Help I feel like a bad person for getting angry at people's problems. Is this normal?

[thefirstluminary]

I feel like a bad person because I get incredibly angry when I hear people complaining about what seem to me like trivial problems. Since I grew up without privilege and usually suppress my own struggles, it frustrates me to see others lacking gratitude. I'm tired of trying to be the better person, and this resentment recently caused me to snap at a friend who was venting. I want to stop feeling this hatred, but I honestly don't know how to handle it.


I really didn't know what sub-forum I should be posting this so correct me if this is the wrong place to post this

 

[rosynov2]

i part of me is happy for them, they experience only trivial things because we should ideally be at that level, and I just think if i had kids I want them to be so happy and have fewer struggles, so when i see people like that, a part of me is feels happy for them, because thats great. Another part of me , feels negatively , like I'm more superior in the sense that I'm aware of how little they know what it means to struggle, and I also feel resentment because they don't understand truly until they experienced. But end of day I just remind myself after to not compare my struggles to others, because it's unhealthy and not beneficial. So whenever this happens I just feel hurt and feel a lot of urge to just journal how I feel, because it's definetly feels unfair. So ig my advice on how to handle is similar, which is try to be aware of your emotions, and ensure negative energy is dealt with in a healthy coping way like journaling or etc, so that you feel better. , and by time you would better manage emotions i think. hope this helps

 

[thefirstluminary]

But end of day I just remind myself after to not compare my struggles to others, because it's unhealthy and not beneficial.

I find it incredibly hard to hold back. The sheer ingratitude of some people kills me; they never stop to consider what others are going through and assume life is fun and games for everyone. That ignorance is infuriating. I sometimes talk to people online and get so triggered that I start smashing my desk and kicking my chair like a lunatic. I know those people don't suffer, and I don't want them to, but I wish they weren't so blind to reality. It's also hard because I get embarrassed explaining my own situation, knowing it will probably just weird people out.

. So whenever this happens I just feel hurt and feel a lot of urge to just journal how I feel, because it's definetly feels unfair. So ig my advice on how to handle is similar, which is try to be aware of your emotions, and ensure negative energy is dealt with in a healthy coping way like journaling or etc, so that you feel better. , and by time you would better manage emotions i think. hope this helps

I don't really understand what people mean by healthy coping. They say they use mechanisms to get rid of or forget things, but I've never grasped how that works. The journaling idea is cool, but I'm pretty sure it would just be page after page of hate and anger, since I'm usually just angry at everyone (even if I don't show it). My family and friends have told me that I hate everything, but I don't. I actually like some stuff.