I want to give my family a suicide gesture

[og.]

please help me tell me what method to use I wanna see if theres any other option before I finally end it

 

[Ta555]

Don't put your family through a suicidal gesture.

 

[og.]

Don't put your family through a suicidal gesture.

Its decided, if i dont find a safe method ill stab myself

 

[Noctis]

Why do you want to give your family a gesture? If you want your family to see a cry for help and see how they react, write a suicide note and make sure it's found.

If you want to make a half-hearted attempt to punish them, then that seems cruel, and has a high chance of landing you in a hospital and under surveillance and impossible to try again.

 

[og.]

Why do you want to give your family a gesture? If you want your family to see a cry for help and see how they react, write a suicide note and make sure it's found.

If you want to make a half-hearted attempt to punish them, then that seems cruel, and has a high chance of landing you in a hospital and under surveillance and impossible to try again.

you really cannot talk me out of that one
I want them to know but I dont wanna talk to them or seem weak and I feel like a suicide note wont work and will just be weird

please just tell me if theres any safe methods or I will do something dangerous

 

[Ta555]

you really cannot talk me out of that one
I want them to know but I dont wanna talk to them or seem weak and I feel like a suicide note wont work and will just be weird

please just tell me if theres any safe methods or I will do something dangerous

I don't think anyone here is going to encourage or give you information for your plan.

 

[Suicidebydeath]

Sleep on it and see how you feel tomorrow is the safest method there is.

There are no really safe methods, and all require a little preparation. Best to sleep on it, maybe write text to give to a friend and tell them how you feel. I know how much sucks when family isn't there for you, so I wish I could help.

The safest gesture is to talk to a friend.

 

[Noctis]

you really cannot talk me out of that one
I want them to know but I dont wanna talk to them or seem weak and I feel like a suicide note wont work and will just be weird

please just tell me if theres any safe methods or I will do something dangerous

I'm not trying to talk you out of anything. I'm saying if your family thinks you made an attempt on your life, you will very likely be going to a hospital for a while.

 

[og.]

I don't think anyone here is going to encourage or give you information for your plan.

Why not? I thought this forum was a safe place for people like me to discuss suicide freely without all the forced positivity shit and this could even potentially prevent me from actually committing suicide....

 

[Ta555]

Why not? I thought this forum was a safe place for people like me to discuss suicide freely without all the forced positivity shit and this could even potentially prevent me from actually committing suicide....

For suicide yes, not for making a suicidal gesture. No one will support you in making a gesture without the goal of actually CTBing and possibly traumatizing people as a result.

 

[og.]

I'm not trying to talk you out of anything. I'm saying if your family thinks you made an attempt on your life, you will very likely be going to a hospital for a while.

tbh i feel like I need a break from life so i feel like this wont be very bad

 

[Noctis]

Well, then depending on your tolerance for pain, I'd go with cutting. You can lose a lot of blood before bleeding out, and drugs/hanging/asphyxiation all have good chances of causing brain damage.

 

[whywere]

HI! Like @Suicidebydeath so eloquently said, "sleep on it". I have had 2 attempts and can speak from some experience as there in an again like @Suicidebydeath mentioned: "talk to a friend". So very well put indeed.

Please stay safe.

Walter

 

[cambrai33]

Why not? I thought this forum was a safe place for people like me to discuss suicide freely without all the forced positivity shit and this could even potentially prevent me from actually committing suicide....

Look

However you feel about your family please don't rush into doing something. This is pro choice but it doesn't mean everyone will think the thing you are proposing is a good idea and it's never going to be an echo chamber either.

I would love you not to commit to killing yourself, if there is any other option then it is a better one imo, in addition inflicting pain on the family in this way is something you can never take back so please as someone said at least sleep on it.

 

[demuic]

tbh i feel like I need a break from life so i feel like this wont be very bad

If you just need a break you can call up some suicide hotline and say you are feeling suicidal and have a plan. Then they will probably call the police and put you in the psych ward, there is no need to actually do any harm to yourself. Or I've heard you can find some psych ward and volunatarily admit yourself.

It depends on where you live but in the US you do need insurance if you don't want to foot the bill yourself.

What leads you to want to give your family a suicidal gesture?

 

[lonewolf22]

NYT are you seeing this? Not a single person is encouraging this young lady to take her life

 

[whywere]

NYT are you seeing this? Not a single person is encouraging this young lady to take her life

You are really awesome. I could not agree more.

Walter

 

[4eyebiped]

I am starting to fear responsible journalism and non-bias well balanced reporting has become extinct.

 

[PandaExit]

You want your family to understand what you are going through by attempting suicide but not succeeding? This is an awful idea. No one here is going to tell you how to do this. We're not here to punish people for their actions and we don't use suicide as a tool. My friend had many half hearted suicide attempts and one time it worked and she's dead now. I don't believe she actually wanted to be.

 

[cambrai33]

Why do you want to do this to them, do you feel they don't understand how low you feel, have you spoken to them Judy how bad things have got?

 

[KTbear]

Really the best thing would be to just talk to them. If that is too awkward perhaps consider starting a journal and leaving it in a place where they will find it. Parents can be pretty nosey.

 

[Insomniac]

I'll go with full suspension hanging. It's the safest most accessible method to me.

a lot of people prefer SN but it's not accessible to everyone. and N is too expensive for me.

I have serious family issues so I can relate. I will kill myself mostly because of them. what did your family do to you?

Edits: oh and OP, please just ignore the annoying virtue signaling in the various replies. this forum is supposed to be a safe space for people like you to vent, but due to recent events, some people here feel the need to virtue signal I guess.

 

[summers]

tbh i feel like I need a break from life so i feel like this wont be very bad

So be an adult and sign yourself into the hospital instead of harassing your family.

Edit: And of you're doing this as some kind of revenge for mistreatment or neglect, they won't give a fuck. Oh they'll fake it for their friends and neighbors, but it won't be genuine.

Sorry the world is such a fucked up place. Probably why most of us want out.

 

[PandaExit]

I'll go with full suspension hanging. It's the safest most accessible method to me.

a lot of people prefer SN but it's not accessible to everyone. and N is too expensive for me.

I have serious family issues so I can relate. I will kill myself mostly because of them. what did your family do to you?

Edits: oh and OP, please just ignore the annoying virtue signaling in the various replies. this forum is supposed to be a safe space for people like you to vent, but due yo recent events, some people here feel the need to virtue signal I guess.

I'm not virtue signaling. I just think there is a difference between wanting to kill yourself and wanting to pretend to kill yourself to hurt your family. I want my suicide to cause as little pain to others as possible. I'm not saying that as a person who has a great family either, I have a pretty fucking terrible one but I don't see suicide as a tool to hurt others. I think this shits all ove rwhy we're here. People already see suicide attempts as a manipulation tactic and I want our way of being pro-choice to be respected.

 

[motel rooms]

Don't put your family through a suicidal gesture.

I don't think that suicidal gestures are a good idea, but why do you assume OP's family members are caring? If they were wonderful people, OP would probably be able to open up to them.

 

[summers]

I don't think that suicidal gestures are a good idea, but why do you assume OP's family members are caring? If they were wonderful people, OP would probably be able to open up to them.

If they aren't caring, then they won't give two fucks about some gesture. Either way, it's a loss for the op.

And why are we assuming the op is some good or rational person. Maybe they get off on hurting others. Not everyone on ss is an angel. I'm definitely not, and some are even worse than me.

 

[Insomniac]

I just think there is a difference between wanting to kill yourself and wanting to pretend to kill yourself to hurt your family.

I'm not saying that as a person who has a great family either, I have a pretty fucking terrible one but I don't see suicide as a tool to hurt others.

People already see suicide attempts as a manipulation tactic and I want our way of being pro-choice to be respected.

I hear you.

but It's still annoying. this person is obviously venting.

maybe I am wrong. If then, I'm sorry.

It's just that everytime a wave hits this forum, people start to feel the need to restrain themselves and start to "behave" and conform more in order to not offend our detractor for fear of this forum disappearing. and I hate to see that.

this is not the first thread about wanting to die as a mean to hurt family. it's just that, usually, this kind a thread is met with understand and compassion. I used to make threads like this but I grew out of it because of the compassion I was met with on here.

people in this state of mind do not need lessons. or rather, this forum, as I know it, isn't a place for that. like you say, some of us are dealing with horrible things. I remember writing a thread like that talking about incest, my father and the silence of my mother and wanting to die to punish my mother's silence.

If I was met with these kind of reply, I'd have killed myself honestly. There are so many other places to receive lessons. Please, let this place be about understanding.

again, I don't know. maybe what I say doesn't apply here, maybe OP is just an immature brat. Idk. If I'm wrong then I'm sorry.

But if OP is dealing with the same serious stuff that I'm dealing with, then OP, I'm sorry you're met with these kind of replies.

 

[Kobusu]

Nobody here will give you advice on how to make a good gesture, if for no other reason than we're (for the most part) very intent on actually dying. If you wanted advice on peaceful or painless methods of ctb, then you'd get tons of answers, but by and large this place is a place for us to end our own suffering, without inflicting suffering on others. I disagree with everyone saying what you can or can't use your ctb as, it's your life, you do with it or use it how you want, but if you want to make a gesture and not actually ctb, you'd probably find better help in a community centered around self-harm rather than one centered around suicide. Not many of us know how to fake or act a suicide well. I think we all know how to commit one though

 

[Noctis]

I think we all know how to commit one though

Speak for yourself. Some of us are here because we can't even get that part right.

That was supposed to be a lighthearted joke. There's no way to convey emotion with text.

 

[motel rooms]

If they aren't caring, then they won't give two fucks about some gesture. Either way, it's a loss for the op.

I couldn't agree more. OP's plan is unwise.

And why are we assuming the op is some good or rational person. Maybe they get off on hurting others.

My guess is they're not a dangerous psychopath if they're unable to figure out how to make a completely harmless "attempt". Even tweens with internet access can easily find out which common methods never work & cause no permanent damage.