Discussion How to say goodbye?

[bajanpescadorabioso]

I'm preparing for SN, it seems the least worst thing for a Brazilian, but the hardest part is deciding how to comfort loved ones. I'd like to hear about some of your experiences, advice, or just a chat. How hard is it? What do you do to make it easier? Does anyone try to make people understand you?

I try to make someone who is very important to me understand me a little, but I feel that it hurts them because they can't help me and I feel extremely guilty about it, I don't know how to avoid it, unfortunately I'm very honest with people.

 

[strangelife]

This is the most difficult part of the process that still keeps me here. I think that you need to spend time with each of your loved ones, tell them a little about your problems and experiences and, most importantly, tell them how much you love them and that they are not at all to blame for your difficulties. The main thing is for them to know that their fault is missing

 

[bajanpescadorabioso]

This is the most difficult part of the process that still keeps me here. I think that you need to spend time with each of your loved ones, tell them a little about your problems and experiences and, most importantly, tell them how much you love them and that they are not at all to blame for your difficulties. The main thing is for them to know that their fault is missing

It's also the only thing that keeps me here, the idea of hurting someone and causing them pain terrifies me to such a degree that I'd rather put up with the agony of my day-to-day life, but it's gotten to the point where I can't take it anymore and I wanted to say goodbye in the best way. It's been very difficult.

 

[strangelife]

It's also the only thing that keeps me here, the idea of hurting someone and causing them pain terrifies me to such a degree that I'd rather put up with the agony of my day-to-day life, but it's gotten to the point where I can't take it anymore and I wanted to say goodbye in the best way. It's been very difficult.

First of all, I think about my son, he is 13 years old and we still wanted to do so much together, but my illness changes everything, I did not expect that at such an early age everything could turn out this way.

 

[Alexei_Kirillov]

It's also the only thing that keeps me here, the idea of hurting someone and causing them pain terrifies me to such a degree that I'd rather put up with the agony of my day-to-day life, but it's gotten to the point where I can't take it anymore and I wanted to say goodbye in the best way. It's been very difficult.

This is something I've been thinking about lately too, how I wished that before my attempt I had been able to tell my family what was going on and have a proper send off, but I know that if I did that, they would just freak out. Unfortunately, due to the intense pro-life bias that most people have, trying to have a meaningful goodbye before CTB'ing is nearly impossible.

As others have said, the only thing you can probably do is just to spend some time with them and at least make their last memories with you beautiful. Be careful with this though because if you are someone who's naturally "very honest with people," as you wrote, then the more time you spend around them, the higher the chances are that they'll figure out that something's wrong and intervene.

Boa sorte <3

 

[bajanpescadorabioso]

First of all, I think about my son, he is 13 years old and we still wanted to do so much together, but my illness changes everything, I did not expect that at such an early age everything could turn out this way.

My grandfather, the only person close to me, left when I was almost eighteen. I still feel very sad because he didn't leave me a letter, he didn't say goodbye, he didn't say anything, I couldn't understand his motives. Nowadays I understand him a little, it's really hard to say goodbye, but I wish he had been honest with me about his feelings. I hope he's in a good place and that I can meet him again when I can say goodbye to those who are alive.

This is something I've been thinking about lately too, how I wished that before my attempt I had been able to tell my family what was going on and have a proper send off, but I know that if I did that, they would just freak out. Unfortunately, due to the intense pro-life bias that most people have, trying to have a meaningful goodbye before CTB'ing is nearly impossible.

As others have said, the only thing you can probably do is just to spend some time with them and at least make their last memories with you beautiful. Be careful with this though because if you are someone who's naturally "very honest with people," as you wrote, then the more time you spend around them, the higher the chances are that they'll figure out that something's wrong and intervene.

Boa sorte <3

I'll try to hide my pain and make my last days better for everyone. Thanks for the advice, I think the need to be truthful with people is what makes it hardest for me to go.

Muito obrigada <3

 

[Polonium220]

In my case I'll just be leaving a text message to those I think will care that I'm gone.

 

[theboy]

leaving a letter

 

[bajanpescadorabioso]

In my case I'll just be leaving a text message to those I think will care that I'm gone.

A while ago, when I was aiming for some more painful methods, I tried this. I sent messages to the most important person in my life, trying to warn him (since he would be the one to find me) and explaining how important he was to me. It was very difficult, because, having done it all in "desperation", I started to cry and thought that this farewell wasn't enough for a person who had always been by my side, basically ending the day with the person at my house trying to soften the blow. Next time I hope to do better, or at least feel that I've said goodbye in the right way.