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I think that love actually is the thing that propels you to go on, so it IS a big deal. Love for your family, love for life, love for yourself, love for animals, love for nature etc. When you love someone or something, that basically translates to strength in living.
You keep on living because you want to keep on eating ice cream or go hiking, or because you have a loved one that you want to spend as much time as you can with, or you have a pet that you don't want to leave behind; it's that important to you. These things become the reason you're still alive.
When you lose the ability to love, or the ability to hope for love, that's when you stop living. You don't enjoy anything anymore, nothing interests you and you're not passionate about anything. In other words, nothing is important to you, and you're basically a husk. You can't really call that being alive anymore, so as cliche as it sounds, I think love is the fuel people run on to live in this world.
 
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WornOutLife

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I think that love actually is the thing that propels you to go on, so it IS a big deal. Love for your family, love for life, love for yourself, love for animals, love for nature etc. When you love someone or something, that basically translates to strength in living.
You keep on living because you want to keep on eating ice cream or go hiking, or because you have a loved one that you want to spend as much time as you can with, or you have a pet that you don't want to leave behind; it's that important to you. These things become the reason you're still alive.
When you lose the ability to love, or the ability to hope for love, that's when you stop living. You don't enjoy anything anymore, nothing interests you and you're not passionate about anything. In other words, nothing is important to you, and you're basically a husk. You can't really call that being alive anymore, so as cliche as it sounds, I think love is the fuel people run on to live in this world.

So true! I was only referring to the love as regards having a partner. I see many people sad because they don't have a gf/bf but you're right. There are so many kinds of love. For instance, the love I feel for my dog and dad is just beautiful and I'm still here thanks to them.
 
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***WARNING 1. I'M NOT A LOVE EXPERT. THIS IS JUST MY OPINION***
***WARNING 2: I'M ONLY REFERRING TO THE KIND OF LOVE AS REGARDS A BF/GF***


I've seen many people concerned about love but, do you really think it is what you need?
Sure, love will make you feel the happiest human being on Earth for some time but it's also full of pain because of jealousy, routine, mistrust, etc.

Also, I don't feel ready to date anyone because of my suicidal thoughts. I just don't know how long I'll be here. I've experienced love before and the magic is only temporary. Those people who get married and live together until they're grey and old are just amazing. I don't know how they do it.

What about casual relationships? You know, dating a person a few times and that's it? Trust me, that will work and getting some hugs and cuddling from time to time always helps.

Anyway, just felt like writing about this. You know, alcoholic vents lol.

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Matt
Love is blind. That's how I feel about it. Been in a few long term relationships. It just ends with me being disposed of because they get fed Up of me being low.
currebtly decorating my bedroom. Hoping to get a few months of fun in before I go. That would make me happier than ' love'
My bpd craves human touch.
 
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rs929

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The process for me is: fall in love, get a broken heart, be depressed -this process might repeat 1X 2X or even 5X- till you don't give a shit anymore and become a nihilist who doesn't give a shit about love
 
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@loopylou and @rs929 I'm so glad you agree with me and have put in other words what I meant.
That's exactly what love is.
Of course, there are some exceptions but I'd say that applies for the 10% of humanity lol
 
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So true! I was only referring to the love for having a partner. I see many people sad because they don't have a gf/bf but you're right. There are so many kinds of love. For instance, the love I feel for my dog and dad is just beautiful and I'm still here thanks to them.
I'm so happy to hear that! Having things you treasure in life definitely make life worth living. Also I agree, at least in the 21st century, relying on the bonds of a gf/bf to live is definitely unrealistic. I think because nowadays people have more options to choose from due to how easy it is to connect with people via text, social media, Internet forums, internet in general etc. we just don't treasure eachother as much anymore. It's prone to change and oftentimes very fickle. It's definitely better to find something else to love.
 
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rs929

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I'm so happy to hear that! Having things you treasure in life definitely make life worth living. Also I agree, at least in the 21st century, relying on the bonds of a gf/bf to live is definitely unrealistic. I think because nowadays people have more options to choose from due to how easy it is to connect with people via text, social media, Internet forums, internet in general etc. we just don't treasure eachother as much anymore. It's prone to change and oftentimes very fickle. It's definitely better to find something else to love.
And here we are, in a suicide forum.
I want to ctb (N) with someone I love
Sorry this sounds very romantic but doesn't make sense. I would never want someone I love to die.
 
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I feel a little attacked by this post too but that's because I know that love in this form is the only thing that could save me at this rate. It's such a stupid cliche to say that I need to love myself first because I know I will never, ever love myself until someone I love shows love to me first and proves me wrong. Not the other way around. Granted, you are correct that love does come with a lot of potential for pain and more suffering. It certainly isn't cut out for everyone.

When people say there's somebody for everyone I also find that statement laughable because at this rate, the only way for someone to be the correct someone for me is if they were artificially engineered and/or designed specifically to be for me which is not only impossible but also quite hilarious to think that someone would go through all that trouble for me.
 
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WornOutLife

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I feel a little attacked by this post too but that's because I know that love in this form is the only thing that could save me at this rate. It's such a stupid cliche to say that I need to love myself first because I know I will never, ever love myself until someone I love shows love to me first and proves me wrong. Not the other way around. Granted, you are correct that love does come with a lot of potential for pain and more suffering. It certainly isn't cut out for everyone.

When people say there's somebody for everyone I also find that statement laughable because at this rate, the only way for someone to be the correct someone for me is if they were artificially engineered and/or designed specifically to be for me which is not only impossible but also quite hilarious to think that someone would go through all that trouble for me.

Oh, my dear Sonic, you know I would never attack you.
Love can really be awesome but also hurts lots.
I guess we all have to experience it so as to understand it.

Let me tell you, you're one of the best people I really enjoy seeing around. Never change!!
 
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Oh, my dear Sonic, you know I would never attack you.
Love can really be awesome but also hurts lots.
I guess we all have to experience it so as to understand it.

Let me tell you, you're one of the best people I really enjoy seeing around. Never change!!
Thanks... Yeah, as someone who's never experienced it before I could just be holding onto false beliefs. Unfortunately I know for a fact that it's the only thing that CAN help but it's also true there's no guarantee that it will. I can guarantee that at least it will make me try though.
 
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I'd also say that love is much easier for women nowadays. Tinder and all that stuff. I sound like an incel now and since FixThe26 says this forum is run by incels I want to be a special mod and have free N delivered to my house
 
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Love is not necessary , and if ever that concept of love was important, you should take priority
 
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Love is not necessary , and if ever that concept of love was important, you should take priority

Exactly!
Also, what do you think about this?
"If you don't yourself, you can't love anyone".

I just SO agree with those words I read in a book called "Your erroneus zones"
 
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Exactly!
Also, what do you think about this?
"If you don't yourself, you can't love anyone".

I just SO agree with those words I read in a book called "Your erroneus zones"
Good old Wayne Dyer.

I don't agree. You can love someone else but not yourself
 
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Good old Wayne Dyer.

I don't agree. You can love someone else but not yourself

Posta? Para mi el loco tenia toda la razon ahi jaja.
Un gusto verte por aca amigo.
 
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And here we are, in a suicide forum.
Haha, well, just because I don't have anything that I find is important to me, doesn't mean other people can't.
 
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Exactly!
Also, what do you think about this?
"If you don't yourself, you can't love anyone".

I just SO agree with those words I read in a book called "Your erroneus zones
Oh that word play is special :) erogenous is what I presume they implied . Erroneous and erogenous, and I do truly believe heavily in that phrase you cannot love anyone until you love yourself , I've spent a lot of time with myself , after all we all have.

I'm sorry if I got this quote wrong but I believe Ernest hemmingway said "if you are lonely by yourself, you are in bad company "
 
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If you like music recommendations, I would check out "Hymn For A Droid" by the Psychedelic Porn Crumpets. The lyrics are incredible in my opinion, it was a very educational time for me during my last attempt at a social (long distance) relationship.

I'm not real experienced in the love department, but I do think that there is a raw form of love that we lack. Not the kind of idealised, perverse love that's advertised. Then again, what do I know. I mean, even I'm guilty of falling into that paradigm of thought.
 
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rs929

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Oh that word play is special :) erogenous is what I presume they implied . Erroneous and erogenous, and I do truly believe heavily in that phrase you cannot love anyone until you love yourself , I've spent a lot of time with myself , after all we all have.

I'm sorry if I got this quote wrong but I believe Ernest hemmingway said "if you are lonely by yourself, you are in bad company "
I would take a look into the concept of self compassion by Kristin Neff. The basic idea is: treat yourself like you would treat a friend. I find I wouldn't let a friend of mine go through all the things I go through.
Some of us wouldn't ever be as harsh with other people as we are with ourselves.
That's why I believe good ol' Wayne was wrong with "if you don't love yourself you can't love anyone else"
 
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Why would you say I consider you a naive person?
I just shared my experience and if you've really experienced love more than once, you should agree with me lol.

Don't feel like starting any argument, this is just my opinion. I don't and will never have the absolute truth.
You've edited the title of the thread.
Now my comments are completely out of context.
 
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WornOutLife

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You've edited the title of the thread.
Now my comments are completely out of context.

Also, I've added some warnings so that people don't misunderstand what I meant just like you did!
Have a nice weekend!
 
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Good4Nothing

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Also, I've added some warnings so that people don't misunderstand what I meant just like you did!
Have a nice weekend!
The original title was something like:
"Love isn't worth it, trust me".
I was asking why I should trust you.
I didn't misunderstand. If anything, you miscommunicated, as your editing of the title proves.
Have a nice weekend yourself.
 
Amumu

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Idk I'd like to try something before I die
I have almost everything ready so I've got nothing to lose
 
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Once I have stopped deluding myself into thinking a gf will fall into my lap, I think I can finally put that rope to work. Thing is, I have yet to find or even hear of a woman that's as shitty as me when it comes to life-situation, education, work history, mental health, etc. I can find several guys in my situation online but women tend to be in college, have a job, not be suicidal, have several ex-boyfriends, have friends, etc. And they would of course not pick me since they have the option of going for guys that are educated, employed, not suicidal, etc.
 
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The love OP is referring to is a combination of possession, obsession, emotional manipulation.

It does not equals to human compassion after all.
 
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Bigpink

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Love can be something to cling to, to get a form of validation.
I've been through it all and have reverted to my natural state of being alone.
 
Isisnefert

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I think I can comment on this issue because I have been with a partner almost all the time since I was 18, during these years I have made the great mistake of putting love in the first position, I have given myself and followed the other and I have forgotten myself, I have always been an emotionally dependent person, And this only leads to the point where I am right now, I am worth nothing, I am useless I do not love myself and others will stop doing it. you're right, magic only exists at the beginning and there are very few people who give themselves to others like I have. I really don't know why you are suicidal, you have more self-esteem than all the members of the SS, you are an emotionally independent person, that is a mountain I will never get to climb
 
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