Venting I hate being told what to do at work. Anyone else also having problem with authorities?

[Motoko]

I hate being told what to do at work. Especially when what my boss is telling me to do is irrational and she even can't explain why something should be done like this. It just proves me that she doesn't know anything about the topic, but demands it to be done anyway. You know what I mean? I think I have problem with authorities, obeying my boss etc. I hate the fact that she can have control over me. It makes me feel like a slave. If I had a boss who actually knows what's up then I would still have these problems, but maybe to a smaller extent.

I don't see myself going like this for another 35 years. I don't see myself having my own business. I'm not that type of a person. Besides, it's not just at work, I think I generally don't like when someone has some kind of control over me and is in position where they can tell me what to do. But work is the main problem since I spend 8 hours a day. She is a freaking stranger to me and yet I have to do it. Maybe I'm just a snowflake/narcissist/childish/whatever. It doesn't change the fact how I feel.

Anyone else have similar problem? How do you deal with it?

 

[CatAstro.Fee]

I hate being told what to do at work. Especially when what my boss is telling me to do is irrational and she even can't explain why something should be done like this. It just proves me that she doesn't know anything about the topic, but demands it to be done anyway. You know what I mean? I think I have problem with authorities, obeying my boss etc. I hate the fact that she can have control over me. It makes me feel like a slave. If I had a boss who actually knows what's up then I would still have these problems, but maybe to a smaller extent.

I don't see myself going like this for another 35 years. I don't see myself having my own business. I'm not that type of a person. Besides, it's not just at work, I think I generally don't like when someone has some kind of control over me and is in position where they can tell me what to do. But work is the main problem since I spend 8 hours a day. She is a freaking stranger to me and yet I have to do it. Maybe I'm just a snowflake/narcissist/childish/whatever. It doesn't change the fact how I feel.

Anyone else have similar problem? How do you deal with it?

I struggled with this a lot in highschool, because I could see right through the system and all the stupid things they demand people to follow or else they're 'punished'.

There's no real way to deal with it honestly, going against what they say helps tho, following my own tune as much as I can, in my case activism. But I can't sabotage myself either.

I don't know. You have to pick and choose your battles. It helps to have people on your team. When I was getting bullied, I had someone that would walk with me and even confront the bullies despite being told by administrators not to. You will get in trouble sometimes, but if you have people, let alone a community, it's worth it 100%, because they can't get all of you, and you all support eachother in the ways you can.

I highly suggest joining unions for whatever jobs you do. Check out events going on where you live, things of your interest. Your bound to meet people who think like you. I'm not ready to deal with this myself, I'm probably not going to live the life expected of me. I want actual freedom.

 

[bleeding_heart_show]

Authority is necessary for carrying out tasks effectively.

My problem with authority figures is when they refuse to explain the reasoning behind their actions or entertain suggested alternative courses of action from subordinates.

 

[Pluto]

 

[bankai]

I've been through around 15 bosses during my job. The one I am currently with is a very good guy, but I had some serious nut cases in the past. Some will try to micromanage me. Some won't approve my vacation.

One time I was having an audit for my account by an external party. My manager asked me to create the documents needed. I created them, it was a lot of work. He ended up looking at it and saying that he needed the company logo,fonts in a particular way, the border in a particular way, alignment, etc. OK, I did all that. He ends up opening it in Word and Excel in the app. Everything is perfect. He's happy, he's doing his dance, life is good.

Fast forward a few days and the day before the audit he calls me for a meeting and he says now everything is misaligned again. Well. It turns out he was opening these documents in the Web version of them this time . So there are two versions of Word and Excel. One is the app itself that's installed on your laptop. And the other is the web version of Excel and Word which is opened from Firefox or Chrome or whatever. Turns out that the border, font etc was a bit different on the web version. So then he comes to me with the impossible request to make sure that it's the same on the web version as well. Now this is impossible. Because if I changed it to fit the web version then it goes out of alignment on the desktop version. Man, did I waste a lot of hours going back and forth.

 

[FoxSauce]

Well my job is pretty neat very chillngl but moslty 2 of my coworkers aren't as great.

My boss and another one are cool



For example, sorry for the lomg post - theres was this incident that we have a group chat for work related things. Anyay monday I had a shift with a coworker.

There's coworker A, B and C
I had a shift with coworker B and yknow finished cleaned went home.

I wake up the next day to see messages in our group chat (for work purposes) qns see that coworker C is pissed of the the shop was dirty only minor things

I apoligized and went to my shift the next day. And I heard from coworker A that me and coworker B could have a warning. I panicked and explained I did my part of my job. Ofc yeah ik I should've checked and triple check.

Later that week I texted my boss like I did my part and coworker B just did a small part and basically threw him under the bus. Telling her , coworker B could dissappear between 2 hours and his clocking in system still running I didnt say anything didnt want to cause trouble. She replied that she knew how we work and later to tell her these things when it happens

Layer that wekend I had a talk witch coworker C, I didnt yell nor scream im not his boss just a coworker os not my job.

I talked with coworker B on the weekend showed him thw mssgs (I wanted to be honest with him) he told me he was dissapointed in me plus he told he couldve also told my boss all of things i did (i only drew)

He then told me i didnt show loyalty to him and if anyone found out the things i did since its only been a year i would be fired. Plus he tild me breaks are for 1or 2 hours

I apoligize for giving such a hard time

Later on his cousin found out about everything and wanted his stepfather who owned of the store. I panicked and jus sarted to panic. Then his cousin had a picture of me without my consent of doing something (not malicious or anything) coworker convinced him to delete it which he did.

I was in an inner turmoil felt like the end of the world. Suicidal thoughts. Having thoughs of i should end myself right here and now and feeling like it was all my fault. It got to the point SH and I thought everyone (coworkers) was out to harm me (ik how idiotic this is) I didjt sleep till like 4 am from the anxiety.

After that i felt like absolute shit. A few days ago I explained everything to my boss and clarafy a few thing that arent true

First my coworker B's cousin stepfather didnt own the store just a manager that didnt do anything plus the picture she already knew.

So idk if thats blackmail? Or anything but yea thats the end

Also i just to be more careful and my job itself its neat really. I still feel bad about cuz ik its my fault

 

[starboy2k]

I hate authoritarian sons of bitches that can never accept when they are wrong about something, when they lie about something, when their instructions are ambiguous, when they make rules that they never follow, when they gossip, when they hate drama but be the main ones starting it, and over all……I hate when an authoritarian bitch doesn't know what the fuck they are doing PERIOD.

If a boss, manager, supervisor etc is not like the traits listed above, then I have no problem taking clear orders from them.

 

[princexhhn]

I get really irrationally pissed 50% of the time someone asks me to do something, mostly if they talk like you've got no other choice like a boss or some other. The expectation of immediate obedience is so jarring to me, I'm not a puppet. If one were to ask me a favour, I'd probably comply since they're talking to me like a person and not a damn pet.

 

[avoid]

The expectation of immediate obedience is so jarring to me, I'm not a puppet.

I used to work at a company where we had a running joke you'd probably hate. The joke is to order someone to do the work they were already about to start anyway. The funny part is the reaction from getting under their skin, often laughing with others while the target needs to get on with their work. This joke only work with friends and workmates. Otherwise it may create a hostile work environment. The best way to know whether people appreciate the joke is when they make the joke back.

2 Examples.

You chat with your coworkers when suddenly one of them gets radioed to assist a customer on the sales floor. When he's already on his way, you call out to him to get his attention. When he turns around, you say "go down the sales floor to assist a customer," as if you have the authority to order him around. And he has no choice but to follow your order.

You're with your friends getting ready to go out. You'll carpool together and one of your friends says he'll get the car from the parking lot. The moment he's almost out the door, you say "hey." When you get his attention, follow up with "go get the car."

Although it really got under my skin at first, it started to get funny because it's just another way to mess with friends for laughs. And in the end, it helped me with accepting the say-so from managers at work.

 

[princexhhn]

I used to work at a company where we had a running joke you'd probably hate. The joke is to order someone to do the work they were already about to start anyway. The funny part is the reaction from getting under their skin, often laughing with others while the target needs to get on with their work. This joke only work with friends and workmates. Otherwise it may create a hostile work environment. The best way to know whether people appreciate the joke is when they make the joke back.

2 Examples.

You chat with your coworkers when suddenly one of them gets radioed to assist a customer on the sales floor. When he's already on his way, you say call out to him to get his attention. When he turns around, you say "go down the sales floor to assist a customer," as if you have the authority to order him around. And he has no choice but to follow your order.

You're with your friends getting ready to go out. You'll carpool together and one of your friends says he'll get the car from the parking lot. The moment he's almost out the door, you say "hey." When you get his attention, follow up with "go get the car."

Although it really got under my skin at first, it started to get funny because it's just another way to mess with friends for laughs. And in the end, it helped me with accepting the say-so from managers at work.

I'm actually not sure how I'd react to such a thing

I guess it does sound good for camaraderie. I might not appreciate it from someone I'm not close with, though.

I'm also pretty sure some of my close friends have done that with me at least once. Any sort of ragebait is a no-go for me since I have a short temper

Sounds fine as a joke from co-workers, really just the condescending "superiors" that piss me off

 

[lasttogo]

One of my bosses told me I was fucked in the head once. I never got over it. It was his sense of humor but he also wasn't really joking.

I was refusing to preform a duty that put my safety at risk, and put the machine I was using at risk of seriously hurting me and the people around me. I was panicking from that and couldn't do the other task he asked because I was panicking.

I do not like authority. I do not like bosses. This boss made like , mayyyybe 20$ an hour, I made less than that. And I was told to put my life at risk everyday and mocked when I questioned it. It was awful. I do not like the power that goes to people's heads when they are given the title of "boss" , "manager", etc.

 

[EmptyBottle]

One of my bosses told me I was fucked in the head once. I never got over it. It was his sense of humor but he also wasn't really joking.

I was refusing to preform a duty that put my safety at risk, and put the machine I was using at risk of seriously hurting me and the people around me. I was panicking from that and couldn't do the other task he asked because I was panicking.

I do not like authority. I do not like bosses. This boss made like , mayyyybe 20$ an hour, I made less than that. And I was told to put my life at risk everyday and mocked when I questioned it. It was awful. I do not like the power that goes to people's heads when they are given the title of "boss" , "manager", etc.

oh yep...also good on you for caring for your coworkers and refusing to put them at risk