How would you like to be remembered?

[Bandzbandz]

I know a lot of people don't care here how they're remembered.
But one important thing I would like to be remember for is my kindness. I honestly gave 100 percent to everybody I've ever ran into in life - everybody from family to my partner to friends. That's part of why I want my suicide to look like an accident - I don't want to be the person that gave up during a rough patch, because this isn't a patch. This is it for me.
How would you like to be remembered, if you do care?

 

[Rocky M]

That is thoughtful of you, wanting to take care of the people you leave behind, even in your last moment. I don't know when you're going, but I really hope this works for you.

For me, personally, I don't want to be remembered at all, no matter what people think of me.

I mean, I get it, the thought of me may pop into people's heads every now and again, but I think some things are best forgotten, and I'm one of them. Unless I do something miraculously heroic or terrible worthy of being in a history textbook between now and December, I'll be forgotten about eventually.

We all fade away into obscurity at some point. It's just a matter of time.

 

[AmmarQz]

I want to be forgotten immediately. I know the amount of immense pain that I will bring upon my family and it hurts my heart. I don't want to hurt them, that's not my intention. I wish they can just forget I ever existed and go on with their lives. I'm sorry that I will end up scarring them for life instead. I'm sorry that I will let them down and disappoint them. I'm sorry, I really am.

 

[Mery]

[QUOTE = "Bandzbandz, post: 45383, member: 1976"] Sé que a mucha gente no le importa cómo se les recuerda.
Pero una cosa importante por la que me gustaría recordar es mi amabilidad. Honestamente di el 100 por ciento a todas las personas con las que me he encontrado en la vida, desde la familia hasta mi pareja y mis amigos. Esa es parte de por qué quiero que mi suicidio parezca un accidente. No quiero ser la persona que se rindió durante un parche difícil, porque esto no es un parche. Esto es para mí.
¿Cómo te gustaría que te acordaran, si te importa? [/ QUOTE]

I would like them to forget me, so I would not hurt them, I would like to disappear from their lives. Like a confused dream.

 

[Sidestep]

I want to be forgotten completely. Pretty much everyone I ever meet forgets about me already and I aint even dead yet so I can't imagine it'll be any different when I'm dead. I just wish I could forget myself as easily as others do. But if I have to be remembered after death then I'd rather people think of me as a terrible person who deserved to die. It makes things a whole lot easier.

 

[Mery]

It is not my intention offend, but why do you want to be remembered in some specific way? I mean, when you die, nothing will matter.

 

[Mery]

I want to be forgotten completely. Pretty much everyone I ever meet forgets about me already and I aint even dead yet so I can't imagine it'll be any different when I'm dead. I just wish I could forget myself as easily as others do. But if I have to be remembered after death then I'd rather people think of me as a terrible person who deserved to die. It makes things a whole lot easier.

I think so, it is

 

[Bandzbandz]

You're absolutely right! Idk. That's just me.

It is not my intention offend, but why do you want to be remembered in some specific way? I mean, when you die, nothing will matter.

 

[QueenEtna]

I want to be forgotten, to have never existed. But if I had to choose I guess I would want to be remembered for being funny. I always like to make people laugh, I do and say dumb stuff all the time.

 

[RitaM]

Somebody funny, kind, loving. Not troubled, tormented, disturbed.

 

[okyeah]

I won't be remembered. I would guess that if people found out they would show some sort of fake caring or something. They'd do the thing where they post on social media about it or something. My life has always been sad and out of my control. Mostly due to my horrible and mentally ill parents. I had potential at one point but that has long since been extinguished. I should have been a doctor or something successful. But I am sitting here on a suicide forum at 25 years old in my parents house

 

[RitaM]

I won't be remembered. I would guess that if people found out they would show some sort of fake caring or something. They'd do the thing where they post on social media about it or something. My life has always been sad and out of my control. Mostly due to my horrible and mentally ill parents. I had potential at one point but that has long since been extinguished. I should have been a doctor or something successful. But I am sitting here on a suicide forum at 25 years old in my parents house

I'm sorry for your pain.

 

[Mery]

[QUOTE = "okyeah, post: 45425, miembro: 1305"] No seré recordado. Yo diría que sí las personas descubrieran que mostrarían algún tipo de atención falsa o algo así. Harían lo que publican en las redes sociales sobre eso o algo así. Mi vida siempre ha estado triste y está fuera de mi control. Sobre todo debido a mis padres horribles y mentalmente enfermos. Tuve el potencial en un punto, pero hace mucho tiempo que se ha extinguido. Debería haber sido médico o algo exitoso. Pero estoy sentado aquí en un foro de suicidios a los 25 años en la casa de mis padres [/ QUOTE]
I think that nobody has control over what happens to their life, we only change perspectives. I'm not in a position to be proud of, maybe I never will be, or maybe Feeling the way I want is only my business. I dont know.

 

[Deleted_9cKnXB34QG]

I don't want to be remembered either, luckily I don't have any close family besides my mom and I ghosted all my online friends a long time ago. My extended family might recall my name once every blue moon and be like "och, remember that jobless loser who hanged herself? how tragic..." but that's it.

And in a few decades, when they all die I will be totally forgotten, just every single average Joe who ever lived.

 

[Willdieby30]

i would want to be forgotten. i am attached to zero goodness.

 

[Comatose11]

I would prefer to not be remembered if possible.

 

[MortDeVivre]

I don't want anyone to remember except my mother. I don't want her to remember how I was as a kid, or a teenager. I want her to remember me as I am in my note. A me full of bitterness and dissatisfaction. I want that me to taint every single one of her memories. I want her to remember for a while, too.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

How would I like to be remembered … NOT AT ALL !!!

 

[GoneGirlXIV]

That is thoughtful of you, wanting to take care of the people you leave behind, even in your last moment. I don't know when you're going, but I really hope this works for you.

For me, personally, I don't want to be remembered at all, no matter what people think of me.

I mean, I get it, the thought of me may pop into people's heads every now and again, but I think some things are best forgotten, and I'm one of them. Unless I do something miraculously heroic or terrible worthy of being in a history textbook between now and December, I'll be forgotten about eventually.

We all fade away into obscurity at some point. It's just a matter of time.

Real AF

 

[Tiburcio]

I want to be forgotten completely. Pretty much everyone I ever meet forgets about me already and I aint even dead yet so I can't imagine it'll be any different when I'm dead. I just wish I could forget myself as easily as others do. But if I have to be remembered after death then I'd rather people think of me as a terrible person who deserved to die. It makes things a whole lot easier.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[weedoge]

I would like to be forgotten, but in the cases where I'm not I'd like people to consider that maybe deep down I'm not as shit a person as I have appeared to be while I'm alive. It's unlikely and I'm basically hoping people won't remember me for being an asshole but whatever who cares pretty much

 

[StarDust]

Considering there is no one to remember me, at all... then not at all.

If I could be remembered it would be for the girl turned woman that walked through fire. And while burned, stood tall and kept on waiting within the flames, until the flames ran out and only embers remained.

 

[StarDust]

S

My thoughts exactly.

Ditto.

 

[Laura]

I don't want to be remembered.

 

[Mr2004]

Lived slow, died youngish

 

[RageQuit66]

We were never really here to begin with. If all we will have after death is eternal oblivion and the only assurance we get that we were here is through other people's memories then does it truly matter? My body, my ego wants to yes but my rational self tells me the void is all we have ever had. As soon as your dead, POOF, no more caring about your legacy or how you lived. You won't have the capacity to care nor remember any of this. In all honestly when I look back at my life did I ever truly live? Was there ever a decision I made for myself to want to live? No. I'm but a shell of a man who never was. Might as well end it the same way it began.

 

[StarDust]

We were never really here to begin with. If all we will have after death is eternal oblivion and the only assurance we get that we were here is through other people's memories then does it truly matter? My body, my ego wants to yes but my rational self tells me the void is all we have ever had. As soon as your dead, POOF, no more caring about your legacy or how you lived. You won't have the capacity to care nor remember any of this. In all honestly when I look back at my life did I ever truly live? Was there ever a decision I made for myself to want to live? No. I'm but a shell of a man who never was. Might as well end it the same way it began.

It does not because memories fade, they are designed that way.

So in essence I agree with you. We are noting but stardust in the end, some happenstance of the universe.

 

[SnowyDreams]

I don't want to be remembered. I wish I could erase myself from any memories.

 

[Lightsout]

How about not at all? Ideally, it would be like I never even existed.

 

[lv-gras]

As a good friend. Even that is optional. Being quickly forgotten is fine too.

personally have found you to be kind