I feel the same way about listening to songs and watching videos on YouTube. I've just noticed a drastic decline in doing both activities over the years as things have reached a screeching halt being stuck in my room to rot away and be alone. Songs and videos just seem to remind me how much of a failure I am to myself and others.
Videos on YouTube are on plethora of topic . Most Videos are also impersonal , unlike songs all of which are directed to get a strong emotional response.
Why do you not want to watch videos ?
No it's not only you and I'm really sorry that the situation has become like this. I have a very similar situation and I deeply relate when you say that the only songs you can listen are those that have something tragic..
No it's not only you and I'm really sorry that the situation has become like this. I have a very similar situation and I deeply relate when you say that the only songs you can listen are those that have something tragic..
Plenty of tragedy in Manic Street Preachers' songs...
I find I like anime soundtracks. Not entirely understanding the vocals helps me.
I will check them out.
how can you claim that music doesn't do anything for you when the only songs you name are a green day tune and a TV theme song; i.e. products ranging on the 100+ million listens and tens if not hundreds of thousand dollars worth of profit for both artists and labels, it's like attempting to shred a peel, giving up, and proclaiming that's all fruit has to offer. you just haven't found your artists yet. if you don't have the energy or will to find them, then don't.
I have not dove into indie artists . I am more of a "mainstream" guy when it comes to music but if you have any suggestions for songs , I would like to hear them .
Try listening to INSTRUMENTAL music. Basically music but without lyrics. Ever since there are so many options on YouTube, I stopped listening to most songs with lyrics, or ones with people singing in it. As like you said, its not easy to relate to many of them. Give it a try. Just type "Instrumental" or "BGM" (background music) on YouTube. It made my music experience better ever since
I do listen to some instrumentals , every now and then .I am not big on instrumentals. That's a good suggestion , maybe I can dive deeper in instrumentals .
The voice inside my head already make a melody for me so I don't have to look for a music
Meaning ?
Hi there. I often listen to music because it makes me feel better. Maybe you like Dark Wave music, it's very dark (as the name says) and also depressive. But there are different artists with different moods. If you want I can send you some artists and you can see if you like em!
That would be great thank you
Oh that's so awful
I'm sorry u have to go thru this missing out on important things in life. I think many of us here can relate. I mean the issues may vary but the end result is the same. This will not help much to say probably, but do u get any enjoyment from anything in your life currently? As a youth I got to do all the things u are missing out on. I was beautiful when young but had autism so it still caused serious problems for me and major heartache, loss, in those years. I can tell u from experience that some of the things that we yearn for are truly overrated. While u are young u see some of these things with rose tinted glasses because we don't yet have the life experience to see how empty or fleeting some of these experiences are. The majority of adult life pretty much sucks once reality of this world hits. For some people this happens sooner and some later but it will happen to everyone. The best thing I can tell u, is not to compare your situation to anyone else. God is aware of what u are dealing with. There's a verse in the Bible: it goes something like… those who are first in this life shall be last in the next life. Those who didn't get to have a life in this life will be getting the life we missed out on in God's kingdom. If u can try to believe in this, because it is true. It will help u to endure until we get to go to that place. U will not be disabled there, no aging, and we will have a spirit body, but will still be able to eat and enjoy life.
I am young in my 20's and I am missing out everything in my life that people my age enjoy . One step further , I can't walk properly now for medium distances and have many more health problems .
Thank you for your kind words, May what you say be true .
Yup, in fact listening to music about parties, romance, good times etc and songs about sex makes me rage. Call me shallow but that's the type of stuff I care about in life and I can't have it.
I feel the same
There's nothing shallow about that . Non platonic love is a need not a luxury .
Listening to music especially the tracks that used to lift me up now are allergic and bring me down.
Same
Do you like Classical music? I listen to soundtracks a lot. They are good for fitting all kinds of moods. Know what you mean about love songs though. I either can't relate or feel sad that I probably wanted to experience all that at one point.
Some suggestions would be great, I have not listened to a lot of classical songs .
No, giving up music is definitely among of the greater psychological obstacles for me when it comes to CTB!
One of my friends considers , music to be his life force , so do many other people .
I mostly just listen to death metal because it doesn't try to provoke memories or feelings that I'm sensitive to. It's just fun and creative. Everything else is just painful to listen to anymore.
I am not a big metal fan . It's too much of a stimulus overload for me . I am happy it bring some joy for you
I used to watch a lot of video stuff on youtube incl listening to music but when I was deeply depressed due to massive failure again last May, I stopped everything, didn't watch videos, didn't listen to music, nothing. I was just not interested. This is slowly recovering and I listen to music sometimes or watch sth sometimes but by far not as much as I did before.
Why did you stop watching videos ? I find them more impersonal and that's why more enjoyable.
Glad you are getting musical ear back .
I've tried listening to music as well and it just feels empty. Everything does. At least before it had something. I only cry now listening to my partner and I's favorite band, The Antlers.
If I only listened to pop music, I'd have given up on music too. Nowadays I outright avoid songs with lyrics because 95% of the time they make me feel more depressed. A lot of people sing about their life experiences, but I don't have a lot of those experiences as a depressed person so they always just make me feel more alien compared to "normal."
Now I only listen to small indie artists who make music without lyrics, though indie artists are a mixed bag
Same here . I can't relate to most of them worse they make me sadder like you said because I don't have those things in life not do I see any hope of getting them .
I used to love music. Kept me going. Now it's just background noise to get drunk to. Thought music was magic and transcendental. Now I just think of it as emotional manipulation and a sales tactic. Makes me sad. I miss how it used to be
Musicians make their bag by invoking a strong emotional response from their audience. The songs are carefully designed that way . Not that there's anything wrong with that but it is a sales tactic . That's a great way to think about it .
