I just set my FB account up for deletion: Seeing too many people all happy just makes me want to cry. Do you ever feel like that?

[CTB Fella]

As per the title.

Too upset to elaborate.

What are your thoughts on seeing others happy?

Am I selfish?

Can you understand?

Sending love x.

 

[jodes2]

Yeah it's understandable. I don't look at people's profiles though which helps

 

[exhaustedanonymous]

i dont think i really like seeing anyone at all. but the idea that people can see me is worse.

 

[CTB Fella]

Yeah it's understandable. I don't look at people's profiles though which helps

I'm relatively new to FB (always been against it) and you can't help but seeing, when your feed is of past friends with new Porsche Cameras, Gucci loafers and smiles across their faces.

Trust me, I've had it all before, but I'm messed up in the head now.

If I could sleep all day (or night: insomnia) I'd be happy.

I don't need to be reminded that people, especially from a circle from which I came, are so happy.

What the fuck happened to ME?

Where did *I* go wrong?

It doesn't piss me off ... it upsets me, and that's worse.

 

[LocalAngel]

Frequently. Especially ppl who are sharing their Polyamory experience. Seeing them happy makes me angry and sad due to my past poly trauma.

But also just seeing regular high schoolers have a good times makes me envious. I lost that part of my life. It actively makes me want to cry.

 

[CTB Fella]

Frequently. Especially ppl who are sharing their Polyamory experience. Seeing them happy makes me angry and sad due to my past poly trauma.

But also just seeing regular high schoolers have a good times makes me envious. I lost that part of my life. It actively makes me want to cry.

Incorrect response: "Get over it!"

Correct response: You must be extremely sad. Can I help in any way?

 

[whywere]

This is the only social site that I have ever been on, or will be on, and with that said I must be the odd one out on this subject, but I love to make people happy, smile, be self-confident and loving themselves and others.

Walter

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Seeing attractive women posting selfies on twitter and facebook was the main catalyst to me deleting/ disabling it, so I can relate. The jealousy gets to me all of the time, however it is still there when I see them irl and on TV. There is no escape from these triggers.

 

[FuneralCry]

Social media is completely fake, it only shows what people want others to see rather than reflecting the reality of their existence and anyway happiness doesn't exist, it's a delusion. I only personally envy dead people as they lack the ability to suffer, to me nobody who still exists is really fortunate.

 

[CTB Fella]

This is the only social site that I have ever been on, or will be on, and with that said I must be the odd one out on this subject, but I love to make people happy, smile, be self-confident and loving themselves and others.

Walter

I'm glad for you, Walter.

You've been extremely kind to me in the past, and it shows that you like making other people happy.

For that, I love you.

If everyone was like you, I have no doubt in saying that many people on this site would no longer require it.

You are a good man.

Seeing attractive women posting selfies on twitter and facebook was the main catalyst to me deleting/ disabling it, so I can relate. The jealousy gets to me all of the time, however it is still there when I see them irl and on TV. There is no escape from these triggers.

I can have the Gucci loafers, and Porrshe cars, but that no longer brings me happiness.

In fact, the only thing that brings me happiness is an attempt. It literally lifts me out of the madness, and temporarily sets me free.

I shan't say I feel your pain, as I haven't experienced that, but know that I love you.

I'm here (until tomorrow) if you need me.

Sending love x.

 

[AerialBoundaries]

It hurts me, a lot. It makes me look inside myself. Am I that much of a defunct, hopeless individual, that I'm doomed to spend the rest of my days lonely and miserable?

If anybody is in a similar position, don't make the mistake that I did and seek out physical relations to fill the void. It doesn't work and you'll feel worse afterwards.

 

[CTB Fella]

It hurts me, a lot. It makes me look inside myself. Am I that much of a defunct, hopeless individual, that I'm doomed to spend the rest of my days lonely and miserable?

If anybody is in a similar position, don't make the mistake that I did and seek out physical relations to fill the void. It doesn't work and you'll feel worse afterwards.

I concur, 100%

 

[living once]

Nah, your emotions make sense. Seeing happy couples or even just cliques of friends walk by me is enough to make me envious of a life I'll never have. I don't know if I'll be derive happiness like every other well functioning person around me, makes me a cry a good amount.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I am happy that other people have found happiness, but seeing it creates envy sadness, and grief…

 

[CTB Fella]

I am happy that other people have found happiness, but seeing it creates envy sadness, and grief…

I concur.

I truly think it's one of the only scenarios where I genuinely think to myself "why me?"

And that is such a cliche.

 

[Bitterman1996]

I can relate though i usually use twitter solely for following hobby related accounts, so i hate it when people post selfies/happy life updates sometimes :((

, i get bitterly jealous about it. Especially if they are overachiever type or popular/easy to get close to personality, i just... Idk having something right to say and many people can vibe with is a talent on itself, it's like i have to exchange my personality just to pander to people when i interact with them. Obviously i dont say anything to them and usually just mute it.

 

[CTB Fella]

Social media is completely fake, it only shows what people want others to see rather than reflecting the reality of their existence and anyway happiness doesn't exist, it's a delusion. I only personally envy dead people as they lack the ability to suffer, to me nobody who still exists is really fortunate.

I'm like a bloodhound.

I can sniff out genuine vs fake in a heartbeat.

You can tell the genuinely happy ones on FB, and being able to do that, is like stabbing one's self in the heart, as a suicidal person.

The people I know, and the circles with which I used to be involved in, would never understand or ACCEPT mental health issues. They simply see it as a weakness, and would cut you loose as soon as to look at you.

So what does one do?

Surrender to what is, let go of what was, have faith in what will be.

That's all I have left.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I concur.

I truly think it's one of the only scenarios where I genuinely think to myself "why me?"

And that is such a cliche.

You probably know why… decisions you made or bad things that happened to you… maybe stuff from childhood

 

[disabledlife]

As per the title.

Too upset to elaborate.

What are your thoughts on seeing others happy?

Am I selfish?

Can you understand?

Sending love x.

Yes! I totally agree, I hate Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, because of people in good health, rich (for good influencers), surrounded, who go around the world, have children, diplomas, beautiful jobs, a good social status, me, who is ugly, disabled, alone, poor, disease incurable, and still alive!

 

[Forever Sleep]

Definitely relate. I quite Facebook over 10 years ago. Just made me feel worse. I used to use Linkedin to look for work but even that upsets me. I only really use here now.

 

[WaitingToGo]

Yes me too for those very reasons.

 

[greebo6]

I never , and have never , touch social media for the very same reasons.
As for seeing people happy.....yes,always very painful.

 

[everythingblack]

A lot of social media is fake, as other people mentioned, it's curated and tailored to only show you what they want you to see. Everyone has problems and turmoils of their own. That being said, it can definitely be harmful for your mental health to ruminate on these posts and compare. I think it's good that you're removing yourself from that situation. Even that shows a bit of self-preservation. Give yourself some credit, there is still a part of you that cares for yourself. You are not selfish and your feelings are valid/normal.

 

[LossOfMe]

I can't even lie and say "I'm happy that they're happy!" at this point anymore. The past days I've been unable to see posts about my friends/acquaintances/family going on with their lives without wishing they could experience some amount of my anxiety, hopelessness, poverty, illness and trauma.

I've become such disgusting, black-hearted person that I'm better off staying away from social media & general interactions while I still can feel guilty about such thoughts.

 

[novem]

It hurts me to just open that FB thing to look up old acquaintances to just chat and try to recover
All those photos and memories pop up and it is so painful.
I am not deleting the account because it will by my helper to push me over the edge—
when the time comes I will get drunk, open all those pictures and drink my poison far away from people.

 

[thereisthemist]

- internet is not the proper place to get happiness from
- social medias were designed for a certain type of ppl, if not feeling it, leaveing is the right choice
- some of the seeming happy people may even suffer worse, care about the ones you care, including urself


- or like mist, hug, then fuck off towards nowhere

 

[d3c96524be95]

I deleted all my social media accounts many years ago. It was only bringing me back to my inabilities to connect, to be happy and to be liked by others. Even though people only publish on social media the things they want others to see (as some have already stated above), they still had at least those moments to share where they were seemingly happy. Me, I had no such moment to share and I felt very guilty about it. It became clear that I didn't want people to see anything about my life, because there was nothing appealing about it. Therefore I removed all my accounts (which arguably made me even less likely to connect, make friends, and experience such moments of apparent happiness, but also less likely to be betrayed, mistreated, or mocked at).

Also, people publishing photographs of me was constantly reminding me how ugly and awkward I am in comparison to others. Contrary to OP, it's not much that it was enraging me seeing others be happy (I didn't care much TBH), it's more like it was making it clear that there was something wrong with me. So I dodged, as I always do.

 

[FishGoingInsane]

I can't stand to be in public spaces like schools or stores for too long without feeling extremely jealous of the people around me, in groups, laughing and having fun together while I sit or walk alone to get wherever I need to go. I've been like this for years and it's probably selfish, but I just can't help it. Everytime I even tried to get back into any social media, including discord servers, I would just get jealous and delete my accounts shortly after. I desperately want the happiness and deep personal connections that other people have. I have a "great" life with most of what I could possibly want, but I can never have that happiness and sense of belonging, and it's always on my mind. When I'm in public, I always wear my earbuds and blast my songs on full volume, walking while staring at the floor so I don't have to look at the other people around me. I feel like I would go insane without my earbuds and music, being forced to listen to others' laughter and happiness.

 

[DeathToSpiesSMERSH]

I get upset when I see others being happy and I'm unable to be happy. But I wouldn't want to go out of my way to make them miserable, it's not fair. They shouldn't be miserable because I'm miserable.

 

[angelcircuit]

I am sure someone else has already said this, but if it brings you any comfort you should know that social media only expresses what each individual wants you to see. Its a place for the false self to thrive and seek connections, so the people behind the screens can feel better about the misery life inevitably brings. Even right now, all of these people on this forum are showing a side of themselves that they most likely don't express to others, and I assume you are doing the same here. Not saying that what you feel is fake, but its not all of you, is it?

That's the same for your friends. They may upload images or write stories about how positive their life is, but its is merely an illusion. A facade.

Still, it is good that you are removing yourself from these spaces if they are bringing you discomfort and sorrow, just always remember you are not selfish for how you feel. It is a completely understandable and mutual feeling, and its normal to be envious of others who seem to have a better life than you. Try to think of social media as a competitive playing ground, and you'll see how fabricated their digital life is. Nothing is more true than real life.