How to deal with major insecruity from never having a job

[FireFox]

I am 22 and never had a paying job and i have major insecruity because of it. I am embrassed to tell people i never had a job.

On twitter , online newspapers , online forums like mumsnet etc i would see comments making fun or criticising people who never worked in their teens or early twenties. The comments would say things like "i will never hire someone who never worked in teens or at uni", "your previleged if you never had a job", "your lazy"

My family never pushed me in to working. My family believe in education is more important

I know people who have worked since they were 16 . I am jealous of them because they can cope with being in the workplace whereas i cant.

I have major insecruity because i feel immature for never working. I feel like a loser. Real adults work i am not being one.

I am scared if do get a job i wont be able to cope and fear being needy. I have not got a working history so i fear emplouyers dont want me.

I feel like the only one who never had a job my age.

I applied for jobs in supermarkets, retail etc and i get rejected. I feel like there is something wrong with me. If the supermarkets dont want me then i cant get hired anywhere.

I done voluntary work at uni but it went badly. My role is advise people on their problems regarding debt, employment issues, housing. I was awful at advising. People would walk away from me ad i was poor at advising, i was needy always asking for help.

I did get offerd a job as youth worker in a church but turned it down due fear of messing up again and being needy.

I am on welfare is so embrassing.

I am jealous of people who work because they have something to go to in the mornings whearas i have nothing to look forward to.

A job gives you a purpose, makes you feel needed

Enough about me .

How deal with major insecruity from never having a job?

 

[InTheAirTonight]

I'm 23 just started a new career and my life is worse and more depressing then ever. I had a better time in college even if it was more stressful. A job doesn't give you a sense of purpose. That has to come from within.
My job just reminds me I'm a small cog in this fucked up capitalist society. I could die tomorrow and be replaced given a couple months.

 

[Walilamdzi]

I'm 23 and have only ever had jobs in shops and things aren't looking great for me at the minute. I had to drop out of my degree due to my mental health issues.

 

[FireFox]

I'm 23 just started a new career and my life is worse and more depressing then ever. I had a better time in college even if it was more stressful. A job doesn't give you a sense of purpose. That has to come from within.
My job just reminds me I'm a small cog in this fucked up capitalist society. I could die tomorrow and be replaced given a couple months.

It feel like i dont belong anywhere since gradauting university.
I was student now i am nothing.
I have nothing to live for or look forward to since graduating.

 

[last_tour]

Im terrified of interviews. Everyone of them were a bad experience for me and I got rejected each time because im really bad at communicating. So i went the self-employment route but its just as bad or even worse since you still have to find your own clients and interact with hem (like going to an interview everytime). I don't think i would be able to hold a job even if I had one though. Having to commute (no car), getting along with people you don't really like,also a germaphobe, don't think i would last very long.

 

[mote]

I'm almost 24 and I've had one for a few months, and a bunch of others I quit within a day. The sheer repetition day in and out and the notion you're supposed to stay at the same job for years makes me feel so claustrophobic? That's the only way I can explain it. I also hate that you're just making money for someone else, essentially. Then you pay about 75% you "make" to other people anyway.
I couldn't afford to go to college. All of this is a huge reason I want to die too. I don't know how people do it.
If I were rich enough I'd try academia/research. But I guess I was born a 'peasant'.

 

[NothingElseMatters]

You are far tpp young. I was 26 when I found my first job.

 

[FireFox]

You are far tpp young. I was 26 when I found my first job.

That is interesting to hear . I know so it so common for people to work in thier late teens or at college.

I used to feel there is something wrong with me in never having a job.

What was your first job in and how did you get it.

 

[GoneGoneGone]

This is all relative depending on which Uni you went to, and what work opportunities are in your area. Your question is double-sided though.

1.On the one hand it seems that mostly you are lacking a sense of identity and purpose that came to a halt after you graduated. Here I would advise you to look at jobs that make you fulfilled. Needing people around you might not be something bad, you could be part of a team etc. Are you an extrovert? Working in sales would be great then.
2. Once you decide which type of job you prefer, then you can be more selective concerning how you divide your job hunting resources (time, expertise etc.). If you are convinced that lack of previous employment is the issue why you aren't being called back, then work on your CV. Surely you can mark one summer as having worked for the family business. You can just invent a name and give yourself a title. I once saw what I thought was a stellar CV from an academic only to discover years later that the "industry" experience they had of 4 years was their parents' family business. If you have the finances, sign up for an internship in an area that really interests you. What was your major in college?

best of luck, you are young

 

[FireFox]

This is all relative depending on which Uni you went to, and what work opportunities are in your area. Your question is double-sided though.

1.On the one hand it seems that mostly you are lacking a sense of identity and purpose that came to a halt after you graduated. Here I would advise you to look at jobs that make you fulfilled. Needing people around you might not be something bad, you could be part of a team etc. Are you an extrovert? Working in sales would be great then.
2. Once you decide which type of job you prefer, then you can be more selective concerning how you divide your job hunting resources (time, expertise etc.). If you are convinced that lack of previous employment is the issue why you aren't being called back, then work on your CV. Surely you can mark one summer as having worked for the family business. You can just invent a name and give yourself a title. I once saw what I thought was a stellar CV from an academic only to discover years later that the "industry" experience they had of 4 years was their parents' family business. If you have the finances, sign up for an internship in an area that really interests you. What was your major in college?

best of luck, you are young

I studied law at uni but gradually lost interest.

A law degree in the UK does not make you a lawyer in the UK..you need to complete a training contract and more exams. A training contract is extremely difficult to get due to limited places.

I have a normal degree.

This is all relative depending on which Uni you went to, and what work opportunities are in your area. Your question is double-sided though.

1.On the one hand it seems that mostly you are lacking a sense of identity and purpose that came to a halt after you graduated. Here I would advise you to look at jobs that make you fulfilled. Needing people around you might not be something bad, you could be part of a team etc. Are you an extrovert? Working in sales would be great then.
2. Once you decide which type of job you prefer, then you can be more selective concerning how you divide your job hunting resources (time, expertise etc.). If you are convinced that lack of previous employment is the issue why you aren't being called back, then work on your CV. Surely you can mark one summer as having worked for the family business. You can just invent a name and give yourself a title. I once saw what I thought was a stellar CV from an academic only to discover years later that the "industry" experience they had of 4 years was their parents' family business. If you have the finances, sign up for an internship in an area that really interests you. What was your major in college?

best of luck, you are young

The issue is i apply but never get a response.

 

[GoneGoneGone]

I studied law at uni but gradually lost interest.

A law degree in the UK does not make you a lawyer in the UK..you need to complete a training contract and more exams. A training contract is extremely difficult to get due to limited places.

I have a normal degree.

Cool, I understand. What are your passions, what are things that interest you even if in theory you require a qualification for that? What do you like to do in your spare time?

Having a job at a supermarket will probably be engaging for a couple of weeks, and then become hectic due to its repetitive nature. People are happy when they get to be paid for something that they actually enjoy doing.

 

[FireFox]

Cool, I understand. What are your passions, what are things that interest you even if in theory you require a qualification for that? What do you like to do in your spare time?

Having a job at a supermarket will probably be engaging for a couple of weeks, and then become hectic due to its repetitive nature. People are happy when they get to be paid for something that they actually enjoy doing.

My interests are politics, i have a growing interest in cyber secruity ,

 

[qwerty32]

As of now getting a job is hard due to the lockdowns of the corona virus. So most of everyone is in your situation. For now, just look up places.
If you have friends or know anyone for connections, that's also a good place.

 

[felix]

I haven't worked since I was 19. I'm now 23

 

[GoneGoneGone]

My interests are politics, i have a growing interest in cyber secruity ,

I forgot to ask, male/ female/ non-binary?
Is there any topic that would give you enough material to make a YouTube channel?
Indeed the pandemic can be an advantage, there are tons of online courses from top schools, so you can get various certifications.
It's really funny cause this is what I do in my real life, HR

 

[Mr2005]

33 and never had a job. I have you all beat

 

[Lethe]

Yeah I'm 25, almost 26, and never had one. Don't have any interest in getting one either.

 

[felix]

33 and never had a job. I have you all beat

How do u survive?

 

[DeathNoot]

I'm 24, same boat. Didn't even go to university either. Feels bad.

 

[felix]

Yeah I'm 25, almost 26, and never had one. Don't have any interest in getting one either.

How do u survive?

 

[Lethe]

How do u survive?

I live with my grandparents-- they're retired and wealthy. This obviously isn't an option for everyone unfortunately.

 

[Fish Face]

Im terrified of interviews. Everyone of them were a bad experience for me and I got rejected each time because im really bad at communicating. So i went the self-employment route but its just as bad or even worse since you still have to find your own clients and interact with hem (like going to an interview everytime). I don't think i would be able to hold a job even if I had one though. Having to commute (no car), getting along with people you don't really like,also a germaphobe, don't think i would last very long.

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Im terrified of interviews. Everyone of them were a bad experience for me and I got rejected each time because im really bad at communicating. So i went the self-employment route but its just as bad or even worse since you still have to find your own clients and interact with hem (like going to an interview everytime). I don't think i would be able to hold a job even if I had one though. Having to commute (no car), getting along with people you don't really like,also a germaphobe, don't think i would last very long.

I am also terrified of interviews, even applying. They taught you stuff at school you forgot immediately but never how to sell yourself. I came from a small town in England with no employment help services. As a very naturally thin, short girl I couldn't get anything. My parents still live in the 1970s and think jobs are there for the taking and always made me feel bad for not being able to get them. If I show any confidence in anything I do I am sneared at for arrogance.

 

[epic]

You could try online freelancing. On a site like upwork. https://www.upwork.com/

 

[Deleted member 17331]

I'm 18, I don't work and I know I never will.

I don't have the strength to deal with people (I can't communicate / express the way I want to), my psychological is very fragile.

I no longer have the strength to leave the house, my body hurts so much (fibromyalgia, perhaps?) that it makes me struggle to stand up for a long time (and I don't have any help, because public health is chaos in my country).

I don't have a desirable curriculum, as I gave up all the courses I took.

My concentration is terrible.

I'm doped. I'm a failure, I'm tired.

 

[AnnonyBox]

I'm 23 just started a new career and my life is worse and more depressing then ever. I had a better time in college even if it was more stressful. A job doesn't give you a sense of purpose. That has to come from within.
My job just reminds me I'm a small cog in this fucked up capitalist society. I could die tomorrow and be replaced given a couple months.

This exactly.

 

[Mr2005]

How do u survive?

By being a benefits scrounger. I try to make up for it in other ways

 

[FireFox]

I forgot to ask, male/ female/ non-binary?
Is there any topic that would give you enough material to make a YouTube channel?
Indeed the pandemic can be an advantage, there are tons of online courses from top schools, so you can get various certifications.
It's really funny cause this is what I do in my real life, HR

Female

33 and never had a job. I have you all beat

Why if you dont mind me asking?

I'm 18, I don't work and I know I never will.

I don't have the strength to deal with people (I can't communicate / express the way I want to), my psychological is very fragile.

I no longer have the strength to leave the house, my body hurts so much (fibromyalgia, perhaps?) that it makes me struggle to stand up for a long time (and I don't have any help, because public health is chaos in my country).

I don't have a desirable curriculum, as I gave up all the courses I took.

My concentration is terrible.

I'm doped. I'm a failure, I'm tired.

What courses did you take

I live in the UK and its crazy here. Where do you live

By being a benefits scrounger. I try to make up for it in other ways

I live in the UK and on universal credit.

The best thing about being on benefits is no one knows you are on benefits as it is all online. I heard that in the olden days people would sign on in the post office

I dont tell anyone i am on benefits as i am ashamed and i hope one day i can forget i was ever was on benefits.

I ashamed because i feel like a failure

I hope one day i can forget i was sucidal and being on welfare

I'm 24, same boat. Didn't even go to university either. Feels bad.

You can go to uni at any age. What interests you

In my uni classes there were people who were in thier 30s, there was elderly woman as well as a mix of people in teens and 20s

 

[mediocre]

I am 27 and I feel tremendous guilt for never having worked. I am not the employable type because I have aspergers, voice issues, problems concentrating etc. I only have a high school education too. But I still feel very bad for having to rely on government assistance. I would love to have a part time job at some point and make money online selling my art. That is my dream. I've always felt stuck. I don't want to be this way. I am independent minded but not in action.

 

[WhatIsMyLife]

It's nothing to be embarrassed about.

Have you tried volunteering for a charity of some sort? Maybe sorting donations out at a thrift shop? This looks good on your resume when you want to apply at a retail department store, or for a supermarket. Plus if you do a good job they'll give you a good reference.

 

[FireFox]

It's nothing to be embarrassed about.

Have you tried volunteering for a charity of some sort? Maybe sorting donations out at a thrift shop? This looks good on your resume when you want to apply at a retail department store, or for a supermarket. Plus if you do a good job they'll give you a good reference.

I apply for jobs but never get a response.
Getting rejected for retail is the worst because we are always told it is easy to get a job in retail
For me the job descrpition puts me off applying . When i read the job descrpition i feel like i am incompetent and not good enough to do the job