Venting I virtually accompanied someone on Wednesday who successfully CTB (SN)

[opheliaoveragain]

like the title says.

i'm not in a place where I am ready to post everything timestamped etc. but I wanted to say something. we partially did this to hopefully educate others as well.

I am both deeply respectful and in active grief

despite us planning it this way.
despite knowing when and how and why
I was never going to be the one to try to alter that choice, I simply provided them a way not to be alone.

we grew very close in the time we talked, spending hours on the phone, even laughing together, real laughter, up until about 20 minutes before the protocol began.

everything was planned by then before I came into the picture, and it's a method that is high on my list. i'll be posting an official thread soon but I just felt the need to vent.


I will never be the same. I love you, M.

thanks for reading

xx Ophelia

edit: for further clarity, the user did not make a goodbye thread themselves. they left that up to me because I said I would take care of it.

 

[zekeyaeger]

RIP me to them, I am glad they found peace. You did good work there. Do you wish to share more details regarding the event?

 

[Murakami'sCat]

I am sure they appreciated you being there for them in their final moments.

I hope your friend is now peace on the other side.

And sending you some hugs.
<3

 

[rozeske]

May they rest in peace. I hope you are doing alright. Take all the time you need, it can be hard.

 

[opheliaoveragain]

RIP me to them, I am glad they found peace. You did good work there. Do you wish to share more details regarding the event?

for everyone wondering, there is a much longer thread coming. with their protocol and everything time stamped to the minute. I stayed til I knew for sure. it's just heavy right now.

 

[skyflame]

take all the time you need to look after yourself. reach out if/when you need to talk to someone.

RIP to your friend x

 

[astr4]

i'm sure you must be feeling a lot right now. i hope you're taking care of yourself.

 

[LapseInTime]

I hope they found peace! And of course, it is nice they weren't alone.

 

[nir]

I'm so sorry for your loss <3 Please take care of yourself

 

[Plato'sCaveDweller]

I hope they're at peace now, and I hope you're taking care of yourself. That is a very heavy event to go through. But you're a genuinely wonderful person for being there for them. No one should have to go through that alone if they don't want to. But being that person for someone is a very difficult position to be in for most people, I imagine. Feel free to PM me if you wanna talk or vent. I'm pretty shit at consoling, but I can be an ear for sure.

 

[TenThousandTrees]

Oh goodness, it takes a lot of strength to do that, especially with someone you've grown close to. Surely it was a great comfort to have you there, though. Take all the time for yourself that you need

 

[Defenestration]

Félicitations à vous
RIP him

 

[athiestjoe]

You are an amazing human for ensuring they weren't alone, extremely kind & generous of you. Hope they are in peace & serenity now.

 

[-Link-]

@opheliaoveragain what a courageous thing to do, to be there for another person to keep them comfort as they die. In a world that fails to provide dignified assisted dying services with proper medical and family support... This -- what you did -- is the very best that any of us can do. And it takes so much courage and strength.

It also takes a heavy mental and emotional toll.

Take care of yourself, and reach out any time you want. My DMs are open any time and I'd do the best I can to support you, and I'm sure many other members here would do the same.

 

[MsHelena]

I hope your friend had a peaceful ending, and I hope you have all the support that you need as you must be holding so, so much right now

Such a gift of loving kindness and true friendship to be with them in their final moments.

People who ctb deserve hospice care and a death doula to ease their passing if they want, same as anyone else who is ready to die.
Hopefully one day the world will be more accepting of this reality.

 

[maniac116]

like the title says.

i'm not in a place where I am ready to post everything timestamped etc. but I wanted to say something. we partially did this to hopefully educate others as well.

I am both deeply respectful and in active grief

despite us planning it this way.
despite knowing when and how and why
I was never going to be the one to try to alter that choice, I simply provided them a way not to be alone.

we grew very close in the time we talked, spending hours on the phone, even laughing together, real laughter, up until about 20 minutes before the protocol began.

everything was planned by then before I came into the picture, and it's a method that is high on my list. i'll be posting an official thread soon but I just felt the need to vent.


I will never be the same. I love you, M.

thanks for reading

xx Ophelia

edit: for further clarity, the user did not make a goodbye thread themselves. they left that up to me because I said I would take care of it.

 

[opheliaoveragain]

Thank you to everyone thus far that has offered an ear/to hold space. it's hard to keep track with my head feeling like this, but if you feel like you want to reach out, feel free to do so. I really fucking appreciate it more than you all can know


there's truly no way to prepare for the reality, the minutes that turn into years, laughter that turns into silence, knowing you supported what they truly wanted but still missing them.