Help How to overcome the pity on left behind family members

[KillingPain267]

I have very little hate, even towards those who hurt me, so I could never do ctb as revenge. Yet I am in deep pain and daily despair from being hurt, and it doesn't seem to heal, so I really desire a way out. It's just, family members have already expressed how much it would hurt them if I leave, and I have lots of empathy (in fact, it hurts me even more and makes me even more wanna leave due to pain from thinking about it).

How can I get over this?

 

[InHerPockets]

I feel your pain. Empathy is a difficult nut to crack.

Best way to get through it in my experience is to remind yourself that your feelings are valid, and your wishes regarding your life and how it ends deserve to be observed and respected.

I am of the belief that we all have the right to life, and the right to death. Whatever empathy and understanding I express to the people in this forum, I try to also extend to myself.

The pain you feel right now is just as tangible and valid as what others would be feeling in their grief. Your pain matters, and your decision to end that pain matters too.

Best wishes for your peace.

 

[LaughingGoat]

This could absolutely be a terrible/unrealistic idea without knowing someone else's situation and relationships, but I have had the thought of sitting down with a close family member and letting them know I plan to die in a year and want to have a year of celebration till that time. Basically, do things you have enjoyed or travel, spend time with them, etc. Obviously, in some people's situation they would just get reported and committed so you would have to know it's a viable conversation to have, maybe work up towards it and even then it would be taking a risk.