Help How to Quit Porn

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I have been trying to quit porn for years. I know it's bad and it's extremely harmful. I notice the way it affects me. Despite all that, I can't seem to put it down. I know it's bad for me, but it feels like no matter what I do or how hard I try I always come back to it. I know and understand that I use it to fill a void in my heart, and I know that I need to feel that void in order to quit. Fill it with something healthier and better. I've tried picking up the acoustic guitar, reading, and have been focusing more on my grades. I've tried making friends even it's just online. I just don't know what to do and if it's even possible to fill this void in my heart.

Is there anything else I can do? What can I do to finally quit?

 

[Deleted member 8119]

If you have accounts on those sites, deleting them would probably help. Another thing that seems to work is creating a blocklist for those sites so you can't access them. This requires your cooperation, of course.

 

[allthatimsaying]

Also, try to create goals. Today I won't watch porn. This week I won't watch porn (It's better if you start on a Monday or Sunday, but any day will do). Better late than never.

Also, join those No Fap subreddits. They also post a lot of useful information there.

 

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If you have accounts on those sites, deleting them would probably help. Another thing that seems to work is creating a blocklist for those sites so you can't access them. This requires your cooperation, of course.

Thank you for the advice. Luckily I don't have any accounts on any website. I will try creating a blocklist. I just figured out how to do it on my phone.

Also, try to create goals. Today I won't watch porn. This week I won't watch porn (It's better if you start on a Monday or Sunday, but any day will do). Better late than never.

Also, join those No Fap subreddits. They also post a lot of useful information there.

I have been trying to create goals. The hard part if actually just focusing on them and getting myself to do them, or work on them. I've tried to do the whole "Today I won't watch porn" thing, but every time I fail, I feel ten times worse than if I never even set that goal to begin with. About those NoFap subreddits, I'm a bit skeptical. I would most likely get addicted, and getting addicted to not fapping (or consuming pornography) doesn't sound a whole lot better than being addicted to fapping. I'll still check it out though.

 

[MerryGoDown]

Heyy!! Best of luck on your journey!!! I hope it works out for you
Seems like there are quite a few threads out there that talk ab porn and other addictions on here. I don't have any advice I can really give except say that I sympathize with you having gone through something similar

You got this!! Super freaking Majestic Royal

 

[Katdogg]

There is a forum for people trying to quit porn. It might help you to be in an online community of people also struggling with the same thing.

Porn can be so addictive and consuming. It can really twist your thoughts. Especially if you are alone.

You are asking for help. Thats a good start.
I believe the forum is called "NoFap" .

 

[SadLad]

Recognise that many people in involved in porn have suffered in the exact same way we have. Drug addiction and mental health issues are rife in the industry. It's DARK. Watching these videos inadvertently supports the mistreatment of women and the cycle continues. Hopefully you can find the strength to quit. NoFap, RebootNation are good websites, there's plenty of Reddit pages dedicated to quilting.

 

[kavina]

I commend you for trying And wanting to try when so many people don't. You see the harm and feel it, but they get you through our drives that are so fundamental to being human, and they eat us up with this whole manufactured thought process dictating what should turn us on, and it is classical conditioning. You can be trained into it and trained out of it. Your mind is able to learn and change, there is a way out. I think start with what you think turned you on before porn came along, what is your authentic self, your authentic, untouched and untampered with self. Your sexuality doesn't have to be enslaved by or created by porn. So who are you deep down.. what do you like and love?
I don't think you will be addicted to Nofap…and is not masterbating your goal or just not using porn? You are not porn, and porn is Not sex. It's control over you to make money for them. You are much more than just your sex drive.

 

[anagram]

From what I know, to truly quit your mind needs a massive shift. Switching your mind from short term thought to long term thought. Watching porn and jerking off in the short term will make you feel good but in the long term it's a distraction from something deeper you're trying to avoid.

My approach would be to sit with nothing and stare at a wall and perhaps meditate on them desires. I would take an extreme approach like this.

The issue is rooted deeper and something in myself is unresolved that's what I would think to myself.

I would think about how degrading it is to see women portrayed as just objects of pleasure in porn and how that would skew my perception of women.

Honestly the mindset of going meta and zooming out from the patterns of your mind is apart of the solution.

 

[kavina]

connect fundamentally with your humanity and remember that men and woman have feelings and are people and not things, not objects, we have souls and vast minds. Try to always think of the women you see as full people just like men. That tends to disrupt the ability to use them for masturbation. We use people when we don't care, and when we diminish their value. It's harder to use someone when you think of them as a human being Worthy of respect and dignity. You create your own dignity in seeing others that way too.

 

[SexyIncél]

It can be a multi-stage process. Things that don't work at one stage, might work at a later stage

How I think of porn: gives me erotic ideas, for performing to increase people's pleasure & decrease suffering. For example, probably 60% of gals desire sexual explorations of hierarchy

You might prefer porn in comics form. It abstracts from reality, doesn't use actors, and can explore plots that are unfeasible with actors

 

[Linda]

Do you have a girlfriend? Having a partner can fill a lot of gaps. If you use porn only occasionally, I wouldn't worry about that, even if you can't stop yourself using it occasionally. It's really only a problem if it starts to take over a large part of your life.