How to stop thinking about suicide

[miker]

How do I stop thinking about suicide so often? I can't seem to stop. Or can you just accept it?

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Can you answer the question why you wanna die? The answer (and the solution of that) is the key to stop thinking about suicide.

Or in other words: What makes you suicidal?

 

[miker]

Can you answer the question why you wanna die? The answer (and the solution of that) is the key to stop thinking about suicide.

Or in other words: What makes you suicidal?

Thanks. I just struggle at modern life. I've spent decades trying to get better but everything has failed.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'd recommend posting this in the 'Recovery Section' in addition- members over there likely do more to supress their suicidal thoughts. I'd hazzard a guess that a lot of members on this page tend to revel in them!

I suppose you could have a bash through logic. As in- these thoughts aren't helping me. Presumably, you want rid of them because you can't or, don't want to act on them? So- a kind of- this has become an addiction that isn't healthy for me and that I need to stop.

I did actually manage to cure myself of limerence years ago. I used to have extremely obsessive crushes on people. I managed to eventually see them for what they were, recognise that they were really screwing me up and, stop them. I think it's possible but, I think you need to really want to stop.

 

[miker]

I'd recommend posting this in the 'Recovery Section' in addition- members over there likely do more to supress their suicidal thoughts. I'd hazzard a guess that a lot of members on this page tend to revel in them!

I suppose you could have a bash through logic. As in- these thoughts aren't helping me. Presumably, you want rid of them because you can't or, don't want to act on them? So- a kind of- this has become an addiction that isn't healthy for me and that I need to stop.

I did actually manage to cure myself of limerence years ago. I used to have extremely obsessive crushes on people. I managed to eventually see them for what they were, recognise that they were really screwing me up and, stop them. I think it's possible but, I think you need to really want to stop.

I have also been thinking of just accepting my suicidal nature.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I have also been thinking of just accepting my suicidal nature.

I think passive ideation can be a comfort to many of us. That feeling that if things get too much, we can just leave. I imagine without that choice, people can weirdly feel more frightened and trapped here.

Maybe the bigger question is- Why are you looking to banish these thoughts? Do they impact your life negatively? In what way?

 

[Electra]

I think passive ideation can be a comfort to many of us. That feeling that if things get too much, we can just leave.

That's how I feel. Suicide thoughts are calming for me. It's like I know that I shouldn't take life too seriously, I'm not making it out alive either way lol

 

[miker]

That's how I feel. Suicide thoughts are calming for me. It's like I know that I shouldn't take life too seriously, I'm not making it out alive either way lol

How does it become calming

 

[Electra]

How does it become calming

If you wait long enough - you'll find out on your own lol

 

[miker]

If you wait long enough - you'll find out on your own lol

It would be calming if I did it

 

[Electra]

It would be calming if I did it

That's a whole different level of calming lol. But for me, it just reminds that nothing is permanent. And how quickly it can all end.
Edit: wrong word used

 

[plan c]

How does it become calming

It could be that ur ideations about suicide is implicitly a way to cope with your depression/anxiety temporarily. Your latent emotions have to find a way out even if u might be unaware, analogous (no judgement intended) to probably how babies cry when they don't know how to express hunger/thirst.

Also, Im no doctor, but if u're struggling with suicidal ideations a doctor would claim that u're depression-ridden. This could make many (like me) subconsciously believe that it's an entirely bad thing thinking about death. And in the past i often judge myself when ideations come up. but it boils down to a manifest of a mental crisis and is a defense being deployed, like how fever counters infection and how ppl don't judge fever

 

[miker]

It could be that ur ideations about suicide is implicitly a way to cope with your depression/anxiety temporarily. Your latent emotions have to find a way out even if u might be unaware, analogous (no judgement intended) to probably how babies cry when they don't know how to express hunger/thirst.

Also, Im no doctor, but if u're struggling with suicidal ideations a doctor would claim that u're depression-ridden. This could make many (like me) subconsciously believe that it's an entirely bad thing thinking about death. And in the past i often judge myself when ideations come up.

Good points

 

[plan c]

I'm glad ur helped a bit ~ don't mind me if i sounded too seriously vmv

 

[miker]

Good points

What is plan c

 

[plan c]

if u want any advice... well perhaps u don't wanna fight ur inner voices? Maybe it means sth else by "I want to die"

 

[miker]

if u want any advice... well perhaps u don't wanna fight ur inner voices? Maybe it means sth else by "I want to die"

I think it means I can't go on

 

[plan c]

What is plan c

"my last resort". A way out i always think of. (no longer judge myself for that)

I think it means I can't go on

feel and not judge, if u could spend time talking to urself (both literally and figuratively) about death, everything u say will justify itself

 

[Rynalia]

Some random person in the real would probably say to you, "have you tried just not thinking about it?"

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Some people stop thinking about it by doing it (read: ctb)

Some people stop thinking about it by working out their problems and finding solutions to get them back into a workable state.

Some people stop thinking about it by keeping their death close to them. Knowing that it is nearby (and making peace with your death) as a safety net may sometimes reduce the frequency when you hyper focus on it... However it might also backfire in such a way that anything that sets you off goes from 0 to 11 in a heartbeat.

Of course there are many more ways people deal with it, but it really depends on your relationship with your life. How much more are you willing to give to get better, or are you tired and just want it to end?

 

[singingcrow]

even when I have happy moments my mind can't help but still go to a dark place. I don't know how to stop thinking about it either

 

[StarryEyed]

I can so relate to your posts here.

The reason I joined this forum last year was precisely because I wanted to once and for all decide whether or not to commit suicide, because the ambivalence about whether or not I should commit suicide had been driving me crazy for decades - going around and around and around my head and heart. I got helped here in a lot of ways in making my decision, including what you´re saying here - to determine why you are suicidal. I determined that in the thread asking you answer that question in three words. So I came up with three reasons. I decided to focus on those three reasons, hoping that that would put to rest the suicidal thinking. I left the forum and worked on that the past year. It's gotten a lot better in thinking about suicide, but my situation has also gotten a lot worse. But I'm still focused on those three reasons and it helps to lessen some of the food for suicidal thought.

I think it's like others say here too, that it's just a part of our thinking pattern. It's an escape valve. I don't mean to minimise the reality of suicidal thinking or suicidal feelings. On the contrary, I'm saying it's just part of who we are. I think once we've travelled down that scary, treacherous path into the suicidal abyss, that it is hard to erase the knowledge that that path is very real, and that that path is indeed an alternate route in our reality towards another reality. Whatever that other reality may be no one knows for sure. But we know for sure that we can and eventually will leave this world.

It's like we found a key in this reality to another reality. The key is like a portal to that other reality. Suicide is the key.

 

[burneverybridge]

It's all consuming for most. I don't think I WANT to stop thinking about it because it's the only comfort I have. What else am I gonna think about? How to make myself a better person? Those days are long gone.

 

[StarryEyed]

Yeah, I'm done with being a better person too. I'm sick and tired of just not being good enough according to others and even myself. I'm heading more and more into acceptance of being ridiculously far from perfect, including ruminating about suicide. There's always a critic inside and in the world. In fact, I'm going to try to even accept the critics!