NSFW i hate females because of the torture i have suffered ( i hate myself )

[wham311]

Its not like one of those physical abuse or anything but women have mentally tortured me so much in my life that i hate every single new female i meet for no reason or mainly because none of them , and i swear none of them are not dry each one istg each one doesnt reply until you send like 5 or 6 messages , and im a good looking dude i cant even lie do women not like it when someone is desperate for them? Obviously not in a insane way but jus to talk w them?

I have never had someone who was as desperate for me as i was for them Lol no matter how much i changed myself for them like i hate myself if someone could actually kill me i would be grateful jus kill me and do whatever the fuck you want to do with my body afterwards hell im a healthy dude , sell my organs and enjoy the rest of your life or sm shit but please jus kill me i cant do this anymore i really cant

Yes too needy, not enough going on in life is what it comes across as. Women will be attracted when everything else is sorted out.

id they're interested they'll respond. Has to be more charming, your social media is likely communicating things that aren't attractive. Hobbies, signs of success, style, friends. You wanna be someone they wanna date, just appearance is not enough, you have to be a whole ass person.

 

[yxmux]

It sounds more like you hate your need and dependence on women. Especially when that isn't reciprocated. I can relate to that.

I am getting this impression as well. I feel like OP might be too impressive in his tone and too stringent on commitment. The constant remarks on such a broad population speaks to me as him placing others in exile without realizing, and him using language that understands women as impersonal subjects at the same time could be comprehended as a vessel for that.

This isn't in offense to OP, btw. I don't think you are doing any of this deliberately. It's just a mismatch in nonverbal cues. But overall, I get the impression that you might be making yourself come off as too emotionally demanding to the point where you're entertaining grotesque fantasies.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I am getting this impression as well. I feel like OP might be too impressive in his tone and too stringent on commitment. The constant remarks on such a broad population speaks to me as him placing others in exile without realizing, and him using language that understands women as impersonal subjects at the same time could be comprehended as a vessel for that.

This isn't in offense to OP, btw. I don't think you are doing any of this deliberately. It's just a mismatch in nonverbal cues. But overall, I get the impression that you might be making yourself come off as too emotionally demanding to the point where you're entertaining grotesque fantasies.

It's always hard to judge from such short snippets but I suppose we all try to judge the situation and possible reasons for the described reactions/ behaviour.

I wasn't so much trying to assess his possible attitude/ behaviour towards women though.

For me, it's more that I can relate to feeling hopelessly dependent on the approval of a guy. It was a very unpleasant period in my life- limerence. I can also relate to wanting a friendship/ relationship to be deeper than it actually is. Especially if we really respect or admire that person. I suppose the fact that we're social creatures by nature means that we feel the need to develop strong social bonds. The need for that isn't exactly weird. Neither is the frustration or disappointment when others don't want the same or, appear to for a while and then, drop you.

That's one thing I would pick up on though OP- Do you actually genuinely admire these people for who they are? Do you have shared interests? Does it feel natural to talk to them about anything? Can you freely be yourself with them?

That- for me, is the state of 'clicking' with someone. But personally, I've found deep friendships are rare. So many things need to align- enough similarities/ interests/ ambitions in life. I also think it helps if you both have needs that the other fulfills. With my best friend, we were both worriers and we used to sit and talk about the same problems over and over. It was so comfortable to be around them. It's so rare to find though. I still have a small circle of friends that I like but only one or two of those friendships were really deep.

Plus of course, the hurt if you lose those friendships is terrible. I've come to the conclusion that they aren't worth the risk now. Not that anything unpleasant happened. Just lives moving in different directions and a drifting away. Sadly though, people are often unreliable.

Because I know that I can become overly dependent on others, I do my best to just steer clear now. Too much risk involved. It's not a healthy way to live by any means though.

 

[skybox]

Its not like one of those physical abuse or anything but women have mentally tortured me so much in my life that i hate every single new female i meet for no reason or mainly because none of them , and i swear none of them are not dry each one istg each one doesnt reply until you send like 5 or 6 messages , and im a good looking dude i cant even lie do women not like it when someone is desperate for them? Obviously not in a insane way but jus to talk w them?

I have never had someone who was as desperate for me as i was for them Lol no matter how much i changed myself for them like i hate myself if someone could actually kill me i would be grateful jus kill me and do whatever the fuck you want to do with my body afterwards hell im a healthy dude , sell my organs and enjoy the rest of your life or sm shit but please jus kill me i cant do this anymore i really cant

You sound very young. As a 30 year old female, you gotta reel it back. Desperation is not attractive. To be brutally honest, a lot of women put looks over everything, and height over that. If you're a short average guy in your 20s, then the dating pool is about as atrocious as it gets. I'm just speaking figuratively of course, I'm a lesbian with plenty of guy friends in different age groups. The things men do for women's attention is obvious. Look at yourself from the eyes of the average woman in your area. Dating sucks, the methods suck, the apps suck, and it's hard to find someone in person with mutual attraction. Men and women suck. Sorry dude

 

[Holu]

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a wild dot appears!

Also I didn't know that rhetoric(as in using female as a derogatory slur) isn't allowed. I'm glad to see it's being taken seriously.

 

[Higurashi415]

You sound very young. As a 30 year old female, you gotta reel it back. Desperation is not attractive. To be brutally honest, a lot of women put looks over everything, and height over that. If you're a short average guy in your 20s, then the dating pool is about as atrocious as it gets. I'm just speaking figuratively of course, I'm a lesbian with plenty of guy friends in different age groups. The things men do for women's attention is obvious. Look at yourself from the eyes of the average woman in your area. Dating sucks, the methods suck, the apps suck, and it's hard to find someone in person with mutual attractive. Men and women suck. Sorry dude

Data suggests that being tallER is more important than being tall.

 

[gothbird]

I have things to say, but I will not say them.

The one thing I feel comfortable mentioning is that it might be helpful for you, OP, to take some time to reflect inward and work towards healing any parts of yourself that may be causing you to deflect from understanding the true reasons behind the difficulties in finding a partner. Based on the evidence in this thread, it seems unlikely that women are the primary issue. It's often easy to deflect responsibility and attribute shortcomings to others.
Wishing you the best of luck and hope you find healing for any past trauma.