NSFW i hate females because of the torture i have suffered ( i hate myself )

[wham311]

Its not like one of those physical abuse or anything but women have mentally tortured me so much in my life that i hate every single new female i meet for no reason or mainly because none of them , and i swear none of them are not dry each one istg each one doesnt reply until you send like 5 or 6 messages , and im a good looking dude i cant even lie do women not like it when someone is desperate for them? Obviously not in a insane way but jus to talk w them?

I have never had someone who was as desperate for me as i was for them Lol no matter how much i changed myself for them like i hate myself if someone could actually kill me i would be grateful jus kill me and do whatever the fuck you want to do with my body afterwards hell im a healthy dude , sell my organs and enjoy the rest of your life or sm shit but please jus kill me i cant do this anymore i really cant

Yes too needy, not enough going on in life is what it comes across as. Women will be attracted when everything else is sorted out.

id they're interested they'll respond. Has to be more charming, your social media is likely communicating things that aren't attractive. Hobbies, signs of success, style, friends. You wanna be someone they wanna date, just appearance is not enough, you have to be a whole ass person.

 

[yxmux]

It sounds more like you hate your need and dependence on women. Especially when that isn't reciprocated. I can relate to that.

I am getting this impression as well. I feel like OP might be too impressive in his tone and too stringent on commitment. The constant remarks on such a broad population speaks to me as him placing others in exile without realizing, and him using language that understands women as impersonal subjects at the same time could be comprehended as a vessel for that.

This isn't in offense to OP, btw. I don't think you are doing any of this deliberately. It's just a mismatch in nonverbal cues. But overall, I get the impression that you might be making yourself come off as too emotionally demanding to the point where you're entertaining grotesque fantasies.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I am getting this impression as well. I feel like OP might be too impressive in his tone and too stringent on commitment. The constant remarks on such a broad population speaks to me as him placing others in exile without realizing, and him using language that understands women as impersonal subjects at the same time could be comprehended as a vessel for that.

This isn't in offense to OP, btw. I don't think you are doing any of this deliberately. It's just a mismatch in nonverbal cues. But overall, I get the impression that you might be making yourself come off as too emotionally demanding to the point where you're entertaining grotesque fantasies.

It's always hard to judge from such short snippets but I suppose we all try to judge the situation and possible reasons for the described reactions/ behaviour.

I wasn't so much trying to assess his possible attitude/ behaviour towards women though.

For me, it's more that I can relate to feeling hopelessly dependent on the approval of a guy. It was a very unpleasant period in my life- limerence. I can also relate to wanting a friendship/ relationship to be deeper than it actually is. Especially if we really respect or admire that person. I suppose the fact that we're social creatures by nature means that we feel the need to develop strong social bonds. The need for that isn't exactly weird. Neither is the frustration or disappointment when others don't want the same or, appear to for a while and then, drop you.

That's one thing I would pick up on though OP- Do you actually genuinely admire these people for who they are? Do you have shared interests? Does it feel natural to talk to them about anything? Can you freely be yourself with them?

That- for me, is the state of 'clicking' with someone. But personally, I've found deep friendships are rare. So many things need to align- enough similarities/ interests/ ambitions in life. I also think it helps if you both have needs that the other fulfills. With my best friend, we were both worriers and we used to sit and talk about the same problems over and over. It was so comfortable to be around them. It's so rare to find though. I still have a small circle of friends that I like but only one or two of those friendships were really deep.

Plus of course, the hurt if you lose those friendships is terrible. I've come to the conclusion that they aren't worth the risk now. Not that anything unpleasant happened. Just lives moving in different directions and a drifting away. Sadly though, people are often unreliable.

Because I know that I can become overly dependent on others, I do my best to just steer clear now. Too much risk involved. It's not a healthy way to live by any means though.

 

[skybox]

Its not like one of those physical abuse or anything but women have mentally tortured me so much in my life that i hate every single new female i meet for no reason or mainly because none of them , and i swear none of them are not dry each one istg each one doesnt reply until you send like 5 or 6 messages , and im a good looking dude i cant even lie do women not like it when someone is desperate for them? Obviously not in a insane way but jus to talk w them?

I have never had someone who was as desperate for me as i was for them Lol no matter how much i changed myself for them like i hate myself if someone could actually kill me i would be grateful jus kill me and do whatever the fuck you want to do with my body afterwards hell im a healthy dude , sell my organs and enjoy the rest of your life or sm shit but please jus kill me i cant do this anymore i really cant

You sound very young. As a 30 year old female, you gotta reel it back. Desperation is not attractive. To be brutally honest, a lot of women put looks over everything, and height over that. If you're a short average guy in your 20s, then the dating pool is about as atrocious as it gets. I'm just speaking figuratively of course, I'm a lesbian with plenty of guy friends in different age groups. The things men do for women's attention is obvious. Look at yourself from the eyes of the average woman in your area. Dating sucks, the methods suck, the apps suck, and it's hard to find someone in person with mutual attraction. Men and women suck. Sorry dude

 

[Holu]

OP thred = nt scientfc

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a wild dot appears!

Also I didn't know that rhetoric(as in using female as a derogatory slur) isn't allowed. I'm glad to see it's being taken seriously.

 

[Higurashi415]

You sound very young. As a 30 year old female, you gotta reel it back. Desperation is not attractive. To be brutally honest, a lot of women put looks over everything, and height over that. If you're a short average guy in your 20s, then the dating pool is about as atrocious as it gets. I'm just speaking figuratively of course, I'm a lesbian with plenty of guy friends in different age groups. The things men do for women's attention is obvious. Look at yourself from the eyes of the average woman in your area. Dating sucks, the methods suck, the apps suck, and it's hard to find someone in person with mutual attractive. Men and women suck. Sorry dude

Data suggests that being tallER is more important than being tall.

 

[gothbird]

I have things to say, but I will not say them.

The one thing I feel comfortable mentioning is that it might be helpful for you, OP, to take some time to reflect inward and work towards healing any parts of yourself that may be causing you to deflect from understanding the true reasons behind the difficulties in finding a partner. Based on the evidence in this thread, it seems unlikely that women are the primary issue. It's often easy to deflect responsibility and attribute shortcomings to others.
Wishing you the best of luck and hope you find healing for any past trauma.

 

[lunar02102009]

I am getting this impression as well. I feel like OP might be too impressive in his tone and too stringent on commitment. The constant remarks on such a broad population speaks to me as him placing others in exile without realizing, and him using language that understands women as impersonal subjects at the same time could be comprehended as a vessel for that.

This isn't in offense to OP, btw. I don't think you are doing any of this deliberately. It's just a mismatch in nonverbal cues. But overall, I get the impression that you might be making yourself come off as too emotionally demanding to the point where you're entertaining grotesque fantasies.

Is it really that bad to demand for a emotional partner....?

I have things to say, but I will not say them.

The one thing I feel comfortable mentioning is that it might be helpful for you, OP, to take some time to reflect inward and work towards healing any parts of yourself that may be causing you to deflect from understanding the true reasons behind the difficulties in finding a partner. Based on the evidence in this thread, it seems unlikely that women are the primary issue. It's often easy to deflect responsibility and attribute shortcomings to others.
Wishing you the best of luck and hope you find healing for any past trauma.

I didnt say women were the issue in the first place , jus my general experience with women was but idk about others but i give up jus gonna work on myself

 

[bankai]

Another popcorn thread. I knew it as soon as I saw the title.

Provocative,enthralling as the critics would call it!

 

[lunar02102009]

Maybe they said that because they felt pressured into saying that, maybe they're just dumb, doesn't matter. It clearly wasn't a fit, reroll the dice.
What's hard to understand for guys is that most girls don't care about most guys in the sexual and/or romantic sense, so oddly enough it's easier for guys to catch feelings. They just wanna talk, share feelings, and stuff like that. The same thing they'd do with a female friend in other words-they just want a friend.
I think the misunderstanding comes from the fact that sharing feelings in an intimate way is normal behavior in a female-female relationship but it's very unlikely for that to happen in a male-male relationship, so males mix the signals.

Yeah you are right , women dont care abt most guys in a sexual/romantic sense , realised that the hard way

Another popcorn thread. I knew it as soon as I saw the title.

Provocative,enthralling as the critics would call it!

It was supposed to be a vent but we got women attacking me so thats that ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

a wild dot appears!

Also I didn't know that rhetoric(as in using female as a derogatory slur) isn't allowed. I'm glad to see it's being taken seriously.

Just to clear things up i have had a bad experience dating with women , not against them or anything but i have been desperate and / or non desperate with the partners i have dated but nothing worked , im jus annoyed why would they date me in the first place? Pity ion think so

 

[Dot]

Yeah you are right , women dont care abt most guys in a sexual/romantic sense , realised that the hard way

It was supposed to be a vent but we got women attacking me so thats that ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Just to clear things up i have had a bad experience dating with women , not against them or anything but i have been desperate and / or non desperate with the partners i have dated but nothing worked , im jus annoyed why would they date me in the first place? Pity ion think so

Womn wll oftn d8 u 2 gt 2 knw u bettr

If thy snse tht despratn whle d8tng u thn tht wll oftn pt thm off bcse despratn nt only pts pressre on thm bt cn also b linkd 2 instablty or contrllng issus or abse l8tr on -- simlr b-havr in womn wll pt off mny mn bcse thy also as ppl d/ nt wn2 fl rsponsble fr thr partnr in tht wy

S/ = nt tht womn d/ nt cre -- mst ppl r lookng fr helthy rlatnshps & a levl of helthy emotnl regulatn wll b importnt in tht

 

[lunar02102009]

Womn wll oftn d8 u 2 gt 2 knw u bettr

If thy snse tht despratn whle d8tng u thn tht wll oftn pt thm off bcse despratn nt only pts pressre on thm bt cn also b linkd 2 instablty or contrllng issus or abse l8tr on -- simlr b-havr in womn wll pt off mny mn bcse thy also as ppl d/ nt wn2 fl rsponsble fr thr partnr in tht wy

S/ = nt tht womn d/ nt cre -- mst ppl r lookng fr helthy rlatnshps & a levl of helthy emotnl regulatn wll b importnt in tht

if they date just to get to know you better its straight up inhumane... even if its males if someone dates you just to get to know you better and leaves its jus inhumane like the first place ur dating them is because you like them...and if you dont jus straight up say it..it wout rly hurt sm's feelings if they are dating someone and the other person dates them jus for the sake of dating....and not actually having any intrest in them

 

[Higurashi415]

if they date just to get to know you better its straight up inhumane... even if its males if someone dates you just to get to know you better and leaves its jus inhumane like the first place ur dating them is because you like them...and if you dont jus straight up say it..it wout rly hurt sm's feelings if they are dating someone and the other person dates them jus for the sake of dating....and not actually having any intrest in them

Its inhumane only if you misinterpret what a date means. Don't get your hopes up, don't spend too much money, think of it like drinking a beer with a friend but dress better than you would in that occasion.

I don't think it's appropriate to catch feelings for someone you haven't even been on a date with - you don't know who they are, how can you even catch feelings?

 

[Maaizr]

Another popcorn thread. I knew it as soon as I saw the title.

Provocative,enthralling as the critics would call it!

ikr this kinda thread never goes well, ever

 

[lunar02102009]

Its inhumane only if you misinterpret what a date means. Don't get your hopes up, don't spend too much money, think of it like drinking a beer with a friend but dress better than you would in that occasion.

I don't think it's appropriate to catch feelings for someone you haven't even been on a date with - you don't know who they are, how can you even catch feelings?

omg why do people keep assuming the wrong thing by dating i meant atleast a 6+ month relationship...

 

[wham311]

omg why do people keep assuming the wrong thing by dating i meant atleast a 6+ month relationship...

The entire relationship we get to know people. Sometimes it takes a long time to see new information, like how they handle things/situations that show them in a different life. We don't even see a lot of stuff until we live with the other person. People divorce after decades.

If a relationship stops being enjoyable people don't want to be in it anymore.

 

[bankai]

ikr this kinda thread never goes well, ever

I'm on my third bag of popcorn.i looked up the calories,not good at all.

 

[lunar02102009]

The entire relationship we get to know people. Sometimes it takes a long time to see new information, like how they handle things/situations that show them in a different life. We don't even see a lot of stuff until we live with the other person. People divorce after decades.

If a relationship stops being enjoyable people don't want to be in it anymore.