I want the cute, romance-y, flowery type of love.

[BabyYoda]

I want the cute, romance-y, flowery type of love. Sweet messages, flowers, chocolates, compliments, all those stuff. I'm not happy with my situation right now. I want to be shown that I'm really cared for. And it has to be from a guy because my romantic attraction towards girls is quite weak (not sexual attraction). I want the kind of love that you see in the movies where you say all these cheesy lines. Then of course I want to get married. I want a happy marriage of course where me and my partner grow old together. I want to be called the most beautiful person in the world. I want someone to obsess about me 24/7 and talk to me everyday. I want someone who will never leave me no matter what. This is TRUE LOVE. What you see in the movies and TV is TRUE LOVE. I can't accept anything less than this.

Unfortunately I have none of these things.

 

[Notwinnernotawin]

I wish I could have that too. But I'm so wrecked I don't think I'm confident enough to endure the hardships of a relationship.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Everything you said in this post I feel so so much. It's always been my desire to be loved and be someone's everything but I'm a broken defective person with "too much emotional baggage". Every time I thought I had someone special it all fell apart and left me worse off everytime destroyed and grieving. I'm right there with you when you said you can't accept less.

I often wonder why others obtain a loving supportive, non abusive partner and why some of us never do. I guess it comes down to just luck...out of our control and that's so sick and unfair. What a cruel world. We ALL deserve that true love and someone in our lives if we want it.

 

[PartingGlass]

That's actually pretty close to what I'd like to give someone. Unsurprisingly though, nobody likes me.

 

[wanderinglost]

it comes when you stop looking and wanting when you are content with who you are that is so attractive to men, then you will be having to beat them off with a shitty stick. but when you are desperate for something that makes them run for cover. I used to think like that but I had a new career in the air force and I just concentrated on my work and it must have given me something because I was married a year later to a man way out of my league I was very lucky to have those years with him and our daughter and they have already gone and I feel so torn that I want to go to them but they had no choice in dying and I do so it makes me feel guilty but heyho it will come when it is right.
But the time will come to you for that but Idk if this is where you will find it or build up the confidence to just live and be

 

[tooStupidForExitBag]

This. Pretty much the only thing I want from life, sad that it seems to be so rare.

 

[waterbottleman]

Me too but all that ever happened to me when I tried was being friend zoned.

The only time I've ever been able to attract any woman is by treating them poorly which is the opposite of what I want to do.

People are strange I don't understand them. Oh well hopefully I'll be dead soon so none of this will matter to me anyways.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

I want the cute, romance-y, flowery type of love. Sweet messages, flowers, chocolates, compliments, all those stuff. I'm not happy with my situation right now. I want to be shown that I'm really cared for. And it has to be from a guy because my romantic attraction towards girls is quite weak (not sexual attraction). I want the kind of love that you see in the movies where you say all these cheesy lines. Then of course I want to get married. I want a happy marriage of course where me and my partner grow old together. I want to be called the most beautiful person in the world. I want someone to obsess about me 24/7 and talk to me everyday. I want someone who will never leave me no matter what. This is TRUE LOVE. What you see in the movies and TV is TRUE LOVE. I can't accept anything less than this.

Unfortunately I have none of these things.

Hallmark or Lifetime channel ???? Seriously though, I don't know if something like that exists IRL. It doesn't exist for me anyway.
I don't have the energy for a relationship, even one like that. I hope you can find it, if it truly exists.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Im a hopeless romantic... It would be nice....

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

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[AngelGirl]

Is sexual attraction always necessary in a relationship?
I'm only sexually attracted to men, but I also like women too. I just never see other women sexually.

 

[RM5998]

I want that kind of love too. It would be nice to be loved for what I am.
The only people that "love" me now are my parents, and they don't even know who I am anymore. They're enraptured by this idea of a person I never was, and never will be. I'm pining for that one person who understands me and accepts me. But then sobering reality hits me and reminds me that I shouldn't drag people down if I care about them. The catch-22 is maddening.

 

[sadgirl2002]

I can relate to your post soooo much, I want eternal, faithful and wholesome true love, the fairytale type love. I don't even need the flowers, chocolates and such, I want to be loved. That's all. I want love letters, walks in the park, dancing in the rain, all the stuff I daydreamed about throughout my life and the things I saw in my favourite love movies growing up. I want to make him happy, I want to support him, I want the two of us to be loving and faithful towards each other, I want the two of us to grow in love, get married, have children and grow old together. To be with him, forever and always. I want him to be madly in love with me as I am with him. I refuse to accept less than this. I've found the one but since we are in separation from each other, I'm not happy about my situation. I'm such a hopeless romantic, this is the only thing I've ever wanted throughout my whole life. I would give my all for him, I really would. I had spent all those years, waiting, wishing, hoping, for the one person to find me; and he did... but it's too late. Maybe, we will find each other again very soon...

 

[kovkay]

I don't think this type of love lasts. I view relationships as inherently transactional, with both people trying to get something out of each other. I'd prefer a type of unconditional love, where you ride or die with the person despite all circumstances, but that's not really realistic and I think unconditional love only exists towards family.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I totally want this too but it's very unlikely to ever happen for me because it seems like even the people out there who'd also want that wouldn't be dumb enough to want that with someone like me...

 

[Mentalmick]

I totally want this too but it's very unlikely to ever happen for me because it seems like even the people out there who'd also want that wouldn't be dumb enough to want that with someone like me...

I know the feeling. I think people automatically assume I'm a serial killer or something.

 

[Makko]

I know the feeling. I think people automatically assume I'm a serial killer or something.

Serial killers are popular though.

 

[Sensei]

Serial killers are popular though.

I would have said that you're a cynical person if it wasn't so obvious.

 

[Makko]

I would have said that you're a cynical person if it wasn't so obvious.

I'm the exact opposite of a cynic. I'm an avant-garde romanticist. I long for the unknown, the dangerous, everything that is just outside of my reach, everything that I cannot have, to run towards that from which everyone else runs away, and to be filled with anticipation where others are filled with terror.

 

[Sensei]

I'm the exact opposite of a cynic. I'm an avant-garde romanticist. I long for the unknown, the dangerous, everything that is just outside of my reach, everything that I cannot have, to run towards that from which everyone else runs away, and to be filled with anticipation where others are filled with terror.

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Then you have my respect. In fact, I find your approach to life impressive. However, you give a somewhat different impression. Not that it necessarily is a bad thing.

 

[Makko]

Then you have my respect. In fact, I find your approach to life impressive. However, you give a somewhat different impression. Not that it necessarily is a bad thing.

A good rule of thumb is that first impressions are always wrong.

 

[Sensei]

A good rule of thumb is that first impressions are always wrong.

I dare say that in 9 out of 10 cases my first impressions are not wrong IRL. It's obviously much more difficult online.

 

[Nexey]

I don't think this type of love lasts. I view relationships as inherently transactional, with both people trying to get something out of each other. I'd prefer a type of unconditional love, where you ride or die with the person despite all circumstances, but that's not really realistic and I think unconditional love only exists towards family.

Yep, all relationships, friendships, what-have-yous are transactional. That sounds rather grim at first glance but realizing this makes socializing 100x easier. Frankly, we're better off like this, imo.

"Unconditional love" inherently implies that you'd stick by them, even if they started treating you like shit and otherwise became a horrible person or vice versa. Sticking around a unhealthy and/or unfulfilling relationship out of ~unconditional love~ for the other person sounds like nightmare fuel to me

I stopped loving my father the minute I found out he was an abusive piece of shit and I'm better off for it.

Anyways, the """love""" described in the OP definitely doesn't exist. Two people who are dating are just that. They don't suddenly merge into one person. They don't suddenly start agreeing on everything. The world doesn't automatically become sunshine and rainbows.

Real love takes time and work. And that's not a bad thing. I'm here to share my love with somebody, NOT take away their individuality and make them my play-thing.

 

[fixitinpost]

I think you need to temper your expectations quite a bit. It sounds like you want someone to put you on a pedestal, and that doesn't make for a healthy relationship. A healthy relationship is one where there's balanced give and take from both parties.

To put it bluntly: if you want unconditional love, a dog is what you want.