I got fired today on Valentines day

[FireFox]

Last valentines day it was my last day because my contract ended and now this valentines day I got fired. I was fired for underperforming in my role and failing to meet targets in the caseloads I was given.

After I was fired I went to the park and listened to music as I walked. The night sky looked so beautiful and the nature had something so beautiful about it. I am currently lying to my family that I have been working and Friday I will tell them the truth.

On Friday I will go to the office to return the work laptop and phone then I will break the news to my mother via WhatsApp thread. In my message I will apologise tell my mum the truth why I was fired and the fact is I was always miserable in my job everyday and I only loved the money. I will tell my mother all I ever wanted was to make her proud which was why i kept pretending everything was fine at work. I work in the same company as her. Its a large housing corporation. The clients are extremely difficult

I will spend the whole day in the city having fun day trip and will come back evening time.

 

[MidnightCat]

I'm sorry that happened,

As you said, you didn't like it so maybe you've got the opportunity to find something that suits you more.

Also, I like your plan of going to the city and having a fun day trip.


Wish you the very best.

 

[missingpeace]

It's nice that you can still appreciate what's good in your life.. I hope you will get a much better job very soon.. !

 

[Againstthewind]

I'm so sorry @FireFox but you did your best! I think with everything that's happened, I don't think it would have been healthy to stay there with everything that's happened. Being linked to a company that a family member worked in also can be tricky as people can base there opinions they have on your mum, onto you.

Be honest with your mum, she may sympathise with you in what happened, but if she tries to blame you, don't take that shit, that's just victim blaming.

You have nothing to be ashamed of, try working on yourself for a bit

 

[morgzfreeman2345]

Last valentines day it was my last day because my contract ended and now this valentines day I got fired. I was fired for underperforming in my role and failing to meet targets in the caseloads I was given.

After I was fired I went to the park and listened to music as I walked. The night sky looked so beautiful and the nature had something so beautiful about it. I am currently lying to my family that I have been working and Friday I will tell them the truth.

On Friday I will go to the office to return the work laptop and phone then I will break the news to my mother via WhatsApp thread. In my message I will apologise tell my mum the truth why I was fired and the fact is I was always miserable in my job everyday and I only loved the money. I will tell my mother all I ever wanted was to make her proud which was why i kept pretending everything was fine at work. I work in the same company as her. Its a large housing corporation. The clients are extremely difficult

I will spend the whole day in the city having fun day trip and will come back evening time.

Enjoy the day, hope you find something that suits you better!

 

[FireFox]

I'm sorry that happened,

As you said, you didn't like it so maybe you've got the opportunity to find something that suits you more.

Also, I like your plan of going to the city and having a fun day trip.


Wish you the very best.hope

@MidnightCat Thanks and sorry for my late reply I have been ill

I really did have a fun day trip in the city. I spent all day an art museum and came back home evening time. By the time I came home my family already read the letter I wrote and I was ready to talk to them about being fired and all my workplace issues I have been having.

I adopted this plan because I did not want to spend the week I got fired being upset and stuck at home. My family disapproved of my plan and found it shocking. My family said I should have talked to them about being fired instead of writing a letter.

I preferred to write a letter because it was easier to explain everything that has happened and expressing my true feelings in a way which I could not if I just spoke with my family. I still stand by my decision to write the letter.

It's nice that you can still appreciate what's good in your life.. I hope you will get a much better job very soon.. !

@missingpeace The day I got fired I refused to spend the week being upset and stuck at home. At first when I got fired I was deeply disappointed in myself because I wanted to finish the full 6 months and I did not want my first ever full time job to be end up this way then afterwards I felt a sense of relief and peace in being fired. I know its sounds crazy and I should not feel this way but I do feel a sense of relief.

My final days at work was nothing but loneliness, betrayal and conflict along with struggling with the job. It was so demoralising being betrayed by older work colleagues I respected and who I thought were good people. I was always nice to my colleagues at work.

There was this older woman colleague in her 40s who I thought was a good person, she has kids who are my age group. At work she is friendly with everyone, in Microsoft Teams meeting she always talking about football with the other male colleagues.

I talked to her about being heart-broken over things not working out with the male colleague I feel in love with. I vented to her and said the man is an "agesist arsehole". I was still hurt over his comments he made about my age. He told me he doesn't 25 year olds because he "can't keep up." After she promised me she wouldn't say anything she went to the man and revealed our private conversations to him. I only found out what she did from my boss it was so embarrassing and I was deeply disappointed. I always nice to this woman and never did anything bad to her which was why I am so confused did this. The man afterwards goes behind my back to the boss. The whole thing was so humiliating.

I have moments were blame myself for everything and do get severely depressed over getting fired from my first ever full-time job at 25 years old. I do worry about what future employers will think of me being fired and not hire me because of it. I got fired for underperforming

 

[FireFox]

I'm so sorry @FireFox but you did your best! I think with everything that's happened, I don't think it would have been healthy to stay there with everything that's happened. Being linked to a company that a family member worked in also can be tricky as people can base there opinions they have on your mum, onto you.

Be honest with your mum, she may sympathise with you in what happened, but if she tries to blame you, don't take that shit, that's just victim blaming.

You have nothing to be ashamed of, try working on yourself for a bit

@Againstthewind Thanks for all the advice you have given me. In my letter I finally told my mother the truth about the 55-year-old male work colleague I fell in love with and my struggles with work. In my letter I wrote about how all I wanted was to make my mother proud.

My mum said she is not disappointed and told me "no job is ever worth getting upset over." My mum says all she wants me to be happy. My mums partner who is in the same age group as the male colleague said to me " your work colleagues felt threatened by you because you were better than them." When I told my mums partner that I blamed myself for falling in love with an older man he told me none of this is my fault and I shouldn't blame myself.

I realise now I fell in love with a coward and not a man. A real man would have communicated clearly and honestly his real feelings and handled this with dignity. When I told him I had feelings for him and I didn't want things to be awkward between us at work he kept telling me how we are "good" and I have nothing to worry about and quickly shuts down the conversation. He then goes behind my back to our boss he whined about how he doesn't feel comfortable around me at work anymore and told our boss that I have feelings for him. It was so humiliating something that was private between us was now business of the workplace.

At office the man at the office kept staring at me as if I was a stranger it was so disturbing. I have never seen a man so pathetic. I still feel betrayed by him and my older woman colleague.

There was this older woman colleague in her 40s who I thought was a good person, she has kids who are my age group. At work she is friendly with everyone, in Microsoft Teams meeting she always talking about football with the other male colleagues. I talked to her about being heart-broken over things not working out with the male colleague I feel in love with. I vented to her and said the man is an "agesist arsehole". I was still hurt over his comments he made about my age. He told me he doesn't date 25 year olds because he "can't keep up." After she promised me she wouldn't say anything she went to the man and revealed our private conversations to him. I only found out what she did from my boss it was so embarrassing and I was deeply disappointed. I always nice to this woman and never did anything bad to her which was why I am so confused she did this

I talked to her about being heart-broken over things not working out with the male colleague I feel in love with. I vented to her and said the man is an "agesist arsehole". I was still hurt over his comments he made about my age. He told me he doesn't 25 year olds because he "can't keep up." After she promised me she wouldn't say anything she went to the man and revealed our private conversations to him. I only found out what she did from my boss it was so embarrassing and I was deeply disappointed. I always nice to this woman and never did anything bad to her which was why I am so confused did this. The man afterwards goes behind my back to the boss. The whole thing was so humiliating.

I got fired for underperforming. In my final days at work I felt so demoralised because of all the betrayals from work colleague I had respect for and thought were good people. In the end I was just fighting on my own.

 

[MidnightCat]

Hey, your reply actually inspired me. I've been trying to make a 15km trip to buy something I need to repair a thing...


And always been too tired to go or any other excuses just to... Not get out of bed and my misery.

I'm actually putting some clothes to go.

It's not much, but it's better than... Well, nothing.

So thank you.

 

[Againstthewind]

@Againstthewind Thanks for all the advice you have given me. In my letter I finally told my mother the truth about the 55-year-old male work colleague I fell in love with and my struggles with work. In my letter I wrote about how all I wanted was to make my mother proud.

My mum said she is not disappointed and told me "no job is ever worth getting upset over." My mum says all she wants me to be happy. My mums partner who is in the same age group as the male colleague said to me " your work colleagues felt threatened by you because you were better than them." When I told my mums partner that I blamed myself for falling in love with an older man he told me none of this is my fault and I shouldn't blame myself.

I realise now I fell in love with a coward and not a man. A real man would have communicated clearly and honestly his real feelings and handled this with dignity. When I told him I had feelings for him and I didn't want things to be awkward between us at work he kept telling me how we are "good" and I have nothing to worry about and quickly shuts down the conversation. He then goes behind my back to our boss he whined about how he doesn't feel comfortable around me at work anymore and told our boss that I have feelings for him. It was so humiliating something that was private between us was now business of the workplace.

At office the man at the office kept staring at me as if I was a stranger it was so disturbing. I have never seen a man so pathetic. I still feel betrayed by him and my older woman colleague.

There was this older woman colleague in her 40s who I thought was a good person, she has kids who are my age group. At work she is friendly with everyone, in Microsoft Teams meeting she always talking about football with the other male colleagues. I talked to her about being heart-broken over things not working out with the male colleague I feel in love with. I vented to her and said the man is an "agesist arsehole". I was still hurt over his comments he made about my age. He told me he doesn't date 25 year olds because he "can't keep up." After she promised me she wouldn't say anything she went to the man and revealed our private conversations to him. I only found out what she did from my boss it was so embarrassing and I was deeply disappointed. I always nice to this woman and never did anything bad to her which was why I am so confused she did this

I talked to her about being heart-broken over things not working out with the male colleague I feel in love with. I vented to her and said the man is an "agesist arsehole". I was still hurt over his comments he made about my age. He told me he doesn't 25 year olds because he "can't keep up." After she promised me she wouldn't say anything she went to the man and revealed our private conversations to him. I only found out what she did from my boss it was so embarrassing and I was deeply disappointed. I always nice to this woman and never did anything bad to her which was why I am so confused did this. The man afterwards goes behind my back to the boss. The whole thing was so humiliating.

I got fired for underperforming. In my final days at work I felt so demoralised because of all the betrayals from work colleague I had respect for and thought were good people. In the end I was just fighting on my own.

'no job is worth getting upset over' - BLOODY AMEN TO THAT

I'm seeing you be a lot more positive on this and learning from this which is great, turning this negative experience into a positive. I'm also glad that your mum and mums partner are supportive and are understanding with how everything went down (lol if she still works there she may now try to secretly seek revenge)

 

[FireFox]

'no job is worth getting upset over' - BLOODY AMEN TO THAT

I'm seeing you be a lot more positive on this and learning from this which is great, turning this negative experience into a positive. I'm also glad that your mum and mums partner are supportive and are understanding with how everything went down (lol if she still works there she may now try to secretly seek revenge)

@Againstthewind I still feel so betrayed by work colleagues and have moments of deep depression and confusion. I was always nice them, helped them and never did anything bad to them and still they treated me this way. The fact they are older than me is even more shocking because I thought since they are older, settled in careers they would be better and nicer people.

I am still in shock over what the older woman colleague did to me she is in her late 40s-early 50s. She was always acting so nice to my face, comforting me over my heartbreak involving the man but the entire time she went behind my back and revealed our private conservations to the male work colleague I liked. It was so humiliating finding out what she did.

i blame myself so much for being naive and trusting.

 

[Againstthewind]

Well just goes to show you that maturity isn't in age, is it? You have better morals then they do.

Like I mention many times, it's a learning experience, don't be trusting of people in work/business, forget em.

 

[FireFox]

Well just goes to show you that maturity isn't in age, is it? You have better morals then they do.

Like I mention many times, it's a learning experience, don't be trusting of people in work/business, forget em.

@Againstthewind I thought an older man would have less baggage, be better behaved and take care of me that why I was attracted to the man in the first place and I thought he was great guy. This man had so much baggage and I admit was exhausting trying to play that role as comforter and trying to show him how mature I can be for him.

It turned out my maturity was more higher than his. When we were on good terms the man used to cry to me about how his younger brother has been bullying and terrorising him. Hearing him break down over it was just shocking. Then I found out he had an on/ off gf for over 20 years. She is his age. I worked out once he split with his girlfriend he gets with other women. I caught him his dishonesty and then he changed towards me. My grandmother said "there is nothing wrong with you he is the one with the problem"

Good news I am starting to be attracted to guys my own age group again. I was buying a sandwich and I saw these guys my age in the queue instantly I felt attracted to them.

 

[Againstthewind]

The dude just sounds like a whiny baby who can't handle his own shit anyway, it sounded more that you were an ear for him to tell you his problems then an actual attraction, getting to know each other, didn't seem to wanna know much about you. Seemed all one sided anyway.

Now be careful ya hear? Don't go falling TOO hard for any more men, as you will end up in a situations like before where you are attaching yourself to them to quickly. Take it slow, get to know them, not there problems. Take a step back and analyse before seeing what kind of person they are, SEE how they treat others. And damnit if you spot these red flags, you take OFF

it always starts with a sandwich smdh….

 

[FireFox]

The dude just sounds like a whiny baby who can't handle his own shit anyway, it sounded more that you were an ear for him to tell you his problems then an actual attraction, getting to know each other, didn't seem to wanna know much about you. Seemed all one sided anyway.

Now be careful ya hear? Don't go falling TOO hard for any more men, as you will end up in a situations like before where you are attaching yourself to them to quickly. Take it slow, get to know them, not there problems. Take a step back and analyse before seeing what kind of person they are, SEE how they treat others. And damnit if you spot these red flags, you take OFF

it always starts with a sandwich smdh….

@Againstthewind This whole experience has taught me age really DOES MATTER and is not a number as I always naively believed throughout my life. Age determines who gets believed in a situation, which party gets more respect and so much more. The older man will always have an advantage no matter what.

When I said in the meeting with the management that him being 55 years old he should have known better and taken control of the situation the management disregarded my point. The management constantly criticised my immaturity throughout the entire meeting even when I pointed out that the questioning and process was not fair. The questioning they put me through he never ever got this treatment.It was a f*cking kangaroo court.

The management saw my as an immature irresponsible 25 year old woman besotted with an older and the fact management kept talking about his sensitive feelings and how is a nice man just showed their true biases. I had the evidence but they believed him over me and all his bullsh*t. His age was his advantage and mine was my disadvantage.

After this I don't want anything to do with older men. I am even now more careful as a result of everything. My confidence will take a while to come back.

Hey, your reply actually inspired me. I've been trying to make a 15km trip to buy something I need to repair a thing...


And always been too tired to go or any other excuses just to... Not get out of bed and my misery.

I'm actually putting some clothes to go.

It's not much, but it's better than... Well, nothing.

So thank you.

@MidnightCat Aww thanks for your kind words. It's a start you can do it.

Love
FireFox :)

 

[Againstthewind]

In that setting, it's nothing to do with age, it's

- he clearly was friends with your management
- he got to them first with his version of events
- therefore you were a perpetrator before you even could argue your case
- he worked there longer and if you were in a probation process, it was easier for them to get rid of you

gonna be awkward with your mum and them lol, I hope she pisses in his tea, sum bitch.

To a degree age doesn't matter, younger people can be more mature then older people, and vice versa, it's just the individual.

 

[FireFox]

In that setting, it's nothing to do with age, it's

- he clearly was friends with your management
- he got to them first with his version of events
- therefore you were a perpetrator before you even could argue your case
- he worked there longer and if you were in a probation process, it was easier for them to get rid of you

gonna be awkward with your mum and them lol, I hope she pisses in his tea, sum bitch.

To a degree age doesn't matter, younger people can be more mature then older people, and vice versa, it's just the individual.

@Againstthewind Nope it's an enormous organisation my mums workplace and there so many different departments. The organisation keeps expanding and is taking over another company again.

My mum department has no dealings with my former work colleagues and department.I will be honest I hated working in the same company as my mother. We both WFH.

Why I hated it:
- Lack of identity and feeling trapped. My living room is where I watch tv, eat, sleep was now my workplace station. I already spend a lot of time with my family already.

 

[Againstthewind]

Ahhhh the one working from home deal, i mentioned in a previous post that working with family can be tricky.

 

[Caoine01]

The man afterwards goes behind my back to the boss.

Unfortunately I have to agree with you. Many colleagues you work with are all too often nice to you, but only to get intimate information. They then use these in their long-established networks to profile themselves. The way people are unfortunately polarized, this process then turns against you.

 

[FireFox]

Unfortunately I have to agree with you. Many colleagues you work with are all too often nice to you, but only to get intimate information. They then use these in their long-established networks to profile themselves. The way people are unfortunately polarized, this process then turns against you.

@Caoine01 I always showed that man kindness at work, supported him when he was difficulties with his work etc. When it was Christmas I felt sorry for him because he was spending Christmas by all himself alone because his elderly father who he loved died earlier in the year. I sent the man a Christmas ecard. I even comforted him as a couple of Christmases ago I lost a close relative who I loved so dearly.

I do feel hurt, disgusted and betrayed this man could not sit down with me and be honest about how he actually feels about me when I told him I was in love with him and accepted his relationship and I wished him well. He kept lying over and over again me telling me everything is fine and then he goes to our boss revealing my feelings for him. Two faced cowardly arsehole

At work he was treating me like a pariah and kept staring at me in the office as if I was stranger. It was absolutely disgusting. I have seen a man so pathetic. He looked so pathetic which was why I gave him the dirtiest look back at the office.

out of the colleagues I never thought he would be the one to stick the knife in. I always thought he was nice guy.

The moment I found he got back together with his girlfriend he changed his behaviour towards me that is when I noticed his behaviour change. Either way he is a cowardly arsehole who humiliated me and made my final days at work complete misery.

 

[Caoine01]

At the beginning you wrote that you were fired because of low performance and not meeting your goals. In general, when a company fires someone, other rationale reasons are often put forward. Can it be that the tensions between you and the man were the real reason for the termination? Or would you rate your own performance as below average?

 

[chocolatebar]

@FireFox by reading your story I believe you didn't underperform at all, but they fired you due to people considering your situation with your colleague a problem.

Don't feel like "underperformant", because I'm sure you're not.

Also, be careful not to let some bad people change your general views of people.

Sorry for so few words. i've been just browsing, and having difficulty interacting these days. I stopped by because I saw your post.

Hope you find better opportunities for everything <3

Sorry for not being helpful

 

[honkpilleddoomer]

Last valentines day it was my last day because my contract ended and now this valentines day I got fired. I was fired for underperforming in my role and failing to meet targets in the caseloads I was given.

After I was fired I went to the park and listened to music as I walked. The night sky looked so beautiful and the nature had something so beautiful about it. I am currently lying to my family that I have been working and Friday I will tell them the truth.

On Friday I will go to the office to return the work laptop and phone then I will break the news to my mother via WhatsApp thread. In my message I will apologise tell my mum the truth why I was fired and the fact is I was always miserable in my job everyday and I only loved the money. I will tell my mother all I ever wanted was to make her proud which was why i kept pretending everything was fine at work. I work in the same company as her. Its a large housing corporation. The clients are extremely difficult

I will spend the whole day in the city having fun day trip and will come back evening time.

Valentine's days are always sad.

 

[FireFox]

Valentine's days are always sad.

@honkpilleddoomer there people who hate Christmas and struggle with the season for me I hate valentines day so much.
It's a reminder of love I never got to have and just years of heartbreak. I know one valentines day I will be dead as I finally cannot cope anymore of a lifetime of heartbreak and rejection. All I wanted was to be loved and maybe it was not meant to be.

@FireFox by reading your story I believe you didn't underperform at all, but they fired you due to people considering your situation with your colleague a problem.

Don't feel like "underperformant", because I'm sure you're not.

Also, be careful not to let some bad people change your general views of people.

Sorry for so few words. i've been just browsing, and having difficulty interacting these days. I stopped by because I saw your post.

Hope you find better opportunities for everything <3

Sorry for not being helpful

@chocolatebar virtual hug I hope things get better for you too.

Actually my grandmother has very similar views to you. When I told my grandmother I got fired she said "so he got you fired. Remember he has been in the company far longer than you"

I said" No Nanny I was not good at my job. Its my fault I got fired" i struggled in my job role and in addition to fitting in at work. I was underperforming.

My grandmother is not buying the underperforming reason. My grandmother said " I used to work in HR and I saw everything" my grandmother said how workplaces colleagues band together to get other work colleagues in trouble if they don't like you or want a promotion.

At the beginning you wrote that you were fired because of low performance and not meeting your goals. In general, when a company fires someone, other rationale reasons are often put forward. Can it be that the tensions between you and the man were the real reason for the termination? Or would you rate your own performance as below average?

@Caoine01 I struggled with the job role from day 1. Its all my fault I was not good enough.

- Some of the customers are entitled arseholes who keep taking the piss. In December I stood up to one entitled nightmare arsehole customer and told them their behaviour is ridiculous and called them out on their entitlement. I acknowledge I was brutally honest which shocked the customer.The management was not happy with me. I took responsibility for my actions and learnt from the situation. The senior management never let that incident go and kept giving me shit over it even months after the incident was resolved.

- I struggled to navigate the bureaucracy to make it work and deliever results. All my work colleagues could I struggled.

- I struggled to fit in and find my place. I always felt out of place. In Microsoft teams meeting my work colleagues would be talking about football whereas football is not really my thing. I had an older woman colleague she dominated these discussions.

- I struggled with WFH and loneliness became too much. I sought comfort in my older male work colleague. Before we used to get on so well. He knew my vunlerablites and I knew his too.

 

[AJwantsToGo]

It's beautiful how you can turn this sad situation into a positive by enjoying yourself. Great life skill, truly.

 

[FireFox]

It's beautiful how you can turn this sad situation into a positive by enjoying yourself. Great life skill, truly.

@AJwantsToGo I am amazed at myself too. The day I got fired I just had this urge to go the park and I did that. It was so amazing walking through the park listening to music on my headphones.There was no way I was spending time at home crying and being upset at over being fired. I have already spent the too much time being upset over being rejected and humiliated by that older male work colleague I fell in love with. I cared,loved him so much and wanted a future with him and he hurt me towards the end. All I ever showed him was kindness at work and he puts me through pure workplace humiliation with the management with his lies he told about me to our boss.

I am still in deep pain over how he treated me especially the last time I saw him before I got fired. In the office he just stared at me all day as if I was a stranger and he treated me like a pariah in the workplace. I gave him the dirtiest look back as my way of saying "fuck you too lying POS" I said nothing to him and carried on with my day in the office.

It hurt being betrayed by the man I loved so much and thought was perfect, a nice guy etc. I blame myself for being stupid and falling in love with a 55 year old man and hiding his age from my loved ones. Had I been honest maybe none of this would have never happened. I was so stupid for trusting him and all the times I opened up my vulnerabilities with him. I hate myself for it and still blame myself for everything.

There is no way I am letting this destroy me. I am still going outside, having fun and will enjoy my life.

 

[AJwantsToGo]

You're very strong against all odds. That man wasn't worth your time or energy. Older men usually use younger women/men, it's rarely actually love from their side, even though they say it is. I'm really happy about the death stare, I probably wouldn't have been as elegant as you. I hope someday I can do the same as you, let it all go and enjoy myself through difficult times.

 

[FireFox]

You're very strong against all odds. That man wasn't worth your time or energy. Older men usually use younger women/men, it's rarely actually love from their side, even though they say it is. I'm really happy about the death stare, I probably wouldn't have been as elegant as you. I hope someday I can do the same as you, let it all go and enjoy myself through difficult times.

@AJwantsToGo Before the arsehole went behind my back and went to our boss a couple of days earlier I found out he was not being truthful about his relationship status. He always knew how I liked him but he never ever honest in the beginning about his relationship status. I got suspicious when he began to distance himself from me so I decided to investigate and set up a trap to catch him out to find the truth. That is how I found out he has an older girlfriend in her 50s who he has been on/off for over 20 years. The time period he gave me his full attention he was not together with the partner. I pieced it together.

I questioned and scrutinised him over his relationships and and he couldn't cope with my questioning as I kept firing questions naturally I was upset. During the comfrontion the phone line even cut at one point and he told me it was customer on the other end of the line. He cut the line himself. I also found out about his other relationship because the man was stupid to tell me everything his entire relationship history including with women in the company in other departments he previously worked in.

I was so offended when the man said to me he doesn't date 25 years old because he "cant keep up" with a 25 year old. I was so mad and I mocked his lack of masculinity.

I told the man I have fallen in love with him and I wished him well in his relationship. When I did ask the the man is this going to be problem as I want work relations between us to be good still. He was telling me not to worry and we were good then he goes to the boss. He tells the boss he feels "uncomfortable" being around me at work and arsehole tells the boss my feelings for him. The whole thing was humiliating

I felt so betrayed that he couldn't sit down and be honest with me and lies to me then goes to our boss. I still do feel betrayed as all I ever shown that man was kindness, been a supportive work colleagues etc

I blame myself for creating the plan, confronting him I should have left it alone. I always will blame myself.

 

[AJwantsToGo]

@AJwantsToGo Before the arsehole went behind my back and went to our boss a couple of days earlier I found out he was not being truthful about his relationship status. He always knew how I liked him but he never ever honest in the beginning about his relationship status. I got suspicious when he began to distance himself from me so I decided to investigate and set up a trap to catch him out to find the truth. That is how I found out he has an older girlfriend in her 50s who he has been on/off for over 20 years. The time period he gave me his full attention he was not together with the partner. I pieced it together.

I questioned and scrutinised him over his relationships and and he couldn't cope with my questioning as I kept firing questions naturally I was upset. During the comfrontion the phone line even cut at one point and he told me it was customer on the other end of the line. He cut the line himself. I also found out about his other relationship because the man was stupid to tell me everything his entire relationship history including with women in the company in other departments he previously worked in.

I was so offended when the man said to me he doesn't date 25 years old because he "cant keep up" with a 25 year old. I was so mad and I mocked his lack of masculinity.

I told the man I have fallen in love with him and I wished him well in his relationship. When I did ask the the man is this going to be problem as I want work relations between us to be good still. He was telling me not to worry and we were good then he goes to the boss. He tells the boss he feels "uncomfortable" being around me at work and arsehole tells the boss my feelings for him. The whole thing was humiliating

I felt so betrayed that he couldn't sit down and be honest with me and lies to me then goes to our boss. I still do feel betrayed as all I ever shown that man was kindness, been a supportive work colleagues etc

I blame myself for creating the plan, confronting him I should have left it alone. I always will blame myself.

No point in blaming yourself- it's his fault. Everything. He couldn't even be man enough instead he stabbed you in the back. I hope you find a better workplace with decent people, but seriously, do not victim-blame yourself. It's his fault and only his. What a cunt.

 

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No point in blaming yourself- it's his fault. Everything. He couldn't even be man enough instead he stabbed you in the back. I hope you find a better workplace with decent people, but seriously, do not victim-blame yourself. It's his fault and only his. What a cunt.

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I was miserable in that job but I loved the high salary so much. I really wanted things to work out. I am so disappointed I got fired from my 1st ever full time job.

* The majority clients are very difficult people and some of them have had the worst entitlement and will not stop until you give them what they want. I honestly called out 1 arsehole nightmare client for their entitlement and her constant unfair demands she kept pushing on me. I said her behaviour was not fair and pointed out why she was wrong how this needs to stop. She was 100% in the wrong. I was very brutal in my honesty it shocked the entire department, people were shocked at what I did. I have acknowledged I went too far, took responsibility and learnt from that incident but the management kept giving me so much grief over the incident even after the situation got resolved. Months later they still kept giving grief over it and penalising me for it. No matter how hard I tried redeemed to myself it was never enough.

* I was so lonely because it was WFH job. Majority of work colleagues lived in different towns and cities across the South of England. I hate WFH. Everyone around me loves WFH. I struggled to fit in with my colleagues. They were older in their mid 30s and above, married with kids or had steady relationships. I was one of the youngest. There was two other people in their late 20s and I was the youngest. There was 1 older woman colleague who dominated teams meeting by talking about football with the male colleagues. I always felt so out of place no matter how hard I tried to contribute to workplace discussions. I love contributing to discussions not being able to do that was hard.

* I tried so hard to understand the bureaucracy and work with it to deliver results the way my experienced colleagues can and I struggled so much. I couldn't keep up. All the time I was out of my depth.