I hate seeing couples n hearing people talk about relations

[Tired_only]

It makes want to kms even more. It makes me feel so undesirable, ugly and like a monster and more lonely than i already am. It makes me start thinking harder about my plans i already think about and more willing to execute it. I want to kms so badly but i'm too much of a wimp.

I'm sick of being in this world and constantly see people successfully dating, flirting and being a couple. It makes me sick, literally want to vomit and curl up in a ball.

People make it look so easy to find a bf, most people have flirted and been flirted with and had at least one relationship. Yet here i'am being rejected by everything that identifies as human. F this life.

 

[Marine]

I feel you 100%. I really need to fix things and experience this...

 

[FuneralCry]

It really is such an cruel and unfair life. I can imagine that it must be so painful being in that situation. I'm sorry that you suffer so unbearably.

 

[Rational man]

I.feel.your pain❤

 

[Cosmic dust]

Same here.

Sometimes I wonder: if there are so many people alone, why can't we find each other?

I am not that ugly and I doubt that most of you are. I would settle for someone average or below, but everyone that I meet on real life is either already engaged or have some very high standards.

 

[drakeramoraya158]

I can feel your pain to a certain extent. Even I used to have those kinds of feelings when I used to see couples.

But I did get into a relationship with someone for a brief period. Gues what, she left me for no reason. Now I think getting into a relationship is highly overrated. Now, when I see a couple, I don't feel anything.

 

[Funeralprincess]

It makes want to kms even more. It makes me feel so undesirable, ugly and like a monster and more lonely than i already am. It makes me start thinking harder about my plans i already think about and more willing to execute it. I want to kms so badly but i'm too much of a wimp.

I'm sick of being in this world and constantly see people successfully dating, flirting and being a couple. It makes me sick, literally want to vomit and curl up in a ball.

People make it look so easy to find a bf, most people have flirted and been flirted with and had at least one relationship. Yet here i'am being rejected by everything that identifies as human. F this life.

It's worse when you have true love and then you lose it. That's what happened to me and it's traumatized me for years. Everyone says oh it's so good to have loved and lost than never have it at all and I heavily disagree. The trauma from the love of your life abandoning you will make you feel uglier and even more worthless especially as a woman

 

[justlookinforanswers]

I have BPD and don't want a relationship because I'll almost certainly fuck it up and end up with more trauma than I started with, yet I STILL feel empty and constantly in pain over it and I get those pains in my chest when I see people happy because it's like it's so simple for them (or at least far simpler than it is for me). it's like there's no way through this problem that doesn't end up hurting me more than I was already hurt. it just hurts more and more with time no matter what I do

 

[NothingElseMatters]

damn you think exactly like me, i fucking hate my life, not only because no girl ever wasted her time looking at my ugly face, but that's a reason.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

It's worse when you have true love and then you lose it. That's what happened to me and it's traumatized me for years. Everyone says oh it's so good to have loved and lost than never have it at all and I heavily disagree. The trauma from the love of your life abandoning you will make you feel uglier and even more worthless especially as a woman

That is a really terrible quote, "better to have loved and lost than never to have/be loved at all." How many millions of people do you think lived their entire lives lonely and lost never being able to receive love and give it in return and have quotes like that shoved down their throat about how love and romance are the most wonderful things ever? It's a very Disney way of looking at life. I heavily disagree with it, too.

 

[jamie_]

It's worse when you have true love and then you lose it. That's what happened to me and it's traumatized me for years. Everyone says oh it's so good to have loved and lost than never have it at all and I heavily disagree. The trauma from the love of your life abandoning you will make you feel uglier and even more worthless especially as a woman

That is a really terrible quote, "better to have loved and lost than never to have/be loved at all." How many millions of people do you think lived their entire lives lonely and lost never being able to receive love and give it in return and have quotes like that shoved down their throat about how love and romance are the most wonderful things ever? It's a very Disney way of looking at life. I heavily disagree with it, too.

true love and its loss ruined my life. i have never been low-functioning until it happened. not finding love might have meant not experiencing my happiest but it also wouldn't have ruined my life either. i was confident, productive, and content before love. i would not have lost everything if i never loved. i would still enjoy the things i used to enjoy before love, still do my hobbies, still have a drive to work towards my future and on myself, and would not have got myself expelled from college. i would not have become suicidal.

 

[NotHuman]

Yup, I feel this. The few times I've ever received a response online or found a single woman who was willing to even talk to me IRL I would have to carry the entire conversation and engage them as though my life depended on it just to be cast aside all the same. I can't blame them; women tend to prefer a man who is the opposite of me in every way and would gain nothing by settling.

Life was bearable back when friendship was still relevant, but in their 30's everyone's too busy between their families and careers so chronic loneliness it is.

Sometimes I wonder: if there are so many people alone, why can't we find each other?

Because lonely people's brains are too broken to understand how to conduct healthy relationships on their own. The last time I made the mistake of befriending a lonely guy he used me as a free therapist and emotional support animal. I lightly suggested that we do something other than what he wanted to do for once, and he ignored me, so I ignored his next text and he blew up on me.

 

[Ashu]

Same here.

Sometimes I wonder: if there are so many people alone, why can't we find each other?

Of course, the other side of the thing is that many of us are impossible people and couldn't get along even with each other.

 

[unredeemable]

Relationships suck. For me, at least. My Asperger's makes me do the stupidest shit. I hurt people and have no idea why, or expect them to see things my way.

I also learned how to mask really well, without even knowing what I was doing. When there's no genuine self, you spend all your time trying to reshape your mask into the perfect match for your partner without even realizing it.

Asked my wife of 15 years for a trial separation yesterday and she moved out tonight. I don't feel anything but relief. She was the number person holding me back from ctb. Now that she's gone I feel like I have some level of control again.

Hoping living alone is actually as good as it seems in my head right now. If that doesn't work, I'm clearing myself for takeoff. Sick of having to pretend I care about anything anymore.

 

[NotHuman]

Well, you've given me some hope for my situation at least. I'd become convinced that I could never imposter my way through a relationship let alone into one.

I'm told by family that my masking is convincing but I'm not so sure. In any case, I'm so far gone that the only way I could successfully navigate a relationship is to perfectly mirror-mask. The dating scene alone is exhausting though; an introvert that only wants to play video games with a wife pretending to love bars, animals, watersports, hikes, music, dance, etc. Of course, without the mask I'd be about as appealing to women as an abortion.

 

[danausplexi]

I understand how you feel. I've never even yearned for a relationship because maybe deep down I always knew that I couldn't attain one?
But I can see how constantly seeing happy couples can break you down. I was always ignored (I think due to my looks) throughout most of my life and I just sort of made peace with it. I try to find things enjoyable without a relationship.

 

[Zegers]

I understand you. I think the loneliness started in HS when all the guys were after the girls and i felt like invisible.
I feel so strange, even sick, when i walk down the street and i see groups of people, couples (mostly) and i've been alone in a room for years and i don't see any possible way to solve it. I think you get sick when the loneliness is very prolonged, prolonged loneliness is a problem.

 

[Forever Sleep]

This used to really get to me too. Kind of does feel like the world is made for two sometimes.

Still, I also know that I wouldn't recover well from a broken heart and I think relationships are difficult.

Honestly, I'm so tired of the pain of loosing people- to death or because they've/I've moved away and we've lost touch. There's this really cynical part of me that feels like it's safer not to get close to people- you don't get hurt that way. Still, it's not a great way to live.

 

[Bodydysmorphia]

I'll probably never find someone who fits me so I'll try to settle with animals instead as they have a therapeutic effect on me.

 

[Resinn66]

I understand and it's awful, but what else can we do? What is our purpose in life? I think we have to adapt to this situation and maybe find a hobby that we like that compensates in part for this emptiness. Well tbh, I feel much more miserable when I'm in the middle of a small talk chat.

 

[Funeralprincess]

true love and its loss ruined my life. i have never been low-functioning until it happened. not finding love might have meant not experiencing my happiest but it also wouldn't have ruined my life either. i was confident, productive, and content before love. i would not have lost everything if i never loved. i would still enjoy the things i used to enjoy before love, still do my hobbies, still have a drive to work towards my future and on myself, and would not have got myself expelled from college. i would not have become suicidal.

I'm tired of people saying that we essentially should be grateful all because they've never experienced it. It's one thing to lose a relationship where the love wasn't so deep and true; it's another to lose a relationship where you were deeply in love and you gave essentially your life and the shirt off your back for it. I wouldn't be in the position I'm in had I never experienced it either. We don't have to "be grateful" for enduring something that's fucked our lives up

 

[Funeralprincess]

That is a really terrible quote, "better to have loved and lost than never to have/be loved at all." How many millions of people do you think lived their entire lives lonely and lost never being able to receive love and give it in return and have quotes like that shoved down their throat about how love and romance are the most wonderful things ever? It's a very Disney way of looking at life. I heavily disagree with it, too.

Yeah it's just horrible. It's horrible to say it to people who never ever got to experience love, and it's horrible to say it to people like me that lost the love of their life as it invalidates how fucking traumatizing that really is. People who say this stuff are full of toxic positivity hell, even when I was with the love of my life I still made sure to not be insensitive towards people who never had love, so I think some people just don't give a shit about people's feelings and pain. They just say whatever whenever, and don't care about how that toxic positivity is affecting people around them

 

[WhatPowerIs]

Yeah it's just horrible. It's horrible to say it to people who never ever got to experience love, and it's horrible to say it to people like me that lost the love of their life as it invalidates how fucking traumatizing that really is. People who say this stuff are full of toxic positivity hell, even when I was with the love of my life I still made sure to not be insensitive towards people who never had love, so I think some people just don't give a shit about people's feelings and pain. They just say whatever whenever, and don't care about how that toxic positivity is affecting people around them

It really is the most terrible thing because I feel it implies that other people should be living a rigid lifestyle, a lifestyle that is similar to the person saying the quote, and any other lifestyle is seen as weird or undesirable. I would like to sincerely believe there is more to life than just finding love but good grief, I really relate to OP, some people really do make it look easy.

 

[September5th]

I'm tired of people saying that we essentially should be grateful all because they've never experienced it.

This!!!
I can assure you guys that never have loved or being loved by anyone is 100% better than having love just to lose it (throughout my life I've been on both sides of the spectrum).
Try to imagine the pain that is waking up every day not only missing your loved one, but also knowing that things could've been different and you fucked up. Not only that, you need to cope with the fact that this person is hanging out with other people and that you don't even talk anymore.
Try to picture all of your hard work not paying off. All the good memories you have being now weapons of torture. It's demoralizing. It makes you feel like trash. All you can think about is how to go back in time and fix everything. Fuck, I miss our first kiss so much...

 

[lofticries]

Honestly I don't mind couples acting lovey dovey but seeing couples fight gives me mad ptsd from watching my parents fight everyday as a kid.

 

[BreathDeeply]

I totally agree... Its these kind of things that has made me a hermit. Being in public and watching the world pass me by is agonizing

It makes want to kms even more. It makes me feel so undesirable, ugly and like a monster and more lonely than i already am. It makes me start thinking harder about my plans i already think about and more willing to execute it. I want to kms so badly but i'm too much of a wimp.

I'm sick of being in this world and constantly see people successfully dating, flirting and being a couple. It makes me sick, literally want to vomit and curl up in a ball.

People make it look so easy to find a bf, most people have flirted and been flirted with and had at least one relationship. Yet here i'am being rejected by everything that identifies as human. F this life.

.

 

[Jack4230]

Literally ally my friends and my roommates are in relationships. It's heart crushing and even though I'm happy for them I'm unbelievably lonely and if I had to guess I'll feel this way forever.

 

[jamie_]

This!!!
I can assure you guys that never have loved or being loved by anyone is 100% better than having love just to lose it (throughout my life I've been on both sides of the spectrum).
Try to imagine the pain that is waking up every day not only missing your loved one, but also knowing that things could've been different and you fucked up. Not only that, you need to cope with the fact that this person is hanging out with other people and that you don't even talk anymore.
Try to picture all of your hard work not paying off. All the good memories you have being now weapons of torture. It's demoralizing. It makes you feel like trash. All you can think about is how to go back in time and fix everything. Fuck, I miss our first kiss so much...

it sucked to feel lonely like i feel most people are in the era of technology. don't get me wrong it was not all happy going life not being having someone by your side and it can suck. but it does not compare to now. at least i was functional. not being loved but desiring for love is a lot better than not being loved but not desiring for love either because love has been destroyed for you and you only desire one person.

 

[Funeralprincess]

This!!!
I can assure you guys that never have loved or being loved by anyone is 100% better than having love just to lose it (throughout my life I've been on both sides of the spectrum).
Try to imagine the pain that is waking up every day not only missing your loved one, but also knowing that things could've been different and you fucked up. Not only that, you need to cope with the fact that this person is hanging out with other people and that you don't even talk anymore.
Try to picture all of your hard work not paying off. All the good memories you have being now weapons of torture. It's demoralizing. It makes you feel like trash. All you can think about is how to go back in time and fix everything. Fuck, I miss our first kiss so much...

EXACTLY. I've been on both sides to and I'm seeing a lot of people invalidating us on here saying " I was in the same situation and it got better" I'm like, then you aren't in the same situation lol. The people on here invalidating us trying to compare our situations to theirs and the people saying be grateful have not been in our shoes and it shows. Wait until they find out there's people like us who've been unable to move on for thirty years… how do I know? Because I have group therapy with them lol. These people invalidating us have no experience in this and it's really starting to rub me the wrong way when they open their mouths. It's better to have not loved at all

 

[Hurt]

It depends in my case. It could be a toxic relationship and in that case it's not good and I prefer to be single. Anyway I gave up on having a gf. Who on Earth wants to be with someone who only thinks in dying.