when I was on high school, but I missed it because I didn't know how to handle it, then I passed the rest of my life being rejected, seeing other men doing things with their girlfriends, going to places, traveling, going to social events, having sex, sometimes even having kids, I also had to see every girl I ever liked and dreamed about find someone else, and here I am, like a grow up kid with almost 30 years, with no idea what it is to have a relationship or a sexual life.

@Cosmic dust The worst thing about being single is that is so lonely and there is no real help and advice from society on how to deal with it.

I never thought I would still be single at this age. I can't cope anymore. When I see couples happy in public all I see is everything I missed out on.

 

[Noob]

@Cosmic dust The worst thing about being single is that is so lonely and there is no real help and advice from society on how to deal with it.

I never thought I would still be single at this age. I can't cope anymore. When I see couples happy in public all I see is everything I missed out on.

I am on a similar spot. No romantic relationship experiences.
If you were fom my country we could give a chance for each other.
You still have time. Did you try meeting someone on the internet? Finding groups that relates to your activities...

 

[Britvik]

@Britvik
I will always be grateful for all the sacrifices and hardwork my mother has done throughout the years so I can have a better life. Sometimes it bothers me I never grew up with a father because I don't know what a healthy relationship looks like or how a man is supposed to treat a woman or more importantly what is an example of a good man.

Growing up with a single mother there these expectations of you ie If I ever got in to trouble at school I would be lectured by my mum about how hard she works and she hasn't got time for my behaviour etc or if get in to trouble generally.

Sometimes I feel like screaming at my mother " what do you know? You are always f*cking working and dealing with relative bullsh*t, you nothing about me."

I actually hate my relatives for not being around more to help my mother. My relatives are totally pieces of sh*t who take far more than give but my mother still helps them. Some relatives are nice but there so many piece of sh*t relatives who only care about themselves.

Your Mum sounds like a flawed angel. It's good to hear you appreciate her and show her some love; that's extremely important. We all need it. She is trying to fulfil her responsibilities the best that she can. Showing her some love will help her in that task.

Reading through some of your other replies, it sounds like you have been surrounded with plenty of bad examples. It's easy to learn from those people, unintentionally. Try not to become like one of them. Even though it's tempting to wish the worst for bad people, resist. The world has enough hatred, cruelty and selfishness for everyone to get a good taste! Try to be kind and a good man will eventually notice.

 

[Al_stargate]

@FireFox It's really good that you're social and talking to guys. That is already half of the work. It's kinda like fishing, you'll get someone to bite eventually, just need to meet people. Guys are emotionally shallow creatures, just showing them attention can stir feelings in us, it's not all about looks. Character is really important. I'd rather be with an average looking girl that is classy and makes me feel excited than be with a barbie doll that has no personality whatsoever. Don't try to come off too hard, it's all about subtlety. If there is interest person will reciprocate. Anyway, I don't wanna be a smartass, but being single is not worth killing yourself over. I'm sure there are a lot of things you enjoy in life, relationships will come, that's almost certain.

 

[FireFox]

Your Mum sounds like a flawed angel. It's good to hear you appreciate her and show her some love; that's extremely important. We all need it. She is trying to fulfil her responsibilities the best that she can. Showing her some love will help her in that task.

Reading through some of your other replies, it sounds like you have been surrounded with plenty of bad examples. It's easy to learn from those people, unintentionally. Try not to become like one of them. Even though it's tempting to wish the worst for bad people, resist. The world has enough hatred, cruelty and selfishness for everyone to get a good taste! Try to be kind and a good man will eventually notice.

@Britvik
We live in a shallow hypersexualised society which values physical beauty rather than the kindness of a person's heart and the beauty of their soul within. I can't win anymore.

I have always been kind but guys always ignore me and never care to know me. Sometimes I wished I looked a supermodel because a least guys will actually notice me, want to know me and will want to date me. I remember when I was a teenager there was this boy I liked. I always talked to him and even defended him publicly once when he got into fight at football game. I thought he was really cool, I didn't care that he was a Muslim boy from Turkey. He was always flirting with this white English girl with blonde hair and blue eyes. She wasn't even a nice person at all ( horrible person towards me, pure bully) but all the boys wanted her. They were always filrting with her and being so nice to her.

Every guy I have ever liked just ignored me and always notices and wants some other woman l the . It's always the same and I can't cope anymore.

At school I was the unpopular outsider girl who people kept bullying and making fun of the all time. I stood up for myself against the builles and got in to a lot of fights and detentions because of it.
In adulthood no guy wants to know me. I will know a lot about the person I like but they don't even care enough to know me.

I was the unpopular outsider girl at school now in adulthood I still am the outsider and woman every guy overlooks and not interested in knowing.

I am the girl who never grew in to a woman because never having a relationship I never developed in the way everyone else has developed.

@FireFox It's really good that you're social and talking to guys. That is already half of the work. It's kinda like fishing, you'll get someone to bite eventually, just need to meet people. Guys are emotionally shallow creatures, just showing them attention can stir feelings in us, it's not all about looks. Character is really important. I'd rather be with an average looking girl that is classy and makes me feel excited than be with a barbie doll that has no personality whatsoever. Don't try to come off too hard, it's all about subtlety. If there is interest person will reciprocate. Anyway, I don't wanna be a smartass, but being single is not worth killing yourself over. I'm sure there are a lot of things you enjoy in life, relationships will come, that's almost certain.

@Al_stargate
Being single gets harder and harder with age, i can't cope anymore. There multiple reasons why i am going to kill myself at 30 because I don't want to live to see another a decade. I am disappointed in how my life turned out to be. I f*cked up my 20s and I am not going through another decade. I am tired of living and I don't want to see the future. I don't belong here in this world.

Every guy I have ever liked just ignored me and always notices and wants some other woman. It's always the same and I can't cope anymore

At school I was the unpopular outsider girl who people kept bullying and making fun of the all time. I stood up for myself against the builles and got in to a lot of fights and detentions because of it.
In adulthood no guy wants to know me. I will know a lot about the person I like but they don't even care enough to know me.

I was the unpopular outsider girl at school now in adulthood I still am the outsider and woman every guy overlooks and is not interested in knowing.

I am the girl who never grew in to a woman because never having a relationship I never developed in the way everyone else has developed.

I can't cope anymore.

 

[Britvik]

We live in a shallow hypersexualised society which values physical beauty rather than the kindness of a person's heart and the beauty of their soul within. I can't win anymore.

I have always been kind but guys always ignore me and never care to know me. Sometimes I wished I looked a supermodel because a least guys will actually notice me, want to know me and will want to date me. I remember when I was a teenager there was this boy I liked. I always talked to him and even defended him publicly once when he got into fight at football game. I thought he was really cool, I didn't care that he was a Muslim boy from Turkey. He was always flirting with this white English girl with blonde hair and blue eyes. She wasn't even a nice person at all ( horrible person towards me, pure bully) but all the boys wanted her. They were always filrting with her and being so nice to her.

Every guy I have ever liked just ignored me and always notices and wants some other woman l the . It's always the same and I can't cope anymore.

At school I was the unpopular outsider girl who people kept bullying and making fun of the all time. I stood up for myself against the builles and got in to a lot of fights and detentions because of it.
In adulthood no guy wants to know me. I will know a lot about the person I like but they don't even care enough to know me.

I was the unpopular outsider girl at school now in adulthood I still am the outsider and woman every guy overlooks and not interested in knowing.

I am the girl who never grew in to a woman because never having a relationship I never developed in the way everyone else has developed..

It's true that looks matter, especially to men. But, looks aren't everything and they matter even less as you mature.

I'm bald. My skin bears scars from teenage acne. I have a big nose and funny shaped ears. I'm far from pretty! But, I try to make the most of what I have. I keep in shape, even though I'm middle aged (when lots of people start to put on weight). I've been told I have nice eyes, and kissable lips! I eat well and I quit smoking tobacco and drinking alcohol. My wife thinks I'm sexy, which is all that matters!

I'll be honest. There have been times in my life when I have been envious of good looking guys. They have it easy, don't they? Girls flinging themselves at each and every one of them. More sex than they can shake an erect stick at! People bending over backwards to be nice to them. Etc.. etc… etc… And, do you know what I got out of all that envy? Absolutely sweet f.a.! Well, a bit of self-pity, perhaps. But that's it.
Worth it?
I think not!

If I could go back in time and speak with my younger self, I'd tell me to quit focusing on other people and focus on myself instead. I'd tell me to stop shooting myself in the foot and get on with developing myself into the best person that I can be. It requires effort to develop. What's the point in wasting energy on complaining?

Fortunately, I'm older and wiser now. I got there in the end! Mainly because I'm persistent. I've made a shitload of mistakes along the way, but my persistence has seen me through. All I can do is tell others about my experience, in the hope that it helps. What they do with the information is then up to them.

I wish you well, sincerely.

 

[Maaizr]

It's true that looks matter, especially to men. But, looks aren't everything and they matter even less as you mature.

I'm bald. My skin bears scars from teenage acne. I have a big nose and funny shaped ears. I'm far from pretty! But, I try to make the most of what I have. I keep in shape, even though I'm middle aged (when lots of people start to put on weight). I've been told I have nice eyes, and kissable lips! I eat well and I quit smoking tobacco and drinking alcohol. My wife thinks I'm sexy, which is all that matters!

I'll be honest. There have been times in my life when I have been envious of good looking guys. They have it easy, don't they? Girls flinging themselves at each and every one of them. More sex than they can shake an erect stick at! People bending over backwards to be nice to them. Etc.. etc… etc… And, do you know what I got out of all that envy? Absolutely sweet f.a.! Well, a bit of self-pity, perhaps. But that's it.
Worth it?
I think not!

If I could go back in time and speak with my younger self, I'd tell me to quit focusing on other people and focus on myself instead. I'd tell me to stop shooting myself in the foot and get on with developing myself into the best person that I can be. It requires effort to develop. What's the point in wasting energy on complaining?

Fortunately, I'm older and wiser now. I got there in the end! Mainly because I'm persistent. I've made a shitload of mistakes along the way, but my persistence has seen me through. All I can do is tell others about my experience, in the hope that it helps. What they do with the information is then up to them.

I wish you well, sincerely.

lmao why are you here?

 

[Britvik]

lmao why are you here?

Great question! I'll let you know if I ever find out.

 

[Ligottian]

It's true that looks matter, especially to men. But, looks aren't everything and they matter even less as you mature.

I'm bald. My skin bears scars from teenage acne. I have a big nose and funny shaped ears. I'm far from pretty! But, I try to make the most of what I have. I keep in shape, even though I'm middle aged (when lots of people start to put on weight). I've been told I have nice eyes, and kissable lips! I eat well and I quit smoking tobacco and drinking alcohol. My wife thinks I'm sexy, which is all that matters!

I'll be honest. There have been times in my life when I have been envious of good looking guys. They have it easy, don't they? Girls flinging themselves at each and every one of them. More sex than they can shake an erect stick at! People bending over backwards to be nice to them. Etc.. etc… etc… And, do you know what I got out of all that envy? Absolutely sweet f.a.! Well, a bit of self-pity, perhaps. But that's it.
Worth it?
I think not!

If I could go back in time and speak with my younger self, I'd tell me to quit focusing on other people and focus on myself instead. I'd tell me to stop shooting myself in the foot and get on with developing myself into the best person that I can be. It requires effort to develop. What's the point in wasting energy on complaining?

Fortunately, I'm older and wiser now. I got there in the end! Mainly because I'm persistent. I've made a shitload of mistakes along the way, but my persistence has seen me through. All I can do is tell others about my experience, in the hope that it helps. What they do with the information is then up to them.

I wish you well, sincerely.

I wish I knew where all these girls flinging themselves at men were. I'd settle for ugly ones. Or at least average looking ones.

 

[Muse]

That's the same for me. I am in big big pain.
Men shows some interest in me and then they destroy me.
My actual boyfriend is sleeping with 3 or 4 other women. Tomorrow he will spend 2 days with a bitch I hate.

This has always been my life. Men are cheating on me or slapping me or hurting me in every ways possible.

My love life is atrocious. Not a single good relation.

My father was very toxic. I know now I will never be loved. And that kills me everyday.

 

[FireFox]

It's true that looks matter, especially to men. But, looks aren't everything and they matter even less as you mature.

I'm bald. My skin bears scars from teenage acne. I have a big nose and funny shaped ears. I'm far from pretty! But, I try to make the most of what I have. I keep in shape, even though I'm middle aged (when lots of people start to put on weight). I've been told I have nice eyes, and kissable lips! I eat well and I quit smoking tobacco and drinking alcohol. My wife thinks I'm sexy, which is all that matters!

I'll be honest. There have been times in my life when I have been envious of good looking guys. They have it easy, don't they? Girls flinging themselves at each and every one of them. More sex than they can shake an erect stick at! People bending over backwards to be nice to them. Etc.. etc… etc… And, do you know what I got out of all that envy? Absolutely sweet f.a.! Well, a bit of self-pity, perhaps. But that's it.
Worth it?
I think not!

If I could go back in time and speak with my younger self, I'd tell me to quit focusing on other people and focus on myself instead. I'd tell me to stop shooting myself in the foot and get on with developing myself into the best person that I can be. It requires effort to develop. What's the point in wasting energy on complaining?

Fortunately, I'm older and wiser now. I got there in the end! Mainly because I'm persistent. I've made a shitload of mistakes along the way, but my persistence has seen me through. All I can do is tell others about my experience, in the hope that it helps. What they do with the information is then up to them.

I wish you well, sincerely.

@Britvik
I absoultely love this post. You are a kind hearted person and your wife is very lucky to have you :)

Thank you so much for your reply it has helped me feel better.
Love a lovely week

Lots of love

From
FireFox :)

That's the same for me. I am in big big pain.
Men shows some interest in me and then they destroy me.
My actual boyfriend is sleeping with 3 or 4 other women. Tomorrow he will spend 2 days with a bitch I hate.

This has always been my life. Men are cheating on me or slapping me or hurting me in every ways possible.

My love life is atrocious. Not a single good relation.

My father was very toxic. I know now I will never be loved. And that kills me everyday.

@Muse

Virtual hug my friend

You're boyfriend is a piece of sh*t you deserve so much better. I am sorry but he needs some STIs that will put his dick to sleep for a while and in time out. He has far too much time on his hands.

I am do sorry for all the pain in your life. All we wanted was to be loved and appreciated by men but unfortunately we ended having up piece of sh*t fathers and experienced unappreciative men throughout our lives. Life is so not fair. I look at women who have loving boyfriends, male appreciation and I question why didn't I end up with such love ?

My father is a selfish piece of sh*t . I spent my entire childhood believing I will never see my father again as he was never there. I learnt at aged 15 my father was living in quite close to me in a different neighbourhood iwith new his woman and kids. This neighbourhood was the area I went to the cinema to see movies as a teenager sometimes in as the area had a massive cinema and lots of leisure activities.
He knew where was the entire time but he didn't care at all.

The last time I heard from my piece of sh*t father he asked my mum for money as his arse was broke and no he didn't ask about me. I pretty much heard the phone conservation my mum had with him. My stepfather/mum's partner he cares more for his ex gf teenage sons lives than my own. My mum boyfriend has only 1 8 year old son with his ex gf. Her teenage sons are from a previous relationship. His more of a dad to his ex gf teenage sons and more interested in their lives.

 

[miserable_existance]

As I grow older I now believe that I was made to be unloved and rejected by men. My own father didn't want me, he abandoned me before I was born and left my mum for another woman to start a new family with. My father lived in a new neighbourhood with a new life with this woman and completely didn't care about me. In my teenage years the guys I liked constantly rejected me and always wanted another girl who was always more prettier and popular than me. I really cared about the guys i liked. I actually talked to them , took an interest in tge things they liked but still they ignored me and didn't care to know me. The guys I liked also humiliated me as well as treat me badly.
In adulthood I still experience the same.

I realise now I am the problem.

just not love , i wish i had another source of happiness in my life when i was growing up , be it abundance of money , abundance of goodluck . Love and romantic relationships are a thing of luxury for an average man like me in my country . or even some kind of passion or inborn skill as in writing , drawing :-artistic skill that would have made me busy / distracted or instilled vitality for life in me . i could say the same about women in my case just like u say about men , i AM 30 , women were never attracted to me but i think its part of law of natural selection , women should be attracted to really
worthy Males so as to promote breeding and in the subsequent results of having worthy offspring with desirable qualities ;; its part of natures law . so i have learnd not to complain . and accept the reality

As I grow older I now believe that I was made to be unloved and rejected by men. My own father didn't want me, he abandoned me before I was born and left my mum for another woman to start a new family with. My father lived in a new neighbourhood with a new life with this woman and completely didn't care about me. In my teenage years the guys I liked constantly rejected me and always wanted another girl who was always more prettier and popular than me. I really cared about the guys i liked. I actually talked to them , took an interest in tge things they liked but still they ignored me and didn't care to know me. The guys I liked also humiliated me as well as treat me badly.
In adulthood I still experience the same.

I realise now I am the problem.

 

[Superdeterminist]

Sorry about undesired solitude, I have experienced the same. Some people just get the worst luck, like Christine Chubbuck. She died forlorn. That doesn't mean that YOU or I will, but we've seen that the universe can be disgustingly cruel. Hence why I want no part in it.

 

[Britvik]

@Britvik
I absoultely love this post. You are a kind hearted person and your wife is very lucky to have you :)

Thank you so much for your reply it has helped me feel better.

Thank you for saying so! I was worried you might take it the wrong way. It wasn't my intention to blow my own trumpet. I was just trying to say that, even with a face like mine (I'm no oil painting) it's possible to find love. In retrospect, I could've been more careful. Some people are born with more serious deformities, for example, which may make it extremely difficult to attract someone, romantically. And then, there are a type of incel, who may have good looks, but have such horrible personalities that girls wouldn't touch them with a barge pole. I'm not naive. I do realise that life isn't always as simple as it may have appeared I was trying to make it.

 

[FireFox]

Sorry about undesired solitude, I have experienced the same. Some people just get the worst luck, like Christine Chubbuck. She died forlorn. That doesn't mean that YOU or I will, but we've seen that the universe can be disgustingly cruel. Hence why I want no part in it.

@Hidden Base

As I grow older it bothers me that I was never the pretty and popular girl at school who the boys were interested in and the girls wanted to befriend. I was the girl at school who always made fun of, struggled to fit in anywhere and never had a boy show real an interest in the person I was.

In adulthood I crave to belong and be desired.

Society doesn't care about the outsiders who struggle to fit in. The pandemic has exposed people's true personalities. We live in a selfish poisonous society that holds to pure contempt the disabled and the marginalised communities, it is so horrific to witness. I finally lost all hope in humanity during the pandemic because of people's behaviour.

I watched the movie about Christine Chubbucks life and events leading up to her death. When I was watching the movie even though I knew she was going to die a part of me was rooting for her to have a happy ending where she found love, peace and got her work as journalist appreciated.

She was talented journalist it was so sad her work never got the appreciation and recognition it deserved.

Thank you for saying so! I was worried you might take it the wrong way. It wasn't my intention to blow my own trumpet. I was just trying to say that, even with a face like mine (I'm no oil painting) it's possible to find love. In retrospect, I could've been more careful. Some people are born with more serious deformities, for example, which may make it extremely difficult to attract someone, romantically. And then, there are a type of incel, who may have good looks, but have such horrible personalities that girls wouldn't touch them with a barge pole. I'm not naive. I do realise that life isn't always as simple as it may have appeared I was trying to make it.

@Britvik

Your comments were very lovely. I have experienced far more patronising comments when I open about the sadness of being single. I have received patronising comments from women in relationships in online spaces for women.

One time a married woman an online fourms told me I am "not missing anything" being single. I honestly hate women like her because she has absolutely no idea what it feels like to go through your entire life never having a relationship while watching everyone else has one. Couples take so much for granted.

I watch teenage dramas on Netflix with my 14 year old little sister and watching these shows as an adult all I see is everything I missed out on.

I wish I was born with blonde hair and blue eyes because I would look more interesting and guys will notice me and will want to date me. Society values blonde hair and blue eyes a lot. My black hair and brown eyes are just dull and boring features.

On live TV The BBC interviewed a former deputy prosecutor general of Ukraine, who told the network: "It's very emotional for me because I see European people with blue eyes and blond hair … being killed every day."
War is a tragedy because it is brings great suffering and is waste of innocent human life.

They are ‘civilised’, ‘European’ and ‘look like us’: the racist coverage of Ukraine | Moustafa Bayoumi

Are Ukrainians more deserving of sympathy than Afghans and Iraqis? Many seem to think so

www.theguardian.com

The sad thing is that persons comments was not even challenged by the BBC presenter and general public.

War is a tragedy because it is brings great suffering and is waste of innocent human life. The lack of outrage just shows how is society values some human lives more than others. Blonde hair and blue eyes is put on pedestal by society.

 

[Superdeterminist]

@Hidden Base

As I grow older it bothers me that I was never the pretty and popular girl at school who the boys were interested in and the girls wanted to befriend. I was the girl at school who always made fun of, struggled to fit in anywhere and never had a boy show real an interest in the person I was.

In adulthood I crave to belong and be desired.

Society doesn't care about the outsiders who struggle to fit in. The pandemic has exposed people's true personalities. We live in a selfish poisonous society that holds to pure contempt the disabled and the marginalised communities, it is so horrific to witness. I finally lost all hope in humanity during the pandemic because of people's behaviour.

I watched the movie about Christine Chubbucks life and events leading up to her death. When I was watching the movie even though I knew she was going to die a part of me was rooting for her to have a happy ending where she found love, peace and got her work as journalist appreciated.

She was talented journalist it was so sad her work never got the appreciation and recognition it deserved.

I deeply resent the inequality that the universe forces upon us, on a visceral level. Everyone wants to be pretty and admired, and of course they do...this is a hallmark of an enjoyable life. But it's only the chosen few who actually get to enjoy it.

People generally know when they have it good. If they're assholes they'll lord it over others, if they're nice they'll be humble and admit they got lucky.

Something which I'm beyond sick to death of is the cult of people, (who may even constitute the majority of people in the WORLD), who hold the bizarre view that it's entirely up to us to choose our fates, and we do so freely.

On the subject of lovesickness, these people would insist that we are choosing this misery and there is a basic solution if we would only listen (then, cue the multiple different 'solutions' they offer.) Do they think anyone sane would 'choose freely' to remain stewing in this despair? What a horrid mockery that is of our suffering. Their stupidity angers me, though I have to remember they don't choose it.