I miss my mom

[iloveeetreeeess1]

ive been no contact with my mom for 3 years, I miss her so much but she caused me so much pain beyond belief, I miss her warmth, her smile, but I realise now I am ruminating on the old her, that past version of her will never come back, how do I cope?

 

[Kali_Yuga13]

It sounds like you were trauma bonded. A surrogate can be found out in the world, a woman that embodies the motherly archetype. A teacher, boss, someone that's more advanced in some hobby you share etc.I know it's not exactly the same but if your no-contact is for life and the relationship holds no potential, if that void isn't filled intentionally it will manifest as magnetism for people that are toxic like her. Their warm façade will draw you in because it will feel familiar.

 

[squidsponge]

I also miss my mom but she is dead.
I sometimes try to fill in for what she would say but it's difficult.
You could reach out to yours while they are alive. Even if it's not the past version of them, try and give grace