Help how to tell someone you have eating disorder?

[angeldevil]

after a while of thinking im 99% sure that i have anorexia. i want to tell my boyfriend about it but i feel like he'll just see me differently or as a wreck after that and im so scared of that happening. and i dont even know how to tell him. i kinda feel like he knows already or at least suspects it because when we last time saw each other i was pretty much avoiding food and said i wasn't hungry even tho i hadn't ate in many hours and he definitely knew i was actually hungry. any help n advice appreciated<3

 

[BringMeToLife]

He's your boyfriend, so I think he should understand. You're guessing he already knows, so it should be easier for him to accept it. He had time to think about it and reflect.

I would just tell him, vocally or by letter, text message. You could tell him what you expect from him in this matter - maybe some help and support?

 

[fallenangel444]

the first thing you can do is open up to people you loved or close i have an ed too i used to be an anorexia i told my mom about it shes fine with it shes supporting me to be more better im on recovery now but you have to make sure is your boyfriend ok with that or atleast make sure youll be fine you could try by telling him youre losing you appetite to eat im pretty sure he will understand you

 

[SoftWorries]

As someone who had an eating disorder for most of my life (bulimia and anorexic tendencies since 9 now in recovery) and partners in-between I have some advice for you

If you tell them you make it their issue. They will probably become very focused on what you eat and don't eat. They will also feel powerless if the disorder wins out. I don't suggest seeking out understanding or acceptance from someone who doesn't have an eating disorder. Their entire focus concerning it will be to help you get better and this can be a lot of pressure

l would suggest seeking treatment and let him know that once you've found some. After that if he becomes concerned you can tell him that you appreciate it but the things you're eating or not eating are being negotiated as part of your treatment

 

[iamalreadydead]

had a boyfriend who knew about my ed and we kind of made a joke/meme of it between eachother and our friend group. It's worth it so you can be open about what you're feeling but there were times where he genuinely frustrated me, yelled at me when I didn't want to eat his mothers cooking and shit. People honestly don't really care until it becomes personal/their problem. My parents use it against me constantly. If you trust the guy then I'd say just go for it