I can't have a straight boyfriend

[SweetDreams500]

Stop crying tell everybody you are making fun of it at the end.
You all know how difficult it is, they don't want people to know their true orientation.

I'm not making fun. I'm sorry if it came out like that, it was not my intention.
If you want a bi bf, get one.

 

[PressEnterToExit]

Your knowledge of gay sexuality is obviously minimal. This might come as a surprise to you, but you're not the only gay guy in the world & you don't get to dismiss the behaviors & desires of hundreds of millions of other gays

Please do one thing, give arguments. That is something I've been doing in this thread and none of you did.
Can you tell me please why there are so many gays trying to look like something they really aren't? Trying to be masculine to be accepted? You are such a hipocrital person I hate people like you

 

[SweetDreams500]

Please do one thing, give arguments. That is something I've been doing in this thread and none of you did.
Can you tell me please why there are so many gays trying to look like something they really aren't? Trying to be masculine to be accepted? You are such a hipocrital person I hate people like you

I think this struggle with masculinity may also extend to some straight men

 

[EdibleGasMask]

I think this struggle with masculinity may also extend to some straight men

This^

 

[PressEnterToExit]

I think this struggle with masculinity may also extend to some straight men

Of course. But I'm talking about gay men this time. There are a lot to say about straight men too. Cause there are many of them who actually feel like a woman, a lesbian one cause they like women only or maybe are bisexual.

This^

I'll say too that gay men are more fem usually so we can't compare these two facts.

 

[EdibleGasMask]

I'll say too that gay men are more fem usually so we can't compare these two facts.

Are you kidding me? It's like you've never pressed the discrete category on grindr. Don't you think you're generalizing a lot?

 

[PressEnterToExit]

This hotel man is saying tat fem gay boys like bt them that is so crazy
They usually are rejected by gays. It is just that there are more bisexual guys interested in them just to se them in bed
Use'

 

[SweetDreams500]

This hotel man is saying tat fem gay boys like bt them that is so crazy
They usually are rejected by gays. It is just that there are more bisexual guys interested in them just to se them in bed
Use'

what's bt

 

[PressEnterToExit]

Are you kidding me? It's like you've never pressed the discrete category on grindr. Don't you think you're generalizing a lot?

I'm not gonna fight against you guys... You all trying to be something you are not

what's bt

Between them

 

[EdibleGasMask]

Oh my god the irony. Im done.

 

[SweetDreams500]

I'm not gonna fight against you guys... You all trying to be something you are not

Between them

what's stopping you from getting a bi bf?

 

[domedune]

Can you tell me please why there are so many gays trying to look like something they really aren't? Trying to be masculine to be accepted? You are such a hipocrital person I hate people like you

I imagine they're trying to look masculine to appease people like you who dictate people must present themselves based on a nebulous natural dichotomy, i.e., people who say "men should act like this and women should act like this". You're doing the same thing, except instead it's "gay guys should act like this and bi guys should act like this". You're shooting yourself in the foot with these appeals to an imagined perfect natural order because these masculine men will spin that bullshit around on you.

 

[motel rooms]

what's stopping you from getting a bi bf?

Could it be the fact that he sounds like a femboy version of a Nazi?

 

[Symbiote]

With a personality like that, I can see why the entire gay-sphere aren't attracted to you. If you micromanage or try to split them into divisive categories of gay-dom to fit some weird mold of an agenda that you have, you're looking at a very lonely existence. I've known gay dudes who were femme, and I've known gay dudes who you couldn't tell if they were gay or straight. Neither of them really cared if one or other was femme or masculine.

 

[bea1974]

ouch, that hurt

what's stopping you from getting a bi bf?

At a guess, the OP's attitude...

 

[popuoh]

I- what- I don't even know how to respond

 

[RegretedFeeling]

I'm post op transgender and have a straight girlfriend. I think what I'm hearing is that your boyfriend is gay and you are more feminine then most would like to date, gender is on a spectrum. Your on one side of it and the MEN you are going for are on the other. I do not condone escorting, but if you are at the brink of death and see no way out because you can't find the guy of your dreams.

im going to tell you that your looking in the wrong place. The MEN your looking for are the ones hiding it from society. go to a trans escort site, make 250 a pop, and go buy yourself some shit, then up your price. And find that guy your looking for.
At the very least you could try something new and live a little longer.

 

[PlathWannaBe]

David- I'm sorry you feel this way. Most men, but especially gay men, struggle with masculinity. It's something that most men feel like constantly has to be proved and defended. You even see this among young boys on a playground. Masculinity also often means competition, and competition often causes sadness, because there's always at least one "loser".

Yes, a lot of gay men feel like they have to act, because our behavior was often policed by others when we were younger- "act more like a man!", "toughen up!", "don't be a girl!". Gay men who come across as masculine also do tend to have an advantage as well, and I do think it's more difficult for men who are viewed as more feminine. But I agree with you, most gay guys, no matter how "tough" they act, you can usually find that gay aspect of them sooner or later.

As far as being attracted to bi men, I would see this as many gay men who chase after married men. I guess you could call this a fetish within the gay community- I mean, I've certainly had my experiences with married men. You can try it out. At some point, you'll see though that they're never available, which may or may not be ok for you.

Life is hard already. It's just usually harder if you belong to a minority group. It's also sad that so much hate comes from within the community itself. Hugs

 

[PressEnterToExit]

I imagine they're trying to look masculine to appease people like you who dictate people must present themselves based on a nebulous natural dichotomy, i.e., people who say "men should act like this and women should act like this". You're doing the same thing, except instead it's "gay guys should act like this and bi guys should act like this". You're shooting yourself in the foot with these appeals to an imagined perfect natural order because these masculine men will spin that bullshit around on you.

I don't really care

With a personality like that, I can see why the entire gay-sphere aren't attracted to you. If you micromanage or try to split them into divisive categories of gay-dom to fit some weird mold of an agenda that you have, you're looking at a very lonely existence. I've known gay dudes who were femme, and I've known gay dudes who you couldn't tell if they were gay or straight. Neither of them really cared if one or other was femme or masculine.

I aske

I'm post op transgender and have a straight girlfriend. I think what I'm hearing is that your boyfriend is gay and you are more feminine then most would like to date, gender is on a spectrum. Your on one side of it and the MEN you are going for are on the other. I do not condone escorting, but if you are at the brink of death and see no way out because you can't find the guy of your dreams.

im going to tell you that your looking in the wrong place. The MEN your looking for are the ones hiding it from society. go to a trans escort site, make 250 a pop, and go buy yourself some shit, then up your price. And find that guy your looking for.
At the very least you could try something new and live a little longer.

Tanks God someone intelligent wo doesn't yells at me... I already did everything you said! Not my thing...

I'm post op transgender and have a straight girlfriend. I think what I'm hearing is that your boyfriend is gay and you are more feminine then most would like to date, gender is on a spectrum. Your on one side of it and the MEN you are going for are on the other. I do not condone escorting, but if you are at the brink of death and see no way out because you can't find the guy of your dreams.

im going to tell you that your looking in the wrong place. The MEN your looking for are the ones hiding it from society. go to a trans escort site, make 250 a pop, and go buy yourself some shit, then up your price. And find that guy your looking for.
At the very least you could try something new and live a little longer.

You understand me... Tanks God tete is someone intelligent here. I already did what you are saying a didn't make me happy but thanks for the idea I love the fact that you seem to think like me lol

 

[RegretedFeeling]

I don't really care

I aske

Tanks God someone intelligent wo doesn't yells at me... I already did everything you said! Not my thing...

You understand me... Tanks God tete is someone intelligent here. I already did what you are saying a didn't make me happy but thanks for the idea I love the fact that you seem to think like me

I have been where you are, I suggest going to treatment, even if you don't have a drug problem, just lie,
If you have the means to go.
I had to find myself and I needed time to do it. Like 6 months in a center with people calling me on my flaws.
I'm not saying anything has changed or their is any hope but it allowed me to come to terms with the choice of transitioning and the fact that I will most likely in the end be alone.

I suggest going on the transgender subs on Reddit as well, you don't have to get your junk removed to be in the community, there are tons of other people going through what your going through with probably better advice then I can give, since I'm now SSing it.

if you've tried that too let me know maybe there is something else I could come up with, can I ask what country you are from?
Sorry Demuic...

Edit to my whole post...
Don't do anything!

 

[motel rooms]

But I agree with you, most gay guys, no matter how "tough" they act, you can usually find that gay aspect of them sooner or later.

What is "that gay aspect"? Sensitivity? Guess what, even the straightest, most macho assholes are sensitive - in fact, their egos are extremely fragile. No scientist who studies human psychology thinks in terms of simple binaries anymore... The OP is entitled to his opinions, but he is not entitled to his own facts. There's an important difference between personal opinions & scientifically verifiable facts.

 

[SweetDreams500]

I have been where you are, I suggest going to treatment, even if you don't have a drug problem, just lie,
If you have the means to go.
I had to find myself and I needed time to do it. Like 6 months in a center with people calling me on my flaws.
I'm not saying anything has changed or their is any hope but it allowed me to come to terms with the choice of transitioning and the fact that I will most likely in the end be alone.

I suggest going on the transgender subs on Reddit as well, you don't have to get your junk removed to be in the community, there are tons of other people going through what your going through with probably better advice then I can give, since I'm now SSing it.

if you've tried that too let me know maybe there is something else I could come up with, can I ask what country you are from?
Sorry Demuic...

Edit to my whole post...
Don't do anything!

he's trans?

 

[Ch92921]

I'm sure not where you get these views from, but they are far from reality. I'm afraid you won't be able to accept yourself as long as you cannot see gay people as what they are: people who happen to be attracted to people of the same sex, and nothing more than that.

No something biological is different

Something is different with the brain. To be androphilic is pretty a feminine trait. This means on a brain basis is woman like.

Gay men are statictically less sportive or interested in sports. Also they statically cry much more than heterosexual. They arealso les adventurous or serve less likky in the military.

Thats the proof tht on a neurobioloical level, somethin is woman like. Something biological is going on. The should be understood by science.

23andme has done a study you can clealy that gay men are less sportive. I strongly believe that prenatal hormonal/epigenetic ongoings do influence limbic brain structures.

https://blog.23andme.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/11/Drabant-Poster-v7.pdf

I do not change my opinion, hetersexuality has for a higher value than homosexuality. Something is fishy when it comes to homosexuality. I dont like that.

I would love to be heterosexual if I could chose.

 

[motel rooms]

I do not change my opinion, hetersexuality has for a higher value than homosexuality. Something is fishy when it comes to homosexuality. I dont like that.

I would love to be heterosexual if I could chose.

Fortunately, I've read a couple of your previous posts, so I know that you suffer from OCD & that you have horrible intrusive thoughts about homosexuality. I'm sorry you have to deal with that shit

 

[Ch92921]

there is very high chance you will lose me by suicide.

 

[motel rooms]

there is very high chance you will lose me by suicide.

I'm sorry you're suffering, man...

 

[whywere]

I 100% agree with @WornOutLife , Matt is always so smart as far as there is always someone for everyone. I may 65 years young and through life experience I have seen so many people who thought that either they could not find a partner or other people thought that said person never would and oh ya they did. Life is WAY TOO SHORT to go through it by oneself, if they want a partner. I have also seen people who never wanted a partner and they were happy. Bottom line, WE ARE ALL THE SAME! I send you lots of hugs an smiles and the hope that you find that special someone. YOU DESERVE IT!! Walter

 

[PressEnterToExit]

I have been where you are, I suggest going to treatment, even if you don't have a drug problem, just lie,
If you have the means to go.
I had to find myself and I needed time to do it. Like 6 months in a center with people calling me on my flaws.
I'm not saying anything has changed or their is any hope but it allowed me to come to terms with the choice of transitioning and the fact that I will most likely in the end be alone.

I suggest going on the transgender subs on Reddit as well, you don't have to get your junk removed to be in the community, there are tons of other people going through what your going through with probably better advice then I can give, since I'm now SSing it.

if you've tried that too let me know maybe there is something else I could come up with, can I ask what country you are from?
Sorry Demuic...

Edit to my whole post...
Don't do anything!

I'm not trans guess I'm just non binary. I never been rally happy so don't have hope anymore. I've tried everything and looked everywhere... Thank you anyway.

David- I'm sorry you feel this way. Most men, but especially gay men, struggle with masculinity. It's something that most men feel like constantly has to be proved and defended. You even see this among young boys on a playground. Masculinity also often means competition, and competition often causes sadness, because there's always at least one "loser".

Yes, a lot of gay men feel like they have to act, because our behavior was often policed by others when we were younger- "act more like a man!", "toughen up!", "don't be a girl!". Gay men who come across as masculine also do tend to have an advantage as well, and I do think it's more difficult for men who are viewed as more feminine. But I agree with you, most gay guys, no matter how "tough" they act, you can usually find that gay aspect of them sooner or later.

As far as being attracted to bi men, I would see this as many gay men who chase after married men. I guess you could call this a fetish within the gay community- I mean, I've certainly had my experiences with married men. You can try it out. At some point, you'll see though that they're never available, which may or may not be ok for you.

Life is hard already. It's just usually harder if you belong to a minority group. It's also sad that so much hate comes from within the community itself. Hugs

I don't. Think bi man are a fetish. I think gay men are meant to be with bi men no with other gays. You all people please understand that use logical thinking
I know all gay men prefer bi men deep down. And I've been with many bi men too. I know them... Most of them don't even know what they really like, they are blind by the power of prejudice and religion/culture brainwashing. But there are a lot, and the like fem guys and masculine too. But they never could show that in public. It is a very weird thing that usually don't happen.
They'
I bet whatever you all want, that if people were really open minded, gays would be so much more feminine. And they would get along with bi men not between them. But it is an ugly and monstrous truth.
Thankful, these days it is becoming more clear.
Tankfully' damn keyboard
I'm not staying here to see that happening. Enjoy
So the

there is very high chance you will lose me by suicide.

What are your reasons?

No something biological is different

Something is different with the brain. To be androphilic is pretty a feminine trait. This means on a brain basis is woman like.

Gay men are statictically less sportive or interested in sports. Also they statically cry much more than heterosexual. They arealso les adventurous or serve less likky in the military.

Thats the proof tht on a neurobioloical level, somethin is woman like. Something biological is going on. The should be understood by science.

23andme has done a study you can clealy that gay men are less sportive. I strongly believe that prenatal hormonal/epigenetic ongoings do influence limbic brain structures.

https://blog.23andme.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/11/Drabant-Poster-v7.pdf

I do not change my opinion, hetersexuality has for a higher value than homosexuality. Something is fishy when it comes to homosexuality. I dont like that.

I would love to be heterosexual if I could chose.

You must read '' witchcraft and gay subculture '' it is about homosexuality in history not about witches but they had relation
Counterculture not subculture sorry. It is free online you can get it searching on Google. It is amazing very interesting

 

[Ch92921]

I'm not trans guess I'm just non binary. I never been rally happy so don't have hope anymore. I've tried everything and looked everywhere... Thank you anyway.

I don't. Think bi man are a fetish. I think gay men are meant to be with bi men no with other gays. You all people please understand that use logical thinking
I know all gay men prefer bi men deep down. And I've been with many bi men too. I know them... Most of them don't even know what they really like, they are blind by the power of prejudice and religion/culture brainwashing. But there are a lot, and the like fem guys and masculine too. But they never could show that in public. It is a very weird thing that usually don't happen.
They'
I bet whatever you all want, that if people were really open minded, gays would be so much more feminine. And they would get along with bi men not between them. But it is an ugly and monstrous truth.
Thankful, these days it is becoming more clear.
Tankfully' damn keyboard
I'm not staying here to see that happening. Enjoy
So the

What are your reasons?

You must read '' witchcraft and gay subculture '' it is about homosexuality in history not about witches but they had relation
Counterculture not subculture sorry. It is free online you can get it searching on Google. It is amazing very interesting

The reason why? Because sexual orientation is biology. And my case some biochemical ongoings are flawed. That the reason why I look so awful.

 

[PressEnterToExit]

What do you mean with biochemical ongoing are flawed? I think you are looking good, you have a pretty hot rude look